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Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages.          

This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved.          

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

©1999, 2015 John Mordechai Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver (P)2020 Tantor

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Don’t buy the audiobook

The content of this book can add value, but it doesn’t work as an audiobook. There are numerous surveys and questionnaires that are recommended and 40% of the book is listening to these being read out! It’s terrible and there is no supplemental pdf, so you can’t even get access to a written version of this information. If you want access to the information, by the paperback version. Don’t waste your money on the audiobook.

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Great revealing read!

Fantastic book for any marriage! Really great stories you can relate to and principles to apply. Recommend both partners read the book together so can complete the exercises at the same time.

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EXCELLENT BOOK!!! EVERY COUPLE SHOULD LISTEN TO IT

Excellent, excellent, excellent....the best book ever on relationship, highly recommend it to EVERYONE Out there

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Easy to listen to, helpful & practical

Very helpful and practical. A lot of exercises to do that need quote a bit of time to do them properly - but we'll worth the effort.

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  • jynlyn
  • 02-09-2020

not a good audiobook

This is not a good buy for an audiobook. There are lots of lists and questionnaires. I find it hard to follow along as he reads off 40 questions for you and your spouse to ask each other and discuss. I recommend buying the book or kindle version. Otherwise, lots of good information. Beware: stereotypes like women are emotional and men are stonewallers are rampant but I imagine he's seen this first hand in his studies. Good news is he tries to release some of them by encouraging men to take advice from their wives and wives to....well i haven't gotten that far yet.
Happy reading!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 15-05-2020

Buy hard copy

So many lists! Ugh. Have pen and paper ready to take lotttsssss of list notes.

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  • Christi Thorn
  • 19-02-2020

The Bible of Relationship books

I’ve read a lot of relationship books, but this one was by far my favorite. While it is not one of the most entertaining I’ve ever read, it is hands down the most useful. This book is literally THE handbook for a successful marriage and John Gottman’s advice is GOLD. The book really forces you to take a good, hard look at your relationship, it’s strengths and weaknesses, and focus on improving the areas that need improvement. Although, I will admit, it was not always a comfortable feeling reading and rating my relationship at times, it was extremely helpful and in turn made me realize my relationship’s strengths as well. I believe it has set my husband and I, two very new newlyweds,up for solid, long term success .

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  • Bw12535
  • 21-06-2020

eyes opened to see what sinks and steers romance

I have been married 12 years and have had a good relationship until I was told by my wife she didn't love me anymore. I have done the activities through this book and have heard what my wife longed for. I didn't know what questions to ask to get to the root at our disconnection. Thank you to John Gottman

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  • Rebecca D.
  • 02-03-2020

Topics hard to hear but set me in the right direction

When I first started the book I was hopeful but I realized I was the cause of much of my marital trouble. This was very hard to hear, I knew it was true but the affirmation is hard. It did set me in the right direction to change. Something I had never been able to do on my own. Many other books try to convey this but this one worked for me and I am grateful.

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  • ITGuyEric
  • 03-09-2020

Amazing Resource

This was an amazing book. The examples and case studies really help me look at my own relationship in a clearer light.
My only critique is to put all the exercises into a PDF and leave them out of the read audiobook.

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  • Tad
  • 29-10-2020

Evidence Based, Practical Principles

listening to this audio book has given me great hope for my marriage, fostered a new appreciation for my wife, and given me skills that extend to all of my relationships and interactions. This book should be required reading/listening for all married couples.

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  • Rich Rabah
  • 27-04-2021

Great book but not for audio.

Do not buy this book on audio. You’ll find that half of the time you spent listening all your listening to is the narrator reading over all of the questionnaires and worksheets throughout the book for couples.

By the real book and enjoy this great piece of work the way it was intended.

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  • Joel Dormer
  • 11-05-2020

good read for good marriages

This should be required reading for all couples before getting married. A great step forward in understanding why relationships can be so hard and how to make them work.

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  • Kimiko
  • 27-09-2020

Hard copy needed

This was a really good book. I liked the suggestions it has in it especially at the end. One day I hope to purchase the hard copy as it has a lot of quizzes and questionnaires that are difficult to do justice in the audible version. I recommend this book for all married couples. The deduction of a star or two is simply due to the fact that I’m sure I would get more out of the hard copy as opposed to the audible. One day I plan to get the hard copy and use this book as it was intended. Overall, I would highly recommend this book. Thank you.

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  • lynsey broad
  • 09-07-2020

very helpful

this book covers all areas of marriage. I hope I can apply it in my life. very grateful for the amount of work put into this book.

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  • Mariya
  • 11-06-2021

Useful and comprehensive advice!

Great content - comprehensive and useful. Also uses very good examples and stories to illustrate the points. I'd highly recommend it!

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  • M. Baruch
  • 26-05-2021

Listening to a list being read out

This book consists mainly of lists. There’s some gold in between and it would be nice to have a pdf with the lists for reference.
For this to work as an audiobook, all lists would have to be labeled as such in the chapters section so that they can be skipped and read on a pdf.
The current format is really frustrating.

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  • Bima Loxley
  • 17-05-2021

I learnt so much!

if you're a studying sex therapist like me, give this book a read! so good and well thought out

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  • Victoria
  • 19-04-2021

It would really help if it had an accompanying PDF

It's very hard to do exercises just by listening to it. It would really help to have a pdf to refer to!

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  • Maliko
  • 19-03-2021

Best Book on Audible About God

Best Book by Ellen so far. It's easy to listen to and it's very visually descriptive. Get it

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