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You Are Your Own
- A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity
- Narrated by: Jamie Lee Finch
- Length: 3 hrs and 22 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Rooted in her experiences growing up in an evangelical Christian family, Jamie Lee Finch’s You Are Your Own offers an overview of evangelicalism and the painful confusion and anxiety experienced under its demands.
Finch explores the mechanisms of trauma and how fundamentalist denominations match the patterns connected with PTSD. She elaborates on the doubt, guilt, fear, and grief that haunt those leaving the evangelical faith and offers an approach to help them recover healthy self-worth and resilience.
A socio-historical autobiographical analysis of evangelical Christianity's religious trauma, You Are Your Own emerges from Finch's reconnaissance on her own life - her journals, stories, trauma - and offers advocacy for everyone harmed by fundamentalist faith.
Jamie Lee Finch is a sexuality and embodiment coach, intuitive healer, self-conversation facilitator, sex witch, and poet. You can learn about Jamie’s work at JamieLeeFinch.com
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- Anonymous User
- 10-05-2021
Close to home
If you grew up in the evangelical church this book is for you. It shook me. Also the authors voice is easy and relaxing to listen to
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