I like the phrase “safe space” even less than I like the word “healing”, but I understand what it means. I just think of it as making a secure perimeter! That soothes my manly soul.

A lot of us have an epiphany experience when we acknowledge the reality of our lives as warzone kids...but to misquote Churchill, that moment isn't the end of healing, or even the beginning of the end of healing, but it is, perhaps, the end of the worst of the suffering.

That’s what I wanted to do when I first read the phrase restorative Justice on the Hidden Water website (https://www.hiddenwatercircle.org/) and then I learned better! I learned that restoring myself to wholeness is the only kind of Justice there is. 

As a guy living with BPD, here’s a little video about the role Zen practice plays in my life. Enjoy! I love hearing from you! Leave a comment and let me know how it’s all going for you.

How do we live? That's the question all us warzone kids face. The Jenga Tower of our psyches put back into a solid form, not a rickety mess of coping and denial.

Recognizing the harm often feels like an epiphany. You've seen and acknowledged the reality of your life. But what happens after that?

This one is inspired by Hidden Waters' model of moving from harm to healing. It's been such a helpful thing in my own life.

Leave a comment! I'd love to hear from you. How is it all going for you?