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In this episode, Heather Shannon and Doc Yu Roc (Dr. Yulinda Rahman) explore the therapeutic use of BDSM, discussing how trauma is stored in the body and the importance of intersectionality in healing. They delve into the power dynamics present in everyday life and how understanding these can aid in personal growth. Doc Yu Roc shares insights on the Kink Professional Standards Alliance and the therapeutic potential of kink, emphasizing the need for intentionality and awareness in BDSM practices. Heather and Yulinda also discuss the importance of knowing and expressing your personal boundaries for feeling safe in your body and having positive kink experiences.

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General Website: https://docyuroc.org/

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Chapters

0:00 Intro

2:53 Therapeutic Use Of BDSM

6:03 Understanding Body Based Trauma

9:02 Reconnecting With The Body

12:00 Exploring Kink & Sensation

15:03 Therapeutic Benefits

18:02 Healing Through Touch And Sensation

21:54 Understanding Power Dynamics

25:22 The Importance Of Awareness In Power Dynamics

28:39 Exploring Intersectionality

31:59 A New Approach To Healing

38:56 Resources For Learning More

View the video version of this episode at https://youtu.be/avOmaFbntg0

Keywords

BDSM, trauma, intersectionality, power dynamics, therapeutic kink, King Professional Standards Alliance, healing, intentionality, awareness, body-based trauma

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AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and host Heather Shannon speaks with Naturopathic Doctor Jordin Wiggins about the challenges faced by high achieving women in their intimate relationships. In particular, Jordin share how women's "supertraits" can lead to burnout and hinder their ability to connect emotionally. The discussion covers the importance of understanding emotional needs, setting boundaries, and recognizing coercive control in relationships. Jordin emphasizes the need for self-care and the prioritization of pleasure in both personal and sexual life, offering insights into how women can learn to receive and create fulfilling relationships.

Find out more about Dr. Jordin Wiggins and her work with Supertraits here: https://www.thepleasurecollective.com/education

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to High Achieving Women and Pleasure

02:34 Understanding Burnout and the Pleasure Problem

05:27 Super Traits and Their Impact on Relationships

08:08 The Connection Between Childhood and Adult Relationships

10:43 Navigating Boundaries and Emotional Safety

13:27 The Role of Sensitivity and Empathy

16:05 The Importance of Emotional Needs in Relationships

18:42 The Messy Middle of Change

21:15 Learning to Receive and Shift Dynamics

23:37 Creating a Pleasure-Centered Life

31:44 Navigating Life's Pleasures and Challenges

33:38 The Cultural Disconnect from Pleasure

35:46 The Shift Towards a Pleasure-Centered Life

37:42 Understanding Power Dynamics in Relationships

39:55 The Impact of Coercive Control

45:54 Transforming Sexual Relationships

53:44 Finding Support and Resources

58:32 Embracing Change and Vulnerability

Check out the video version of this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/bWUnwluNffI

Keywords

pleasure, high achieving women, super traits, burnout, intimacy, relationships, emotional needs, coercive control, self-care, sexual health

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In this episode, Heather introduces Kristin Vyas, a sex and intimacy coach who has joined the Ask A Sex Therapist team. Kristen shares the top sex issues she sees with clients including erectile dysfunction, mismatched libidos and shame around kinks. Heather and Kristen discuss the impact of societal pressures on masculinity. They talk about the importance of open communication about kinks and desires, the role of anxiety in sexual performance, and the necessity of ongoing sex education. The conversation emphasizes the importance of viewing yourself and your partner as a whole person. Learn why curiosity and understanding in relationships can be your secret weapon to a great sex life and start redefining sexual experiences beyond traditional norms.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction of Kristin Vyas

01:00 Understanding Erectile Dysfunction

02:41 Redefining Pleasure and Connection

05:47 The Role of Anxiety in Sexual Performance

06:51 The Power of Thoughts in Sexual Experiences

09:18 The Impact of Adult Content on Sexual Expectations

11:56 The Importance of Ongoing Sex Education

15:28 Exploring Kinks and Shame

19:04 The Need for Acceptance in Kink

20:38 Common Kinks and Societal Pressures

23:02 The Pressure on Men in Sexual Relationships

26:11 Exploring Sexuality Beyond Labels

27:38 The Evolution of Sex Education

29:47 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

32:50 Understanding Boundaries and Safety

35:56 Navigating Kinks and Preferences

41:13 The Complexity of Desire

45:53 Rediscovering Core Desires

48:34 Curiosity and Empathy in Relationships

Keywords

erectile dysfunction, sex therapy, intimacy coaching, sexual health, kink, communication, consent, masculinity, sexual desire, sex education