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Steve O’Connor hosts special guest Casey Allison, founder of Come Awake Coaching and Consulting.

Casey is a Master Certified Coach through ICF, an APSATS-certified Partner Coach, a Certified Disclosure Guide through Kintsugi Recovery Partners, a PSAP through IITAP, and a Brainspotting practitioner. She also has training in the perinatal period with betrayed women, and additional training to support partners of sex addicts who have criminally sexually offended, whether they’ve been charged or not. She holds many other trainings and certifications as well.

Casey shares how discovering her husband’s secret sexual life led her, after years of ineffective help and multiple practitioners, to find betrayal-trauma-informed support and eventually serve women navigating betrayal, pregnancy/new motherhood, and cases involving sexual offending. They discuss how uninformed resources can harm partners by blaming them, and share indicators of good support: prioritizing safety and stabilization, validating grief and anger, and aiming for post-traumatic growth rather than “going back.”

They emphasize the importance of truth and a collaborative Full Disclosure, including the Partner Impact Statement and Emotional Restitution letter, to restore mutuality, reduce shame, and foster empathy.

Casey shares about her Catholic women’s Facebook group and her coaching groups, and offers hope that healing is possible. Tune in and share!

Time Stamps:
Show Intro
01:13 Saint of the Day Reflection - St. John Baptist de LaSalle as a model of radical surrender
03:25 Meet Casey Allison
04:56 Casey's Story and Calling
08:13 Finding Trauma Informed Help
11:51 Safety, Stabilization, Grief, Anger and Growth
14:24 Why Full Disclosure Matters
17:21 Team Based Disclosure Support
22:04 Power, Control and Mutuality
25:06 Impact and Restitution Letters
29:47 Catholic Women Facebook Community
33:41 Casey Groups and Programs
38:29 Closing Hope and Next Steps

Links for Casey:

Free initial consultation: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/packages_4.html

Support groups: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/community.html

Workshops and Events: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/promotions.html

Digital Resources: https://comeawakeresources.company.site/

Released to Heal Group (starting April 15th): https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/released-to-heal-support-group.html

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Steve sits down with Michael McBee for an inspirational conversation on hitting rock bottom, getting into recovery, finding God and helping his wife heal from betrayal trauma.

Raised in Ohio, Michael was an accomplished student and athlete, while struggling for years to find freedom from his sexual addiction. This led to a life marked by unhealthy sexual behaviors, overindulgence, and selfishness. After hitting rock bottom, Michael entered recovery through a national 12-Step program. He earned his certification as a Life Coach and Sex Addiction Life Coach through the Addictions Academy. Michael is an experienced leader of TSH Freedom Groups, leads men through the 90-Day Recovery Program, and leads our online 12-Step groups. He has been married to his wife, Sarah, since 2019.

Find a Men's Group at https://www.theresstillhope.org and ask for Michael!

Books Michael mentioned:

Fulfilling the Ultimate Quest - link

The Love Dare - link

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What happens when the very thing you're most ashamed of is also the thing keeping you from the love you most desperately need? In this episode, we sit down with Joshua Urrutia, MS, LPC-Associate and ASAT Candidate, to talk about one of the most painful paradoxes at the heart of sexual addiction: the war between deep shame and the longing to be truly known, seen and loved. At the root of that war, more often than not, is an attachment wound that has never been named, never been healed, and has been quietly running the show for years.

Joshua brings both clinical expertise and personal experience to this conversation. He shares what he witnessed during his time in ministry and mission work, and how those experiences led him to specialize in compulsive sexual behavior. This is an honest, grounded, and hope-filled conversation for anyone in recovery, anyone loving someone in recovery, or anyone who has ever felt too broken to be seen.

