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The Imperfects

The Imperfects

By: Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.2025 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
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  • Isaac Humphries - Coming Out On Court
    Jun 15 2025

    💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au

    There is currently only one gay man actively playing in a professional, top-tier basketball league anywhere in the world. And today, we had the enormous privilege of welcoming him into the studio.

    Demonstrating Olympic-level vulnerability, Isaac Humphries made global headlines in 2022 when he came out as gay to his basketball teammates.

    However, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh learn in this chat, this moment was the result of a lifetime of chaos, confusion, darkness, and ultimately, courage.

    In this episode, Isaac talks through his horrific experience of childhood bullying, and how basketball became both a sanctuary and a space of secrecy. For Isaac, he never imagined a world where he could keep his career and live authentically as his whole self.

    An incredible journey, which includes a Beyonce-esque move of dropping his last name for a time, Isaac describes to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it felt like to come out to his mum, live as an openly gay man for the first time, and finally, come out to the world.

    Finding light in the darkest of times, Josh and Isaac discuss the importance of purpose, which prompts Hugh to reflect on how this episode is the epitome of The Imperfects: how vulnerability leads to authentic connection.

    Isaac, we love you.

    If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see Hugh’s model shot), click here - https://bit.ly/43YQXpc

    🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

    • Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ
    • Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m

    📺 Things to watch

    • Isaac’s Coming Out video - https://bit.ly/3HxvR9O

    🎧 Things to listen to

    • Isaac’s music, including the song Be Alright - https://spoti.fi/4mTSGol

    📖 Things to read

    • The Velvet Rage, by Alan Downs - https://bit.ly/43XZ3hH

    🏳️‍🌈For some great educational resources, head to Pride in Sport - www.prideinsport.com.au/resources

    🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources

    • QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au
    • Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au
    • Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au

    🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

    🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

    🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

    🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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    1 hr and 40 mins
  • Dr Emily - Using The Force For Good
    Jun 8 2025

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    This is where the fun begins.

    Today we welcome the Return of the Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, to talk about the Force in all its (clinical) glory.

    Amongst the immense excitement of Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Emily talks through the lightness and darkness inside us all, and how the presence of a good mentor makes a world of difference.

    Bringing psychology back to the forefront of this ep, Dr Emily likens Yoda’s general vibe to the principles of Acceptance Commitment Therapy, whilst also pointing out the incredible power of mindfulness (just ask Luke Skywalker).

    Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat with Dr Emily about The Hero’s Journey, main character syndrome and how to let go of our ego to embrace your authentic self.

    May the Force be with you.

    If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FGlYG6

    🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

    • Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More - https://bit.ly/4mGNOCP
    • Dr Emily - Hope - https://apple.co/4l9des9
    • Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - https://bit.ly/3SyoWj0
    • Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/4kki9W6
    • Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05
    • Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m
    • Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon) - https://bit.ly/4jefaNP

    💻Things / people to check out

    • Tara Brach - https://bit.ly/43Fk8gR
    • Scott Barry Kaufman - https://bit.ly/4dSmwFK
    • Dr Robyn D Walser - https://bit.ly/4kEI5M0
    • Joseph Campbell’s The Hero’s Journey - https://bit.ly/3HlH516
    • The Star Wars Catalogue - https://bit.ly/3HzXi2x

    📖 Things to read

    • Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

    🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

    🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

    🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

    🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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    1 hr and 20 mins
  • Nas Campanella - The First Blind Newsreader in the World
    Jun 1 2025

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    As the title suggests, Nas Campanella is really cool (and accomplished and driven and resilient).

    You might recognise her voice from the Triple J cinematic universe or know her work as the Disability Affairs Reporter for the ABC. But what you might not know is that Nas is vision impaired, or that a neurological condition means that she can’t read braille either.

    In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Nas answers the questions “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”

    Chatting to Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Nas talks about her relationship with her disability, and how it shapes her identity.

    Nas also dives into a powerful conversation with the guys about the role agency and accessibility in the experience of discrimination, and shares why, if a magical operation could restore her sight, she wouldn’t change a thing.

    Nas, it has been an absolute joy.

    🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

    🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

    🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

    🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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    1 hr and 9 mins

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amazing perspective we all need to take on

absolutely loved this episode.
thank you thank you thank you
such a great view and backed by science.
one more embrace

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Ben Crowe is great value 🤚

I got so much out of this 2-part podcast. All the usual good humoured banter and honest vulnerability from Hugh, Josh and Ryan and very useful insights and tools from Ben - so good I had to take notes 🤚Thank you

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Love it so so much!!!

super helpful for understanding myself and the people I'm surrounded by in everyday life situations 🤩 seriously INCREDIBLE!!!

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My favourite podcast

Not often you find something so honest and relatable that can have you crying, crying with laughter and pondering your thoughts all in the same minute. I tell everyone about The Imperfects and EVERYONE I’ve told have fallen in love too.

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yeeewwww

amazing stuff boys very well done and also very compelling love your work lads

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I always look forward to Mondays

I always look forward to Mondays when the next podcast drops. Content is always relatable and delivered in such a way how can people not be more comfortable in talking about their vulnerabilities 🤩

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My favourite podcast

Brilliant stories. So helpful. I love the vulnerabilitea house and hearing Dr Em revisiting past episodes. I am so glad I found this podcast.

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amazing, well worth a listen

so so so good, worth a listen, amazing story, grant has been thru so much

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