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Shame & Guilt

Masters of Disguise
Narrated by: Cat Gould
Length: 4 hrs and 7 mins
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Publisher's Summary

"It is my feeling that debilitating shame and guilt are at the root of all dysfunctions in families," says Jane Middelton-Moz.

A few common characteristics of adults shamed in childhood:

  • You may suffer extreme shyness, embarrassment and feelings of being inferior to others.
  • You don't believe you make mistakes, you believe you are a mistake.
  • You feel controlled from the outside and from within.
  • You feel that normal spontaneous expression is blocked.
  • You may suffer from debilitating guilt; you apologize constantly.
  • You have little sense of emotional boundaries; you feel constantly violated by others; you frequently build false boundaries.

If you see yourself in any of these characteristics, you can learn how shame keeps you from being the person you were born to be and how to change that. Shame & Guilt describes how debilitating shame is created and fostered in childhood and how it manifests itself in adulthood and in intimate relationships. Through the use of myths and fairytales to portray different shaming environments, Dr. Middelton-Moz allows you to reach the shamed child within you and to add clarity to what could be difficult concepts.

Listen to Shame & Guilt - you're worth it.

©1990 Jane Middleton-Moz (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

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  • Amy Campos
  • 27-08-2016

take a chance to see how this can change your life

it was a great experience to listen to this book with my wife. Even though we both are in therapy shame and guilt needs to be explained and this does an excellent job.

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  • Muna
  • 10-08-2016

Greatest book I've ever read

My life now makes sense. Thank you Jane. Honestly, I can't thank you enough. I will try to share it with as many people as possible.

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  • Susan
  • 12-05-2013

Great Book

If you could sum up Shame & Guilt in three words, what would they be?

"Eye" or shall I say "ear" opening read! Jane Middleton-Moz really is able to explain what shame really is.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Shame & Guilt?

I like they way she explains the elements of shame by using fairy tales.

Which scene was your favorite?

I liked the story of Perfect and the Giant.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

Knowing I was not alone.

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  • William
  • 03-06-2016

Incredible.

This book has saved my future. I had no clue, but I know now what has hindered my whole life.

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  • Art
  • 23-06-2015

Opened my eyes

Terrific clarity in describing the characteristics of shame, how it is created, how we manifest it in our lives, how it shuts us away from living our lives. More how to clear out shame would be excellent.

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  • BargainHunter
  • 17-09-2014

Great Use of Story to Explain Psychology

Easy to listen to. I love how stories are used to explain psychological principles - similar to Clarissa Pinkola Estes books. The book explains shame and guilt better than it prescribes solutions but is still well worth a read/listen.

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  • Daniel
  • 10-10-2013

Now I am free

What made the experience of listening to Shame & Guilt the most enjoyable?

Its where I came from

What was one of the most memorable moments of Shame & Guilt?

The giant and the chameleon

Which character – as performed by Cat Gould – was your favorite?

The character perfect

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Several times

Any additional comments?

Keep up the good work

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  • Kassandra
  • 19-03-2019

Felt like I was on the couch at a therapy session

Great book for those who love psychology. Great book for parents. Great book for those trying to understand the difference between shame and guilt. Great book for those who experienced shame or guilt (everyone).
There are times I had to pause and process and reflect and ponder what this information meant to me. What characters I sell most connection to.

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  • ivi
  • 24-12-2018

Great

easy to understand and very helpful, I feel a little changed for the better.
good narration.

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  • Napoleon
  • 29-08-2018

Great listen, and very informative.

Very informative in making you aware of the areas in your life that may be riddled with shame. I also feel that the author used well illustrated examples. My onlly reservation, is that more elaboration on how to actively resolve shame whether it be inherited or not could have been provided (possibly in a second book) . The author touches on this briefly near the end, but not enough to help an individual absolve their shame. Or perhaps this was the author's intent.

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  • chris
  • 19-11-2014

Story:good diagnosis with very poor solution hints

Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

Probably not

If you’ve listened to books by Jane Middleton-Moz before, how does this one compare?

I've listened to "After tears" and this book is like 30-35% value of the first one to me. The other book treats the ACOA issue in a much more organized and clear way (in my view). This book "Shame and guilt" evidently shows the high importance of shame and guilt in our lives and yet I have a sense as if this book treats the issue similarly to "a doctor making incisions to a patient on an operation table and then walking away leaving the patient with an open stomach". Good diagnosis, poor solution hints, or unclear hints. Lecture of this book leaves me with a sense of strong frustration that a problem is pointed out and no solution hints given.

What three words best describe Cat Gould’s performance?

Very good narrator.

Did Shame & Guilt inspire you to do anything?

Very frustrated as far as finding ways to solve shame and guilt problems.

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  • Lara
  • 19-01-2015

Insightful and enlightening

Very nicely narrared in a heart-felt way, bringing the author closer to the reader with honest self-disclosure and many examples. As a professional this was valuable learning and teaching material and has not only impacted on my personal growth and understanding of my own story but also my work with clients. A very important topic that encompasses many of our issues.

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  • Charlott
  • 15-07-2013

I have listened to this book many times

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This book has a lot to offer to those who wants to work with themselves. I really liked it and I can still go back and listen to it again.