We are officially off the rails. Kelly is campaigning hard for “baby AI” versions of us. After we recover, we get back to what actually matters: subtype layers. In this episode we break down Enneagram Types 3 and 4 through the self-preservation, social, and one-to-one lenses, naming the strengths and watch-outs for each subtype. If you have ever wondered why some Threes feel like tireless workers while others feel like performers, or why some Fours seem quietly self-contained while others feel like intense romantics, this episode will help you spot the patterns with more clarity and less judgment.

Type 3

Self-Preservation: The Worker

Social: The Politician (or The Performer, “Peacock”)

One-to-One: The Charmer (“The Magnet”)

Type 4

Self-Preservation: The Comfortable Withdrawer (“Comfortable Individual”)

Social: The Outsider

One-to-One: The Intense Romantic

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In this episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly head into the Enneagram “bakery” and build out the full three-layer cake of subtypes for Types 1 and 2. Using the playful “Is It Cake?” metaphor, they show how each subtype can look completely different on the outside, even when the core number underneath is the same.

Kelly walks through the Self-Preservation, Social, and One-to-One (sexual) subtypes for Type 1 (the Organizer, the Good Citizen, and the Crusader) and Type 2 (the Caretaker, the Host, and the Intimate Helper). Along the way they talk boards and bylaws, life-coach energy, over-helping, intensity in close relationships, and why motivation is the key to telling “is it Type 1, Type 2, or something else?”

If you are a 1 or 2 (or love one), this conversation will help you spot your dominant subtype, recognize your growth edges, and appreciate the people in your life who organize, host, and love so deeply.

Type 1

• Self-preservation 1: The Organizer
• Social 1: The Good Citizen
• One-to-one (sexual) 1: The Crusader

Type 2

• Self-preservation 2: The Caretaker (also called The Nurturer)
• Social 2: The Host (also called The Community Builder)
• One-to-one (sexual) 2: The Intimate Helper

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Damon and Kelly wrap up the self preservation section of the subtype series with Types 7, 8, and 9. They break down core motives, how self preservation shows up day to day (gear, routines, safety, control), healthy vs unhealthy patterns, and simple practices to grow without losing your type’s strengths.

• Healthy signs: content with what they have, enthusiastic and inspiring, practical about safety, steady rhythms that stave off boredom.
• Early drift: chasing newest gadgets for security, getting reckless with money, overfilling time to avoid boredom.

• Healthy signs: direct and no-nonsense, protective of others, self-reliant, quietly strong, helps empower people’s strengths.
• Early drift: steamrolling to “get it done,” hiding to avoid vulnerability, workaholic streaks, chasing status symbols.

• Healthy signs: practical and patient, peaceful presence, steady routines that truly refuel, fun-loving with wry humor, unselfish.
• Early drift: autopilot comforts and favorite replays, present-only focus stalling bigger aims, apathy or emotional shut-down, stubbornness.

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This classic Beyond Your Number replay walks through all nine Enneagram types. For each number, we name what we’re grateful for, then give one practical gratitude assignment to help you move from stuck to healthier patterns.
Highlights:
• 1: Thank three specific people to quiet the inner critic
• 2: List three things you’re grateful for about yourself, say them aloud
• 3: Do one enjoyable thing for its own sake, tell no one
• 4: Identify three unique gifts and create visible reminders
• 5: List what’s abundant and self-replenishing in your life
• 6: Name recent moments of courage where you chose more than fear
• 7: Choose one self-sustaining rhythm you care about
• 8: Sit with a vulnerable area, practice gentleness, give thanks for what is
• 9: Write an ad for yourself highlighting strengths and wins

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Today we continue our Enneagram subtype series and unpack the Self-Preservation instinct for Types 4, 5, and 6. Kelly explains how SP Fours pursue uniqueness through carefully curated “special” things, why SP Fives conserve time, energy, and resources, and how SP Sixes seek safety through alliances and preparation, including the phobic vs counterphobic expressions. Damon pushes for plain-language summaries, mistype clues, and real-life tells. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I a One or a Three… or an SP Four?” this one will help you sort it out.

What you’ll learn:

• SP Four: authenticity, endurance, and why they can look like Ones or Threes
• SP Five: minimalism, boundaries, and guarding energy
• SP Six: security strategies, alliances, and phobic vs counterphobic
• Quick motivation checks to avoid common mistypes

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Kelly and Damon wade into the deep end of subtypes starting with the self-preservation (SP) instinct for Types 1, 2, and 3. You’ll learn how SP shapes motivation (not just behavior):

• SP One: striving for goodness, future-proofing with order and control, and why it can look like a Six.
• SP Two: playful, guarded, seeking love and protection and how that can mistype as a Seven.
• SP Three: “be the best, look modest,” working tirelessly for security while hiding the need for admiration.

They revisit the “three-layer cake” (dominant, secondary, repressed instincts), clear up common mistyping with Sixes, and preview next week’s episode covering SP Types 4–6. If you’ve ever wondered why you plan, protect, or perform the way you do, this 401-level walkthrough will click.

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Kelly and Damon kick off a brand-new series on Enneagram subtypes, the instinctual variants that turn 9 core types into 27 flavors. This is the deep end: self-preservation (sp), social (so), and one-to-one/sexual (sx), plus the “three-layer cake” of dominant, secondary, and repressed instincts.

In this episode:

• What sp/so/sx really mean, and how they shape each number’s style
• The “cake” model: why your dominant instinct runs on autopilot (and what to do about the blind spot)
• How subtypes explain look-alikes (e.g., a social Eight that resembles a Two)
• What’s next in the series: Week 1, Self-Pres (Types 1-9), Week 2—Social, Week 3, One-to-One
• A quick reflection homework to help you spot your stack

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Kelly and Damon unpack how a Type 9 processes “Be assertive” and why it can feel like a threat to calm rather than an invitation to contribute. Together they map common misreads, offer gentler phrases that work, and give Nines a simple reframe to keep their voice in the room.

What’s inside:

• How “be assertive” can land as “start conflict” (and what to say instead)
• Gentle prompts that invite a Nine’s perspective without pressure
• A self-check for Nines: “Are they attacking my calm or making space for my voice?”
• Workplace & family scripts you can use today

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