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"You Should Be Grateful"
- Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption
- Narrated by: Angela Tucker
- Length: 7 hrs and 26 mins
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Publisher's Summary
An adoption expert and transracial adoptee herself examines the unique perspectives and challenges these adoptees have as they navigate multiple cultures
“Your parents are so amazing for adopting you! You should be grateful that you were adopted.”
Angela Tucker is a Black woman, adopted from foster care by white parents. She has heard this microaggression her entire life, usually from well-intentioned strangers who view her adoptive parents as noble saviors. She is grateful for many aspects of her life, but being transracially adopted involves layers of rejection, loss, and complexity that cannot be summed up so easily.
In “You Should Be Grateful,” Tucker centers the experiences of adoptees to share deeply personal stories, well-researched history, and engrossing anecdotes from mentorship sessions with adopted youth. These perspectives challenge the fairy-tale narrative of adoption, giving way to a fuller story that explores the impacts of racism, classism, family, love, and belonging.
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“A captivating memoir that also offers an important counterpoint to voyeurism and saviorism in the adoption process.”—Kirkus Reviews
“This deeply personal story is also a passionate call to rethink the way we manage and talk about adoption in America.”—Booklist
“Tucker’s story and the stories of the adoptees she features gives readers access to thoughts adoptees have but might too afraid to tell others or what they talk about amongst themselves.”—International Examiner
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- Jane
- 19-11-2023
A Must Read
I learnt so much through Angela’s book. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. It opened a window to many facets of adoption that are not talked about nearly enough.
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