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Rapport

The Four Ways to Read People and Talk to Anyone in Any Situation
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Get what you want from even the most difficult characters. 

All of us have to deal with difficult people. Whether we’re asking our neighbour to move a fence or our boss for a pay rise, we can struggle to avoid arguments and get what we want. 

Laurence and Emily Alison are world leaders in forensic psychology, and they specialise in the most difficult interactions imaginable: criminal interrogations. They advise and train the police, security agencies, the FBI and the CIA on how to deal with extremely dangerous suspects when the stakes are high. 

After 30 years’ work - and unprecedented access to 2,000 hours of terrorist interrogations - they have developed a ground-breaking model of interpersonal communication. This deceptively simple approach to handling any encounter works as well for teenagers as it does for terrorists. Now it’s time to share it with the world. 

Rapport reveals that every interaction follows four styles: control (the lion), capitulate (the mouse), confront (the Tyrannosaur) and co-operate (the monkey). As soon as you understand these styles and your own goals you can shape any conversation at will. And you’ll be closer to the real secret: how to create instant rapport.

©2020 Emily Alison, Laurence Alison (P)2020 Penguin Audio

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  • S. Small
  • 04-08-2020

Great Model for Better Listening & Understanding

Emily & Laurence Alison have done fantastic work at adapting their model of working in a high professional context with challenging people to how we can model their thinking and style of interaction in everyday contexts. A very workable model for both the beginner and more advanced communicator and interviewer. Essentially they are helping create workable steps to being a better modeler and listener - helping teach people how to view, understand, empathize with others from their model of the world rather than our own and, when needed, retain our own outcomes and needs in the interaction. The drawback to the Audible version is that beginning in Chapter 5, the authors talk extensively about diagrams that we should use ... that include circles and answering questions -- and do not provide any PDF either with the audible download or online (anywhere I could find). This leaves the listener hearing about circles and using them for comparisons, and drawing lines .... with no visual context at all - making the Audible version less valuable as it leaves a huge portion of what is trying to be achieved by the authors, our introspection and self-modeling of our communication methods, out. This is frustraiting to say the least.

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  • Daniel J Brown
  • 26-09-2020

Very helpful advice

A clear, concise guide to dealing with difficult relationships. The voices for the narration are those of the authors which is refreshing since this is not the case with many books. I think this gives deeper insight and meaning to the words for the reader. The research behind their advice is substantial and could easily overwhelm the reader but it presented in a way that is clear and not intimidating to the average reader. I highly recommend this book!

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  • Tanya
  • 30-08-2020

where are the pdf's?

Very helpful and we'll written but without access to the diagrams and questions, the audible listener can either also buy the paperback or move on.

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  • A Silorak
  • 11-08-2020

The best book I have read all year!

The best book I have read all year! Or should I say read to me; the authors (wife and husband, Emily and Laurence) themselves do a fantastic job of reading their own work. This is a must read, the book is well researched and provides practical real-world advice, whilst also continually engaging and entertaining the reader. Rapport is in essence, a book about you and your relationships with the people you encounter every day. It is a manual and plan for how to improve and continually work on your interpersonal relationships, with both the people closest to you, and the world around you at large. Drawing on the depth of experience and incredible research both the authors have obviously dedicated their lives to collecting and parsing, Rapport is a guidebook for connecting with people in a meaningful and honest way, and enabling the reader to contribute to the world by hearing and interacting with others. A thoroughly enjoyable read, I could not recommend it more highly.

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  • CritL
  • 10-08-2020

A message from the author

I am one of the authors. Penguin apologises that the pdf file is not yet there. All audible listeners will get this very soon... Meanwhile the pdf is available here www.ground-truth.co.uk under publications alongside a number of other free resources

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  • Green
  • 08-08-2020

I am listening to this on audible but no chart

Other books I've downloaded have had an accompanying pdf and they refer to it, but it's not there. Frustrating. I want to see it.

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  • Andrea Carlevato
  • 19-09-2020

Incomplete

This audiobook is meant to be consumed with accompanying reference material, which is called out several times in the book. But it's not included, despite the book being online for months. Pretty bad.

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  • BlackBike
  • 01-09-2020

Essential life skills or secret weapon?

Possibly the most surprising book I’ve read, the insights here are enchantingly revelatory and so very usable in your day to day life. This book could make the world a better place.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 13-08-2020

An outstandingly good book

I have read a few communication, relationship building and reading people books, this book really is there among the best and most valuable. Its robust ideas are delivered matter of factly and supported with really interesting examples all of which makes the book rivetting. I have listened to it twice already, and I am sure I will go back to it again.

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  • J. D. Blake
  • 08-08-2020

Audible version no pdfs

Good book but frustrating that the chapters refer to diagrams and images in pdf, yet nothing accompanying the Audible book.

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