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Open and honest or a closed book? Ian Tuhovsky explores the art of reading people.

How many times have you assumed that you knew somebody and what they were about, only to be completely blindsided when they behave in a way that contradicts everything you thought you knew?

Reading between the lines

We often think we have a fair amount of ability in reading people until the moment when we’re proven wrong.

Chances are that you’ve heard the phrase, "I read you like a book" which indicates that somebody has understood another’s thought processes to the point that they’re able to predict what that person might do next.

Known as social intelligence, we like to kid ourselves that we are reading people when, in effect, we are mostly just guessing. In fact, for most people, "reading people" is really just thinly disguised empathy where they are projecting their own feelings and thoughts onto the situation and reading it accordingly.

Reading you loud and clear

Without the superpowers of a mind-reader, many of us suffer the consequences of ineffectual people reading throughout our lives. Through a number of exercises and tutorial content, you'll find how to more effectively identify and interpret the behavior of others in order to more fully understand their motivations and intentions.

What you'll learn:

  • How to identify manipulative and toxic personalities - and the four personality types we should be aware of; those who are good and good for us, those who are good but bad for us, those who are bad but good for us and, those who are bad and bad for us
  • The dangers of simplistic labelling such as "good" and "bad"
  • Differentiating between subjective and objective "goodness"
  • How to identify the ways you are being manipulated by others without being aware of it
  • How to read your relationships with others in order to understand your role in them

A must-listen for those who constantly find themselves being let down or manipulated by others.

©2019 Ian Tuhovsky (P)2019 Ian Tuhovsky

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 04-05-2019

Eye Opener

First time listening to this author and narrator, both did great I have no problem listening to this author or narrator. The narrator has a perfect voice for this genre. Great book for self help on how to avoid toxic people, a eye opener for sure.

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  • Beans
  • 01-08-2019

Very informative, great listen

I found this book went over several familiar topics, but put things into a different perspective. It was helpful to learn how to see people- based off of what they are trying to achieve by their actions, as opposed to just calling people "good" or "bad" simply because we like them, or not. thanks very much for helping me to see people more objectively, so I can better protect myself!!

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  • Supercharged J
  • 11-05-2019

Highly recommend. Teaches us how to recognize bad.

One of the best most informative books. I couldn't stop listening. Would have liked two more hours.

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  • Christopher R. Price
  • 04-05-2019

How to detect and avoid toxic people

The book goes into great detail on how to deal with and detect people who can impede your way to a happy and healthy life. By enabling people on how to avoid the toxicity in life, life can be much, much happier.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 10-01-2021

Shortest 3 hour book...EVER.

Listened to this audible book in one go..felt like an hour tops, so i had to check again to see if i had misread the length. narrator is into what he reads, and makes it so easy to listen, compared to others. He also makes some gestures in the way he reads that gives the content more meaning and more understanding. learned probably a couple of good tips, but its a good reminder to what we already know, if not, then it covers most of the variables out there, when it comes to bad people, including diagnosis. This book was a good read for me, Ian, keep writing these books. But for my interests, id love to get more details from an in depth situations/perspective, where the pre- and post analysis of a situation covers in depth knowlegde to be shared. almost like a clinical study, and really juice it from facts. anywho 🤣 I highly recommend this book, regardless of the authors kind request of feedback, being a person who reads between the lines, i kind of got a smug smile on my face in the end, realising what just happened 🤭😉

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  • Dave
  • 01-11-2020

opened my mind to things I didn't understand!

broadened my horizon about the differences between a great majority of people that surround me everyday!

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  • Mariano Rodriguez Arias
  • 18-07-2020

Explains very clearly how to proceed

I like the content, I think that I am still very used to read and learn reading and not hearing, so I had to rewind many parts in order to build my mindset around the concepts, anyway the concepts are very pragmatic, just what is required to deal with everyday life

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  • Liam A. Briones
  • 17-05-2020

Inspiring

I have had a hard time setting boundaries and accepting that people will get what they want from me if I let them and if it is beneficial for me too . I will be more cautious in my interactions from now on. This book was an eye opener.

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  • Persistent BlackDove
  • 13-05-2020

Enlightening

Very enlightening and insightful. Made me realize that I have some narcissistic behaviors as well. Truly a great listen.

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  • Talena Deal
  • 08-11-2019

Excellent read!

This book gave me some valuable insight on dealing with people. It helped me to see how some of the same harmful people keep being in my life.

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  • Kevin Walker
  • 16-09-2019

Knowledge

The book gave me a lot to think about and cleared alot of mist from my eyes and to see clearly who was a bad guy. Would be happy to recommend this book to everybody and anybody that is in this situation

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  • Håvard
  • 01-11-2020

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Really inspiring and useful. We should all be more conscious about the people we deal with

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  • Anonymous User
  • 23-08-2020

Good therapy when you need it most.

I have listened to this a few times to get this into my head. When you are up against it nothing sinks in. This was different though. Straight forward and effective.

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  • Julie Wright
  • 05-05-2020

Excellent!

Really opened my eyes to how socially inept I am. I need to act on warning signs instead of assuming everyone is good. No longer am I going to use my time on someone who shows a lack of empathy and is judgemental. I’m out of there. Lots to listen to in this book so I will be listening again as I think I can move forward now and sniff out a bad guy with the help of Ian. Cheers

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  • Pedro P.
  • 10-12-2019

impressively good

loved the book, easy going but on point . well done to the author, will look for other books from him

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  • Jacqueline
  • 05-07-2019

Insightful

This book is amazing I have been in a difficult relationship for several years which slowly eroded my self esteem and belief in myself . I recognize through reading this book that I was gas lighted and that I have put up with bad guy behavior. This destroyed my confidence and I belief in myself I have suffered symptoms of PSTD and pathological ulturismn- it’s a must read for anybody who has been in an abusive relationship of any kind . Good luck and thank you Ian

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