In this episode we cover:

• Joshua's personal journey and why he became a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
• What intimacy disorder actually means and what it looks like in real life
• How early attachment wounds and attachment injuries lay the groundwork for compulsive sexual behavior later in life
• The painful cycle of shame, hiding, and compulsive behavior and why it is really a distorted scream for connection
• Why healing requires the opposite and what you can do to start healing

A note on attachment: You may hear the terms attachment theory and attachment injury in this conversation. Attachment theory, developed by psychiatrist John Bowlby, describes the deep human need for safe, reliable emotional bonds. First with caregivers, and later in adult relationships. When those bonds are broken, neglected, or never formed, an attachment injury occurs a: wound in the person's ability to trust, connect, and feel safe being truly known by another. For many men and women struggling with sexual addiction, compulsive behavior is not primarily about sex. It is about an unmet, often unconscious need for closeness and comfort that was rarely safely available. And for the betrayed spouse, the discovery of her partner's secret life is one of the most devastating attachment injuries an adult can experience: a rupture at the deepest level of relational trust.

About Joshua: Joshua Urrutia is a Licensed Professional Associate Counselor and ASAT Candidate (on his way to a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) with Intuitus Group in the Austin area in Texas. He holds a Master's in Counseling from Divine Mercy University, is EMDR trained.

🌐 Website: intuitus-group.com 📞 Phone: (512) 650-8018 📧 Email: joshua@intuitus-group.com

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In This Episode: Steve breaks down what process addiction actually is, why understanding it matters so much, 7 common mistakes that keep people stuck, and the tools that actually work including one most people completely underestimate.

What's covered:

• What process addiction is and how it's different from what most people think addiction means
• The neuroscience behind why behaviors can be just as addictive as substances
• Why "just stop" has never worked and the leaky roof and bucket that explains it perfectly
• 7 common mistakes people make in recovery
• The tools that create real, lasting change
• Why processing your emotions isn't optional and what happens when you don't

The 7 Mistakes We Cover

1. White-knuckling it alone
2. Removing the behavior without replacing the function
3. Not addressing the underlying issues
4. All-or-nothing thinking after a slip
5. Focusing only on stopping, not building a life worth living
6. Not getting professional help when you need it
7. Not building your support network before you need it

The Tools We Cover

• Phone calls — daily, multiple times a day, before crisis hits
• Journaling — finding patterns, slowing the urge cycle, writing through triggers in real time
• Physical movement — releasing what the body is holding
• Mindfulness/Present Moment/Awareness — learning to float through a wave without being destroyed by it
• Therapy/Coaching — translating what's underground into something you can actually work with
• Creative outlets — the healing power of creation vs. consumption
• Routine and structure — and the BLAST principle
• Opposite action — doing the counterintuitive thing that actually pulls you out

Key Takeaways

• Process addiction is real. It is not a character flaw or a willpower problem. It follows the same neural pathways as substance addiction.
• The behavior is a signal. Finding the fracture beneath the pain is where real recovery begins.
• You cannot willpower your way out of a process addiction. But you can connect your way through it.
• Every phone call, every journal entry, every honest conversation is building a new path through the forest. The more you take it, the clearer it gets.
• Recovery isn't just about what you're stopping. It's about what you're building.

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Welcome back Dr. Eddie Capparucci as we dive deep into his first book "Removing Your Shame Label: Learning to Embrace God's Love When You Don't Like Yourself." This episode explores why shame, not just the behavior itself, is the primary barrier keeping men trapped in problematic sexual behavior and addiction.

We dive into the first several chapters of the book and Steve asks Dr. Capparucci questions to dive into each chapter. Tune in as we talk about understanding how God sees us and removing your shame label. I highly recommend reading this book if you struggle with shame.

We open with the saint of the day, St. Scholastica (feast day February 10th), whose life embodies a powerful truth for recovery: "She was able to do more because she loved more." Real change doesn't come from trying harder, it comes from learning to love and be loved and channeling that appropriately.

