• It’s a Secure Perimeter, not a Safe Space!
    Dec 30 2025

    I like the phrase “safe space” even less than I like the word “healing”, but I understand what it means. I just think of it as making a secure perimeter! That soothes my manly soul.

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    10 mins
  • After the Epiphany
    Dec 27 2025

    A lot of us have an epiphany experience when we acknowledge the reality of our lives as warzone kids...but to misquote Churchill, that moment isn't the end of healing, or even the beginning of the end of healing, but it is, perhaps, the end of the worst of the suffering.

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    8 mins
  • XXV: Restorative Justice? Don’t Make Me Puke!
    Dec 23 2025

    That’s what I wanted to do when I first read the phrase restorative Justice on the Hidden Water website (https://www.hiddenwatercircle.org/) and then I learned better! I learned that restoring myself to wholeness is the only kind of Justice there is. 

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    1 min
  • XXIV: The Blue Pill of Happiness
    Dec 23 2025
    10 mins
  • XXIII: Borderline Zen
    Dec 22 2025

    As a guy living with BPD, here’s a little video about the role Zen practice plays in my life. Enjoy! I love hearing from you! Leave a comment and let me know how it’s all going for you.

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    16 mins
  • XXII: Life is like a Jenga Tower
    Dec 18 2025

    How do we live? That's the question all us warzone kids face. The Jenga Tower of our psyches put back into a solid form, not a rickety mess of coping and denial.

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    7 mins
  • XXI: After the Epiphany
    Dec 18 2025

    Recognizing the harm often feels like an epiphany. You've seen and acknowledged the reality of your life. But what happens after that?

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    8 mins
  • XX: Coping, Facing, And Moving On
    Dec 11 2025

    This one is inspired by Hidden Waters' model of moving from harm to healing. It's been such a helpful thing in my own life.

    Leave a comment! I'd love to hear from you. How is it all going for you?

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    17 mins