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The Emotionally Absent Mother

How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect, Second Edition
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The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed.

Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships - or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can't quite put a finger on what's missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse - but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains:

  • Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful - and what she was unable to give
  • The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse
  • How to find the child inside you and fill the "mother gap" through reflections and exercises
  • How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children)

©2017 Jasmin Lee Cori (P)2017 Tantor

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"This book is a revelation to those of us whose mothering was short of what we needed." (Connie Dawson, PhD, coauthor of Growing up Again)

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Excellent for anyone feeling incomplete.

Mother is my first other, my mirror. If the reflection feels incomplete in some way it may be due to how one is Mothered in early childhood. This book is an excellent resource for untangling those feelings, & gaining a valuable understanding & positive perspective for healing Mother wounds.

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  • Penny
  • Newtown, Australia
  • 24-01-2018

Definate must read if you are trying to heal from emotional neglect

Good descriptions & advice, a dhuefinate must read if you are trying to heal from emotional neglect

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  • ibekristi
  • 08-08-2018

Good book but not the audio version

I have the hard copy of this book but couldn't find time to squeeze in the reading so I got the audio version. I got 3 chapters in and had to stop. The narration sounds robotic. I couldn't bare to listen. I went back to the actual book. Much better.

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  • sheldon alston
  • 31-08-2018

Amazing

Loved it to the point real self help book will read again and again each time gives more insight

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  • Anonymous User
  • 29-07-2018

worth the time

Book starts slow and very generalized....it gets more informative and much useful after Chapter 12

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  • g!
  • 29-11-2018

useful

This has many useful pausing moments to write down answers to questions so I'll definitely be buying the hard back version. Listening to it first is likely ideal. anyone with emotionally absent mothers NEEDS to listen/read this! Very grateful.

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  • Elizabeth Sisu
  • 29-11-2019

Enlightening♡

Wonderful read, I have read many on this subject but found information in this book I'd never heard before. It was very helpful and wonderfully narrated.♡

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  • James Myers
  • 14-09-2019

Very informative and helpful

I have two daughters who are struggling to survive an emotionally absent mother and this book gives all the right information, advice, and references for them and anyone else suffering as they are. I have read many books on psychological self help and this is one of the best. Stays on point and moves along well without unneeded material.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-08-2019

Wonderfully insightful

I ate this book in a couple of days and feel more in tune not only with myself but with my mother. I had a solider like mother and father that didn't take to kindly to tears or to whining. But now I see it's because they, themselves fear of being weak themselves and screwing me up by spoiling me. Tough parents but honest in their motives.

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  • D. Johnston
  • 16-06-2019

Learned a Lot

Lot of really good information in here. Listening to this just after I listed to the book ‘Attached’ worked well for me. Definitely worth a listen

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-05-2019

Wow ....

It ... it cured me. I am free now ... finally I am free. thank you thank you very much thank you i am free. guys I would like to give you some parts of my story you know what i am happy now depression-free I used every bit of my power to make this happen. I am from EGYPT and here without any regret it is a MISSED up system I DID NOT FINDA THERAPIST AND I KNEW THAT I WAS SICK SO SICK I KNEW IT IKNEW IT> AT THE END AFTER FIVE THERAPISTS I HAVE DECIDED TWO THINGS
1. TO NOT GIVE A FU** ABOUT EGYPTIAN MEDICAL SYSTEMS

2.TO NOT GIVE UP
I HAVE READ BOOKS A LOT OF BOOKS, REACHED OUT FOR EVERY POSSIBLE OPPORTUNITY OF GETTING HELP THAT ICOULD FIND, DID NOT WASTE MY TIME DID NOT WASTE ANY MOMENT ENROLLED IN A PROGRAM IN SCINCE. GUYS

FIVE YEARS GUYS FIVE YEARS OF PURE STRUGGLING JUST STRUGGLE! I AM TOO TIRED TOO TIRED OF THIS WOUNDS TOO TIRED BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I HAVE SUCCEDED! FINALLY.


TO YOU THE AUTHOR I CAN'T THANK YOU ENOUGH WALLAHY I AM NOT ABLE TO MY WORDS WOULD NEVER CONSIDEREDTO BE ENOUGH. YOUR WORK IS JUST STUNNING!
AND YEAH I GOT EMOTIONALL WHILE WRITTING THIS :"D

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 29-05-2019

Amazing book!

Highly recommended if you are in the path of personal growing. It has practical exercises and very well detail examples. I love it.

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