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You’ve Changed

The Promise and Price of Self-Transformation
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You’ve Changed

By: Benoit Denizet-Lewis
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Brought to you by Penguin.

A compelling examination of the contemporary art of self-transformation, from the New York Times bestselling author

As obsessed as we are with change, we’re also often wildly suspicious of those who claim to have pulled it off.

In You’ve Changed, Benoit Denizet-Lewis shows how so much of what we think we know about self-transformation is wrong. Profound change is often less self-reinvention than self-discovery, and personal change isn’t always so personal — it’s better understood as a hazardous team sport.

Drawing on insights from psychologists, neuroscientists and spiritual teachers, Denizet-Lewis confronts our ambivalent relationship with change by taking us inside the lives of people who’ve transformed themselves — or say they have. From psychedelic reality benders to political converters, from a seemingly transformed murderer to a bully-turned-Buddhist, Denizet-Lewis brings curiosity, empathy and humour to this compelling investigation of the many ways we try to reimagine ourselves — and what’s at stake when we do.

You’ve Changed challenges us to think more deeply about how real transformation happens and is essential reading for anyone who’s ever wanted to change something meaningful about themselves, or someone they love.

© Benoit Denizet-Lewis 2026 (P) Penguin Audio 2026

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Critic Reviews

What a blazingly smart, funny, thoughtful, and moving book about the hope—and the occasional limits—of human transformation. In You’ve Changed, Benoit Denizet-Lewis takes us right into the trembling heart of how tempting it is to try to change your life. I found this to be a deeply humane book, offering the reader both permission to evolve and compassion for the times it might not quite work the way we hoped (Elizabeth Gilbert, author of All the Way to the River )
Fascinating... Benoit Denizet-Lewis takes us on a deeply considered yet hilarious ride that explores the promises, challenges, validity, and possibility of transformation in all its forms (Ellen Hendriksen, clinical psychologist and bestselling author of How To Be Yourself )
Combines reportage, research, and memoir in a fascinating and beautifully written book that captivated me from the first page... endlessly thought provoking and inspiring. Read this book! (David Sheff, author of Beautiful Boy )
Denizet-Lewis’s wide-ranging study of change in an era when metamorphosis has become the head-spinning norm, is wonderfully reported, often hilarious, and unfailingly captivating (Julian Brave NoiseCat, author of We Survived the Night )
Urgent and unifying... I read You’ve Changed with rapt interest and delight. But I also read the hell out of it—I annotated it, underlined it, dog-eared it, and scribbled in its margins, because I couldn’t help but find myself in it. You will too (Tom Junod, author of In the Days of My Youth I Was Told What It Means to Be a Man )
Eye-opening... Denizet-Lewis brings the curiosity and perception that make him one of our best nonfiction writers to the topic of personal reinvention. Reading this book will change you for the better (James Kirchick, New York Times bestselling author of Secret City )
This fascinating and revelatory book should be read by anyone tempted by the promises of painless transformation (Larissa MacFarquhar, author of Stranger Drowning )
Benoit Denizet-Lewis is a born storyteller who writes with great wisdom and wit. I loved his new book on change, a central obsession of our era that he thankfully rescues from easy-answer evangelists (Deborah Solomon, author of American Mirror )
Benoit is a remarkable writer and a journalist of the first order, as You’ve Changed proves yet again. This is a deeply reported, keenly intelligent, beautifully written book (Kevin Sessums, author of Mississippi Sissy and I Left It on the Mountain )
Denizet-Lewis digs into why and how people change, reminding us that it’s never too late to be the versions of ourselves we long to become (Sharon Salzberg, author of Real Change )
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