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Mating in Captivity
- Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
- Narrated by: Esther Perel
- Length: 8 hrs and 11 mins
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Publisher's Summary
When you love someone, how does it feel? And when you desire someone, how is it different? In Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel looks at the story of sex in committed couples.
Modern romance promises it all - a lifetime of togetherness, intimacy and erotic desire. In reality, it's hard to want what you already have. Our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. And often, the very thing that got us to into our relationships - lust - is the one thing that goes missing from them.
Determined to reconcile the erotic and the domestic, Perel explains why democracy is a passion killer in the bedroom; argues for playfulness, distance and uncertainty; and shows what it takes to bring lust home.
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- Anonymous User
- 10-02-2019
Cheater apologist.
Cheating will not save your marriage, it will implode it in spectacular fashion and likely cause a lot of collateral damage in the process. The reality is that cheating is a nasty, hurtful, abusive act. And dressing it up in flowery language does not change that. She argues that denying your mate sex is much worse than going out endangering their lives and gaslighting them, denying them a true understanding of their reality.
Esther Perel has no qualifications outside an art therapy degree. She calls herself a psychotherapist which anyone can label themselves with. it's not a real title.
There does seem to be some good advice in the book and some interesting ideas but her stance on affairs gives a free pass to anyone who has or wants to engage in one.
If you're not happy in a relationship fix it or leave.
Brad
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- Duncan
- 19-03-2018
a mature perspective on love
simple: read (listen) to this book. the earlier in life, the better. you won't regret it
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- Amazon Customer
- 22-05-2018
fabulous
Loved it other than the recommendation to flirt with other than your husband. Dangerous territory.
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- Noodle
- 16-05-2020
Jarring experience
I saw Esther on you tube where she was vibrant and insightful. I was disappointed to hear this book which is mechanical sounding, and didn't deliver what I'd hoped in terms of insights into how to deal with married life.
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- Stacey Bout
- 04-03-2018
Essential for all couples
Esther is a gem in the relationship field! This book should be read by anyone who wants to understand themselves, relationships, infidelity and more in order to have a more fulfilling relationship.
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- Anonymous User
- 16-03-2021
Great listening for the work commute
Esther drove me to and from work for the past two weeks. Her connection between family dynamics and perception of love from a young age to how they play into eroticism and relationship dynamics in adulthood is fascinating. She breaks it all down in a very accessible way. I found myself recognising a lot of patterns in the couples used in Esther’s case studies and the learnings stick with you. Highly recommend!
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- Anonymous User
- 08-07-2020
Very engaging. Resonates deeply.
Love ester’s writing style and voice. Easy to listen to, highly engaging. I have adhd and sometimes find myself switching off for large blocks of time whilst trying to listen to an audiobook or podcast but I was more or less actively listening to the entire book, a feat in itself. This book doesn’t provide any clear cut answers, but I don’t think it’s supposed to. It more so holds up a mirror for you to notice patterns in your own behaviour and in your relationship. This book is more about challenging the status quo of committed relationships rather than a how-to guide on bringing sex back into the marital bed.
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- Karina
- 13-03-2018
smart and on point
so 2018 and on point. i love hearing the relative interviews. grounbreaking. very well written
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- annie o
- 19-12-2018
Life changing
Life changing thank you. Making so much easier to understand how we work and how powerful separation is in a marriage.
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- Anonymous User
- 26-04-2020
Exceptional book
Wow! What an incredible book, and yes it has unlocked my erotic intelligence. In the suave of reading this book, it has strengthened my relationship and open me to new possibilities in the space that I once was closed to.
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