Struggling with guilt when you prioritize self-care? Learn practical ways to move from survival mode to thriving, honoring your God-given needs without apology.

If you're ever wanted to become a Life Coach, now’s the time to look into what it’s all about!

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If you're drowning in everyone else's needs while yours stay buried, this episode is your permission slip to stop.

I almost talked myself out of beach yoga this morning. The guilt showed up fast, “shouldn't I be working?” But here's what I've learned after years of running on fumes: you can't pour from an empty well, and God didn't design you to survive on exhaust.

In This Episode:

[00:03:15] Why Self-Care Feels Like Rebellion The guilt Christian women carry when prioritizing their needs, and the theology that actually supports self-stewardship.

[00:08:42] The Frog in Boiling Water How we adapt to dysfunction without realizing it—and why you don't need different circumstances to start thriving (Isaiah 43:18).

[00:14:20] Practical Self-Prioritization Time blocking, identifying your actual needs, scheduling white space, and giving yourself permission to figure it out as you go.

[00:22:37] External Processing for Overthinkers Finding safe spaces to get the noise out—journaling, coaching, therapy, trusted community.

[00:28:15] Your First Responsibility Why stewarding yourself isn't selfish—it's obedience.

Key Truths:

✨ "Your first responsibility to the Lord is to steward YOU. How can you steward everyone else if you're just a dry well?"

✨ The Sabbath wasn't created for God—it was created for YOU. Rest is holy.

✨ Progress over perfection. Move yourself up one burner at a time.

✨ While you still have breath in your lungs, God is not done with you.

Your 24-Hour Challenge:

Do something radical for yourself. Beach yoga. Breakfast without phones. A walk where you just exist. Whatever you need—lean into it.

If you're tired of survival mode and ready for a safe space to process what's actually going on, let's talk.

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Remember: You're not selfish for taking care of yourself. You're being obedient to how God designed you to live. 💙

Cheering for you,

Dani

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Hey friend!

Today we're talking about nervous system regulation. If that sounds "woo" to you, I get it. But this is biblical, and science is catching up.

What We're Covering:

When I got sober, I was SO dysregulated. I'd go straight into fight or flight over everything. I had to learn to catch myself and regulate instead of constantly reacting from trauma.

The Messy Life Transformation Coaching Certification: 6 months of YOUR transformation first. Yes, you'll learn to coach others, but it starts with you. We can't pour from an empty well.

Key Truths:

• You're not too much AND you're enough (Ephesians 2:10 - you're God's masterpiece)
• Taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's the most selfless thing you can do
• The world will dysregulate you over and over. You have to regulate yourself internally
• You deserve a seat at the table, not standing in the corner in the dark

This Certification Is For:

• People who want to build a coaching business
• Bible study leaders who want real transformation (not just head knowledge)
• Anyone tired of having all the answers
• Those called to help others but don't know where to start

Whatever you've done or whatever's been done to you—God's not done with you. Shame, limiting beliefs, and fear do not get the final say.

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Peace,

Dani

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Just got back from Hawaii (boat sickness and all), and here's the thing: Nobody remembers three problems ago. I'm sharing about what it's like when life feels heavy even while good things are happening.

Life keeps moving, and we have to learn to move with it. Holding both the hard and the good at the same time.

In This Episode:

• Why you might struggle to dream again after disappointment
• How healing happens even when circumstances aren't perfect
• The "whack-a-mole" reality of problems (and why that's actually hopeful)
• Recognizing what's blocking your ability to feel joy
• Being honest about your life without toxic positivity

What You'll Walk Away With:

The truth is, life gets WAY better as you heal, even if your circumstances stay messy.

If dreaming feels impossible, there's healing work to do

Resilience matters more than having it all together.

Ready to step more into your purpose?

Schedule a call with me and let’s connect about what could possibly be next for you.

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You're not alone in what you're walking through. Keep showing up.

Love,

Dani

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