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Have you ever completely lost your cool with your kid and then spent the next hour feeling like the worst parent alive? Family therapist and author of The Perfect Parent Trap, Lisa Taylor, has spent 25 years sitting across from families in crisis — and what she'll tell you is that in almost every single case, the child is not the problem. In this deeply honest conversation, Danielle and Lisa get into the real reason the teenage years can feel less like raising a family and more like surviving one, and what you can do about it.

Lisa introduces her concept of "Heartprints" — the invisible imprints from our own childhood that quietly drive our reactions under stress. When your teenager slams a door or goes into full shutdown, the heat you feel rising in your chest? That's rarely about them. This conversation is warm, practical, and full of the kind of insights that will make you stop mid-scroll and think: oh, that's me.

In this episode:

• 0:00 Introduction
• 4:30 Why parenting feels unsolvable
• 9:00 Behaviour is information, not a problem to fix
• 12:00 What's happening in your teenager's brain
• 17:00 Heartprints: how your childhood drives your reactions
• 24:00 Does the inner work ever end?
• 29:00 When your kid completely shuts down
• 34:30 Parenting from fear vs love
• 39:00 Why taking things away doesn't work
• 43:30 Screens and the technology experiment
• 49:00 Spicy brains, blended families and unmet needs
• 53:00 Protecting your relationship through the teen years
• 57:00 Why repair is more powerful than perfection
• 1:01:00 The five fundamentals
• 1:04:30 Danielle's thinking points

Resources mentioned: The Perfect Parent Trap by Lisa Taylor — available at Amber Press, Amazon, Booktopia and good bookstores

Lisa's website: strengtheningfamiliesaustralia.com.au

Lisa on Instagram: @lisataylor.au

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bigstuffpod@gmail.com

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In this episode, Danielle sits down with double ARIA Award-winning musician, Elana Stone, to explore what it really means to build a sustainable creative life when the entire economic system has shifted underneath you.

Twenty years into a career what looks successful from the outside - international tours, collaborations with incredible artists, awards and recognition - Elana opens up about the gap between external achievement and internal reality.

They dive deep into the brutal economics of streaming (spoiler: you need over a million streams a month just to earn minimum wage), the necessity of doing "everything" as an independent artist, and why creative sustainability often means piecing together multiple revenue streams rather than chasing the singular dream of "making it."

But this conversation goes beyond industry economics.

Elana and Danielle discuss the ego death that comes from loss and parenting, the tension between what we think we're supposed to want and what actually sustains us, and why community music-making - like the choir Elana leads - creates the kind of resonance and flow that reminds us why we do creative work in the first place.

From Elizabeth Gilbert's "one hour a day" practice to the question of whose definition of success we're actually following, this episode asks: How do you stay the course as a creative when it's so unreliable and uncertain? And what will matter more than any award or recognition when you're looking back at 80?

00:00 - Introduction03:45 - The Gap Between Success and Reality13:15 - The Economics of Streaming: How Musicians Actually Earn24:30 - Working in the Cracks: Multiple Creative Streams31:45 - Ego Death and Redefining What Matters40:30 - Why Choir Matters: Flow, Resonance, and Community48:00 - Creative Practice: Elizabeth Gilbert's One Hour a Day59:30 - What's Next and Letting Go of Old Dreams62:15 - Final Question: What Will Matter at 80?

Books mentioned:

• Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
• Signature of All Things by Elizabeth Gilbert

You can find Elana's latest album tagged below, and find her at

IG: ⁠@elanastoneworld⁠

WWW: ⁠elanastone.com.au⁠

Support live music. Buy merch. Go to gigs.

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What happens when a Muay Thai champion decides the real fight isn't in the ring—it's saving boys from the stereotypes that are killing them?

Richie Hardcore knows exactly what happens when boys grow up watching men solve problems with fists and bottles. His father's severe alcoholism and the family violence that came with it could have destroyed him. Instead, it became his mission.

Now, as a White Ribbon ambassador and TEDx speaker, Richie walks into schools across Australia and New Zealand having the conversations most adults are too scared to have. He tells teenage boys it's okay to cry, to feel confused, to not have it all figured out. He works with incarcerated young men through The Rise Above Charitable Trust, showing them the violence can stop with them.

But here's what's keeping me up at night after this conversation: our boys are struggling more than we realize. They're ordering hard drugs via Uber. They're learning about sex from pornography that teaches the opposite of intimacy. They're consuming manosphere content that's gone mainstream—not Andrew Tate anymore (he's "cringe now") but gym influencers and self-help bros peddling the same dangerous messages about what it means to be a man.

And they're desperate for someone to tell them it's okay to take off the mask.

This is essential listening if you're:

• Raising or teaching boys and watching them shut down emotionally
• Worried about gender violence in your community
• Trying to understand what healthy masculinity actually looks like in practice
• Concerned about online radicalization and manosphere influence on young men
• Looking for actual conversations to have with the boys in your life

CONTENT WARNING

This episode contains frank discussions of family violence, alcoholism, substance abuse, sexual violence, domestic abuse, and the impact of pornography on young people. Listener discretion advised.

Resources mentioned -

• Jess Hill - "⁠See What You Made Me Do" ⁠(book on domestic violence and gender violence)
• Jess Hill -⁠ "Asking For It" ⁠(SBS documentary on consent culture)
• ⁠The Rise Above Charitable Trust ⁠- Richie's organization working with incarcerated youth
• ⁠Our Watch (Australia)⁠ - Gender violence prevention resources

CONNECT WITH RICHIE HARDCORE

⁠On Instagram⁠

⁠On Website⁠

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