Happy Halloween!

Today, Jen and Maddy are giving you some candy — a catch-up episode!

They’re talking hobbies that have gone by the wayside, finding tiny joys, and why we need to let our kids wave their freak flag loud and proud.

Plus, they’re answering listener questions about everything from dating someone who has kids to knowing when it might be time to switch up your therapist.

xoxo,

Maddy & Jen

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Connect with us:

Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger
Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin
Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Today, Jen and Maddy get real about self-care overload.

From $800 facials to 20,000-step goals, the wellness world is louder (and more expensive) than ever. Maddy and Jen dig into what happens when “taking care of ourselves” becomes another pressure, another performance, and even another personality.

Key Topics:

• The difference between self-care and self-obsession — and how to tell when it’s gone too far
• Why the wellness industry thrives on our anxiety and urgency
• Internal vs. external self-care: how to reconnect with what actually helps
• How therapy, healing, and even fitness can become identity traps
• Building flexibility instead of perfection into your routines
• Affordable, real-life ways to care for yourself without the pressure or price tag

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Connect with us:

Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger
Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin
Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

In today's episode Jen and Maddy get real about “cutout culture." The growing trend of cutting people off in the name of boundaries and peace. From friendships that fade to relationships that end abruptly, they unpack what’s healthy self-protection and what’s emotional avoidance.

Through personal stories, therapy insights, and listener questions, they dig into why so many of us struggle with discomfort in relationships and how to repair instead of remove when things get hard.

Key Topics:

• The rise of cutout culture and how social media fuels all-or-nothing thinking
• When boundaries become barriers and how to tell the difference
• What to do when you feel left out or cut off by someone else
• Reconnecting after distance, from old friends to family members
• How discomfort and repair actually build stronger relationships
• Why conversations — not cutoffs — are the real key to protecting your peace

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re protecting your peace or just avoiding discomfort, this episode reminds you that real relationships are messy — and that’s okay. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stay in the conversation.

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Connect with us:

Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger
Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin
Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

What happens when the honeymoon phase fades and real life takes over?

Jen and Maddy get candid about losing the spark in a relationship, spotting the signs early, and reigniting connection when things start to feel… routine. From mental load and communication to intimacy and independence, they’re breaking down what it actually takes to keep love alive.

Key Topics:

• How to tell when your relationship is losing its spark
• Practical ways to bring back connection and excitement
• Why comfort isn’t always a bad thing — and what it can teach you
• The myth of “putting your relationship first” (and what to do instead)
• Navigating the mental load, communication, and self-prioritization
• What to do when your partner stops trying — or you stop caring

If you’ve ever wondered how to keep love alive when life gets busy, this episode is your reminder that the spark isn’t gone — it just needs a little attention.

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Connect with us:

Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger
Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin
Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

The gals are back with a catch-up episode filled with life updates, new obsessions, and candid confessions!!

Jen shares her big news (spoiler: she’s pregnant again!) while Maddy is catching flights, leaning into a fresh outlook on dating, and calling in her favorite professional organizers (again) to get her life in order.

They close the episode by answering listener questions on everything from navigating dating apps after a long relationship to setting boundaries with in-laws to figuring out when it might be time to let go of a dream.

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Connect with us:

Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger
Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin
Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

From career burnout to the pressure of finding fulfillment in your job, the gals break down what it really means to spend 90,000 hours of your life at work and what to do if every one of those hours feels like torture.

They unpack why it’s okay if your job isn’t your passion, the freedom that comes from separating work from identity, and how hobbies, boundaries, and a little creativity can change the way you experience your nine-to-five.

Key Topics:

• Why your career doesn’t have to define you
• Practical tools to cope when quitting isn’t an option
• How comparison at work (and in life) can rob you of joy
• The difference between stepping away vs. stepping toward in a career change
• Dealing with the struggle of money vs. fulfillment

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re stuck in a cycle of living just for Friday night... this episode might be the reset you need!

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Connect with us:

Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger
Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin
Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Season three is here (!!) and the gals are back and better than ever. After a summer of spontaneous trips, parenting chaos, and the occasional existential crisis, Jen and Maddy are diving headfirst into one of their favorite dating topics: the chase.

Why is it that sometimes not being wanted feels more exciting than actually being wanted?

From the rush of a story view to the infamous “want to be wanted syndrome,” Jen and Maddy break down the psychology of why we get hooked on mixed signals, the role attachment styles play, and how to tell the difference between fantasy and reality when it comes to dating.

If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing over a text or turning a story view into a love letter -- this one’s for you, sis!

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Connect with us:

Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger
Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin
Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Before the gals take a (small) hiatus for the summer - Jen and Maddy reflect on everything this past year has brought them—both on and off the mic. They get honest about what it's like to do a podcast with your best friend, share what they’ve learned (and what they haven’t), and set intentions for the summer ahead. See ya soon! HAGS <3

Connect with us:

• Email us your questions at: hello@areweokay.com
• Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellness
• Follow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellness

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.

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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger

Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin

Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach