Parenting a child who melts down over homework or seemingly simple tasks can feel overwhelming and exhausting. You’re not imagining it—the frustration, tears, and chaos aren’t bad behavior. It’s a dysregulated brain struggling to access its control center.

In this episode, let me explain why dysregulated kids can’t use their executive function, what that means for daily life, and practical strategies to help your child regain focus, complete tasks, and strengthen their executive functioning skills.

Why does my child melt down after school?

Many parents notice that after a long day, their child becomes irritable or shuts down at homework time. This isn’t defiance—it’s a dysregulated brain that’s gone offline.

When stress builds, it hijacks the prefrontal cortex, the control center for planning, organization, and impulse control. Your child simply can’t access their executive functions or working memory until their nervous system settles.

What’s happening:

• Stress or sensory overload disrupts brain functions.
• Transitions and overstimulation lead to poor executive functioning—especially in kids with ADHD or anxiety.
• Their brain shifts from learning to survival mode.

What helps:

• Co-regulate first. Your calm presence signals safety.
• Once calm, executive functioning skills like focus, planning, and task completion return.

Let’s calm the brain first—because that’s when real learning begins.

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How can I help my child focus when they can’t control their emotions?

When emotions flood in, logic and problem-solving shut down. This is common in children with ADHD, learning disabilities, or high emotional sensitivity.

• Regulate first: Deep breaths, movement, or sensory grounding can reset the brain.
• Break tasks into small, manageable steps to avoid overwhelming a child with poor executive functioning.
• Use internal self-talk modeling: Narrate your planning out loud to teach cognitive strategies like task initiation and sustained attention.

🗣️ “Once calm, your child’s executive functioning skills—like focus, organization, and problem solving—can finally do their job.” –Dr. Roseann

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What are executive functioning skills, and why do they matter?

Executive functioning skills are the brain’s Job Manager: planning, prioritizing, organizing, controlling impulses, and problem-solving. Without them, even typically developing children can struggle.

• Start with the end in mind: Visualizing outcomes improves planning and cognitive flexibility.
• Teach one skill at a time, e.g., starting a task, organizing materials, or remembering steps.
• Recognize that strengths and weaknesses vary: A child may excel at baseball stats or...

Parenting a child who’s struggling with mysterious symptoms can be frightening and exhausting. You bring them to the doctor, the tests come back “normal,” and yet you know something isn’t right. You’re not imagining it—it’s real, and you’re not alone.

In this episode, Dr. Bill Rawls explains why Lyme disease testing often misses active infections, what it means for your child, and practical steps parents can take to advocate for accurate diagnosis and care.

Why does my child keep testing negative for Lyme disease even when symptoms persist?

• False negatives are common: Many Lyme disease tests, like the ELISA (enzyme linked immunoassay) or Western blot, rely on antibodies that may not appear early or consistently.
• Early infection can be invisible: During the initial infection or early Lyme disease, the immune system may not have produced enough detectable antibodies for serologic testing.
• Co-infections complicate results: Other tick-borne illnesses can mask or mimic Lyme disease symptoms, making accurate diagnosis even harder.
• Persistent or chronic infections: Sometimes, persistent infection or chronic Lyme can continue even after a negative test. Clinical findings, medical history, and physical examination help guide your provider toward the right diagnosis of Lyme disease.

It’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated system of testing, not a failure of your vigilance.

Even when bloodwork looks clear, your child may still have an active infection. Understanding test limitations helps reduce frustration and empowers you to take action.

How can I tell if Lyme disease is being missed in my child?

• Watch for persistent, nonspecific symptoms: Fatigue, joint pain, headaches, or cognitive changes can appear long before tests turn positive.
• Consider medical history and exposure: Tick bites, outdoor activities, or living in endemic areas provide important clues.
• Use clinical judgment alongside lab tests: A single blood test rarely tells the full story; doctors often need multiple tests and examinations.

You don’t have to wait for a positive blood test to validate your child’s suffering.

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What are the limitations of standard Lyme disease testing?

• ELISA and Western blot tests measure antibodies, not bacteria directly: If your child’s immune system hasn’t produced detectable antibodies, the test can look clear.
• False positives and delayed diagnosis are common: Inaccurate results can delay treatment, allowing Lyme bacteria to persist and cause chronic symptoms.
• Tests vary in performance: Different labs, methods, and timing of testing affect results.

Let’s calm the brain first—then focus on gathering the right information without panic.

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What should parents do if Lyme disease tests come back negative?

• Keep a detailed symptom log: Track fatigue, joint pain, rashes, and cognitive...

Have you ever noticed that the more you explain, the more your child melts down? Parenting a child who reacts this way can leave you exhausted, frustrated, and worried. You try to reason, but instead of calming down, your child gets even more upset.

In this episode, I’ll share why talking often backfires when kids are upset, and how your calm presence, body language, and deep breaths can help your child regulate without words. You’ll discover the brain science behind co-regulation and walk away with simple, practical strategies you can use in the moment to help your child feel safe.

Why does talking make my child more upset instead of calming them?

When kids are dysregulated, their brain shifts into fight, flight, or freeze. Logic and language shut down, and many parents notice that their words actually feel overwhelming instead of calming.

• More words = more stimulation → which leads to bigger emotions.
• A calm body speaks louder than lectures.
• Behavior is communication, not defiance.

🗣️ “In the heat of the moment, silence and co-regulation calm the brain faster than explanations.” – Dr. Roseann

What can I do in the moment when my child is losing control?

Instead of talking, use your body language and presence to signal safety. This is what helps many kids settle down.

• Take a deep breath before you respond. Ask yourself: Am I regulated enough to help my child right now?
• Soften your body → drop your shoulders, relax your arms, loosen your jaw.
• Stay at their level → for toddlers, sit on the floor; for older kids, sit nearby. Don’t loom over them.
• Eye contact is optional → for some children, less is more.

Your calm cues reduce cortisol and show your child they are safe.

When your child is dysregulated, it’s easy to feel helpless.

The Regulation Rescue Kit gives you the scripts and strategies you need to stay grounded and in control.

Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and get your free kit today.

How do I calm my child without words?

Co-regulation works through silent strategies that their nervous system picks up instantly.

• Use rhythmic cues → slow breathing, gentle rocking, or humming. A predictable rhythm helps kids reset.
• Offer safe touch if welcomed → a hug, a hand on the shoulder, or letting them crawl into your lap.
• Stay present, not pressuring → don’t force them to talk or “explain” while upset.

Kids can borrow your calm until they find their own.

When your child is stuck in dysregulation, more effort isn’t the answer—a reset is. Quick CALM shows you how to calm the brain first with science-backed tools that get real results.

Can my calm really teach my child self-regulation?

Yes—science backs this up. Mirror neurons mean kids sync with your state, not your words. Over time, they learn to regulate by practicing alongside you.

• Your calm presence is the model → kids copy what they see and feel.
• Safety cues build connection → when a child feels safe, their brain learns new ways to manage emotions.
• Consistency matters → the more you practice, the more your child’s brain wires for regulation.

Staying calm is not just about this moment—it’s...