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  • By: Julie Menanno
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What does a healthy relationship look like?

A good question, in theory, but expert couple's therapist Julie Menanno wants you to ask a slightly different one: what does a securely attached relationship feel like?

The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, a ground-breaking guide to secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment style has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it also helps us understand ourselves in relationships today based on that childhood attachment. How we attach-or don't-ultimately shapes our adult romantic relationship.

Julie Menanno is the couple's therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, which has one million followers dedicated to her wisdom. In Secure Love, Menanno tackles:

  • Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it's called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need).
  • The four attachment types, with exercises designed to help you understand your and any partner's attachment style.
  • How to improve communication in a relationship, including staying connected during conflict and prioritizing vulnerability-rather than protectivity-in communication.
  • "Instead of that, say this" suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in a relationship from a more productive and vulnerable stance.
  • Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple's sex life and how to restore that sexual connection.

Secure Love is a deep dive in understanding how you show up in a relationship and diagnosing the negative cycles you and your partner may get trapped in. It offers you the chance to learn how to establish and maintain a secure attachment to create a lifelong bond.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2024 Julie Menanno (P)2024 Penguin Audio

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With Secure Love, you’ll be armed with eternal wisdom for strengthening your relationship. Julie Menanno exquisitely explores the science behind attachment theory, how our earliest relationships impact our relationship today, and how to create a deeper bond together. A must read for any couple or therapist (Dr. Sue Johnson, bestselling author of HOLD ME TIGHT)
An essential, empowering and practical guide to navigating relationships. Filled with real-life examples from her work as a therapist, Julie Menanno teaches us how to connect with our partners to create a felt sense of safety, security and comfort, even when challenging times inevitably emerge (Jessica Baum, author of ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED)
As a therapist, I've seen thousands of people desperately wanting better relationships but not knowing what that means or how to create them. In Secure Love, Julie Menanno offers a practical, easy-to-understand guide to how attachment theory underlies the challenging patterns we bring into adult relationships and what we can all do to create the secure, lasting love we desire. This is a must-read for every couple, at any stage of their relationship (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE)

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Best attachment book I have read.

I found this book both comprehensive in detail and easy to understand. It gave me a level of insight other books on the topic did not.

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Great book to learn about relationships

I highly recommend this book! Whether you are in a relationship or not, it provides useful strategies and resources to understand yourself and how you show up in relationships! Thank you :)

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A gem from beginning to end

Excellent work. Explains attachment wounds well, providing practical guidance to healing ourselves and each other while navigating conflict within relationships. Heartfelt thanks for your generous offering across all platforms, Julie.

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Beautiful helpful advice. Thank you Julie!

Loved all of the book, very helpful! I especially enjoyed the real life examples Julie gave

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Game changing book saved our marriage!

I’ve been following Dr Julie for nearly two years on Instagram and credit her for the information that saved our marriage and my emotional self! Understanding attachment theory is key to understanding ourselves and our relationships. I see the world with whole new eyes now! This book was long awaited and I purchased it as soon as it came on Audible!!! I am seriously considering buying the paper version too, it is that good. Highly recommend. Best relationship book ever, and I’ve read a lot…very happily married now I sorted myself out and happily, he came along with me. Here’s to another 35 years of marriage and huge thanks DrJulie for your life changing work.

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