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The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory

Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love
Narrated by: Stephanie Rose
Length: 9 hrs and 58 mins
4.8 out of 5 stars (8 ratings)

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No one likes a know-it-all, but everyone loves a girl with brains and heart. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory is an intelligent and comprehensive guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of alternative love, offering relationship advice radically different from anything you'll find on the magazine rack.

This practical guidebook will help women break free of the mold of traditional monogamy, without the constraints of jealousy, possessiveness, insecurity, and competition. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory incorporates interviews and real-world advice from women of all ages in nontraditional relationships, as well as exercises for building self-awareness, confidence in communication, and strategies for managing and eliminating jealousy. If you're curious about exploring group sex, opening up your current monogamous relationship, or ready to "come out" as polyamorous, this book covers it all! 

Whether you're a seasoned graduate, a timid freshman, or somewhere in between, you'll learn how to discover and craft unique relationships that are healthy, happy, sexy, and tailor-made for you. Because when it comes to your love life, being a know-it-all is actually a great thing to be.

©2017 Dedeker Winston (P)2018 Tantor

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  • 20-07-2020

Loved this book bar one tiny thing

This was an awesome book for anyone exploring ethical non-monogamy. Loved the exploration of history of relationships & the overall structure. The one tiny thing that bothered me was when she put on voices of other people, particularly the voices of other ethnicities. Made me cringe & just felt a bit wrong.

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Solid advice (try to ignore the voice)

The information here is far more expansive and flexible than that in More Than Two, with great practical tips for some tricky hypothetical conundrums. Great feminist perspective, with an understanding of intersectionality and LGBTQ+ identities. Very good for newbies, but with some things even veterans might not have considered. That voice though. So self-congratulatory it was almost smarmy in its tone, every line was delivered like a teenage empowerment guide. I almost gave up on listening because of this, but I am glad I persisted

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 05-04-2019

Terrible Narrator, Too Much History

I cannot stand the delivery of this narrator! and too much historical commentary for me

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  • Jen Duncan
  • 01-11-2019

The most robotic voice I have heard in an audiobook

It was so hard to pay attention because the voice was not human and near monotone.

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  • Jocelyn Harris
  • 14-11-2018

A great guide for all

This book is a collection of advice you hear in the polyam community wrapped in a personal perspective. Several times I found myself having to skip back because something thought provoking would send my mind on a tangent. It may be my new go to recommendation for people asking where to start.

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  • Colin Robertson
  • 25-10-2018

Accessible!

Dedeker Winston is incredibly knowledgeable of non monogamy and healthily relationships; she has also clearly refined her book to a very high level of concision in the editing process. Of all of the books that I have read on polyamory, this one sticks out for having a perfect balance of technically knowledge and practical application. It does not feel like a textbook, however it is filled with information. I believe anyone could pick up this book and easily comprehend what she is talking about. it is clear in her writing that she is cognizant of the variety of people that would find value on her book and she writes as inclusively as possible. I feel that this is one of the best books to give to someone that does not yet understand polyamory or wants to improve their relationships. I have already given this book to three people and I am sure that I will gift it to more in the future.

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  • The Fun Bunch
  • 17-10-2018

Amazing, Motivational and Informative!

I am so excited to listen to Dedeker Winston's book! I have been wanting to read it for the last year and just haven't done so. I love all the history and information. The non-biased explanations and points of view. To me this is truly a book on Love and its endless potential of personal meanings. I enjoy the reader, Stephanie Rose, and how she adjusts her voice to fit the individual statements. Totally a book worth listening to more than once.

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  • jesse wittwer
  • 08-03-2019

life changing!

this book actually saved my relationship. it was intelligent, thoughtful, encouraging, and inspiring. thank you!

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  • MM
  • 08-03-2019

very informative and complete

very thorough book, it answers more questions than an the other ones I read. thank you

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  • MooMaster
  • 06-03-2019

useful

lots of stuff you can piece together from various sources, but insightful. I enjoyed the historical explorations of non-monogamy and hearing individual women's experiences.

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  • Christopher E. Light
  • 01-11-2018

I'm male.This is a great resource on poly. Buy it.

Great book on polyamory.as a man i did not feel alienated or belittled. There was a bunch of good insight and plenty of sobering counterpoints.well written and thought provoking.

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  • D. Faulkner
  • 27-02-2020

Educational for Beginners

This is by far the best book that I have read recently about ethical non-monogamy and polyamory that I would suggest anybody starting off. Dedeker really get into each different component of polyamory an open relationship or ethical non-monogamy and makes it easy to understand. Thank you so much for doing this Brooke I think it was very well written and you did an excellent job of explaining everything.

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  • Mark Judge
  • 19-01-2019

Not just for smart girls :)

This is a very well written book. I loved the narration and found it a pleasurable listen. I was surprised to find this book was very relevant to me as a poly man. Highly recommended.