About Dr. Eddie Capparucci: Dr. Eddie is a licensed therapist specializing in sexual addiction and problematic sexual behavior, author of multiple books including "Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction," and founder of the Inner Child Model for treatment.

Resources: "Removing Your Shame Label" available on Amazon here.

Email: innerchildmodel@gmail.com

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When outpatient therapy isn't enough, what comes next? In this essential episode, Gina Kaye joins us to discuss residential treatment for men facing extreme sexual addiction and intimacy disorders and why intensive, in-person care can be the turning point toward lasting recovery.

Gina brings a unique perspective as both a trained health educator and former pastor's wife, offering insights into how Begin Again Institute bridges clinical excellence with faith-based support. In a powerful and personal moment, Gina shares part of her own story and why she's dedicated her career to this often-stigmatized field. Whether you're struggling yourself, supporting a loved one, or simply wondering when "rock bottom" means it's time for more intensive help, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and a practical roadmap forward.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

• Gina's personal journey and what led her to dedicate her life to helping men and families affected by sexual addiction
• What residential treatment actually looks like
• Signs that outpatient therapy may not be sufficient and when to consider intensive care
• Who benefits most from in-person, immersive treatment programs
• How residential programs address betrayal trauma and support partners through their own healing journey
• The role of faith in clinical treatment settings
• First steps to take if you're considering residential treatment for yourself or a loved one

If you or someone you love is struggling with sexual addiction or betrayal trauma, help is available. Don't wait, reach out today.

LEARN MORE AND CONNECT WITH BEGIN AGAIN INSTITUTE:

Website: https://beginagaininstitute.com

Phone: (720) 702-4608

Gina's email: gina.kaye@bai.care

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In this powerful episode, Steve speaks with Maribel Laguna, founder of Cor Sacrum Counseling and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), for an honest conversation about pornography addiction, shame, and recovery from a Catholic perspective. Whether you're personally struggling with problematic sexual behavior or supporting someone who is, this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and a path forward rooted in faith and clinical expertise.

We explore three critical areas: shame reduction and why shame keeps people trapped in destructive cycles, cultural pain points that make men vulnerable to pornography in today's world, and why pornography use continues to rise despite its devastating impacts. Maribel shares insights from her clinical practice.

This conversation is compassionate, direct, and grounded in the reality that freedom is possible. If you've ever wondered why this struggle feels so impossible to overcome, or if you're searching for real answers beyond "just stop," this episode will meet you where you are and point you toward lasting healing. You're not alone, and there is hope.

Learn More & Connect with Maribel Laguna

-Maribel's Cor Sacrum Counseling Practice in Texas: https://www.corsacrumcounseling.com

-Email: info@corsacrumcounseling.com

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corsacrumcounseling

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In this powerful conversation, Jack Rigert joins the podcast to unpack St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body and its real-world impact on the battle with lust, shame, and sexual brokenness. Together, we explore not only what the Church teaches about the human person and how it can be lived by men and women struggling today.

Jack returned to the Catholic faith after twenty years away, sparked by profound encounters with Christ at his brother’s bedside and in the Eucharist. His journey reveals how shame isolates, how lust distorts desire, and how authentic love restores identity.

This episode goes beyond theory, addressing prevention, formation, and healing through the lens of Theology of the Body, discipleship, and lived conversion. Whether you’re fighting habitual sin, walking with someone who is, or seeking a deeper vision of love and the body, this conversation offers both truth and hope.

Learn More & Connect with Jack Rigert

-Claymore (Milites Christi Battle Plan) – formation for the spiritual battle
https://jp2renew.org/claymore/

-Become Who You Are Podcast
https://jp2renew.org/podcast/

-LoveEd – Catholic formation for parents, parishes, and educators
https://jp2renew.org/loveed/

Stolen Innocence – addressing the spiritual war on children and the family
https://jp2renew.org/stolen-innocence

-Book Jack Rigert for parish missions, retreats, and talks
https://jp2renew.org/jack-rigert

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