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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, Revised and Updated
Narrated by: Eric Michael Summerer
Length: 10 hrs and 17 mins
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Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages.          

This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved.          

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

©1999, 2015 John Mordechai Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver (P)2020 Tantor

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Don’t buy the audiobook

The content of this book can add value, but it doesn’t work as an audiobook. There are numerous surveys and questionnaires that are recommended and 40% of the book is listening to these being read out! It’s terrible and there is no supplemental pdf, so you can’t even get access to a written version of this information. If you want access to the information, by the paperback version. Don’t waste your money on the audiobook.

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EXCELLENT BOOK!!! EVERY COUPLE SHOULD LISTEN TO IT

Excellent, excellent, excellent....the best book ever on relationship, highly recommend it to EVERYONE Out there

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Easy to listen to, helpful & practical

Very helpful and practical. A lot of exercises to do that need quote a bit of time to do them properly - but we'll worth the effort.

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Great revealing read!

Fantastic book for any marriage! Really great stories you can relate to and principles to apply. Recommend both partners read the book together so can complete the exercises at the same time.

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  • Christi Thorn
  • 19-02-2020

The Bible of Relationship books

I’ve read a lot of relationship books, but this one was by far my favorite. While it is not one of the most entertaining I’ve ever read, it is hands down the most useful. This book is literally THE handbook for a successful marriage and John Gottman’s advice is GOLD. The book really forces you to take a good, hard look at your relationship, it’s strengths and weaknesses, and focus on improving the areas that need improvement. Although, I will admit, it was not always a comfortable feeling reading and rating my relationship at times, it was extremely helpful and in turn made me realize my relationship’s strengths as well. I believe it has set my husband and I, two very new newlyweds,up for solid, long term success .

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 15-05-2020

Buy hard copy

So many lists! Ugh. Have pen and paper ready to take lotttsssss of list notes.

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  • Rebecca D.
  • 02-03-2020

Topics hard to hear but set me in the right direction

When I first started the book I was hopeful but I realized I was the cause of much of my marital trouble. This was very hard to hear, I knew it was true but the affirmation is hard. It did set me in the right direction to change. Something I had never been able to do on my own. Many other books try to convey this but this one worked for me and I am grateful.

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  • Bw12535
  • 21-06-2020

eyes opened to see what sinks and steers romance

I have been married 12 years and have had a good relationship until I was told by my wife she didn't love me anymore. I have done the activities through this book and have heard what my wife longed for. I didn't know what questions to ask to get to the root at our disconnection. Thank you to John Gottman

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  • Mary S.
  • 24-06-2020

This explains sooooo much!

I wouldn't consider my marriage on the brick of breaking but we also have so struggles. I think the most helpful take away from this book for me was that it is OKAY to have these struggles and that even rewarding marriages have them. Personally the scientific backing for this book and the years of research that when into developing specific techniques will make me much more likely to pick them into practice and I don't think they are limited to only marriage relationships. Powerful stuff!

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  • Joel Dormer
  • 11-05-2020

good read for good marriages

This should be required reading for all couples before getting married. A great step forward in understanding why relationships can be so hard and how to make them work.

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  • ITGuyEric
  • 03-09-2020

Amazing Resource

This was an amazing book. The examples and case studies really help me look at my own relationship in a clearer light. My only critique is to put all the exercises into a PDF and leave them out of the read audiobook.

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  • SSS
  • 08-05-2020

Must read for everyone

If you are in or planning to be in a relationship. These principles should lead you. My humble opinion is that all modern relationship should be based on these principles.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 18-10-2020

seven principles...seven gifts!

what fantastic book. comes with exercises and in depth dialog. it has been very helpful for me to read this book while my marriage has been struggling. hope to bring my new knowledge to the table and put this book into action.

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  • Trent L.
  • 07-10-2020

great but I have a gripe

this is excellent for working through marital problems and I 100% would recommend. my problem is the decidedly MALE anti-masturbatory stance taken. in a book that seeks to define sex as any intimacy between two partners it cites a study that says men who masturbate in their marriage have less sex. this amounts to equivocation, a veiled slut shame, and a double standard. if sex is any intimacy then the author equivocates the definition of sex within the study vs without and makes his overall argument invalid. I recommend other books like the ethical slut for better ideas on how to preserve sexual autonomy in a relationship without archaic views.

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  • lynsey broad
  • 09-07-2020

very helpful

this book covers all areas of marriage. I hope I can apply it in my life. very grateful for the amount of work put into this book.

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