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It's Not You
- How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People
- Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula
- Length: 11 hrs and 31 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Brought to you by Penguin.
REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION.
Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to:
- Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
- Confront toxic cycles
- Protect your energy
- Create realistic boundaries
- Reclaim and embrace your true self
Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life.
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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty
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- Harish P K
- 03-04-2024
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Fantastic and life affirming - learned a lot and the mere listening had a therapeutic effect on me
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- Kristen Temple
- 03-03-2024
The validation you didn’t realise you needed
I recently realised my ex of 16 years was never going to change and listening to this book provided so many gems that will help me through this complex process of grieving an abusive relationship and how to continue the journey of becoming more grounded in myself
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- Anonymous User
- 16-04-2024
Amazing!
A realistic & resonating view on healing. I feel hope for the first time in a very long time.
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- Kindle Customer
- 12-03-2024
Compassionate and empathetic
Dr Ramani is a breath of fresh air with her authentic and compassionate approach of how to deal with narcissistic abuse.
I loved hearing her voice read the text as this is healing in itself. This book has given me the tools I need to recover from a lifetime of gaslighting and a family full of narcissts. I'm so grateful.
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- Belinda H
- 05-03-2024
Fabulous
It all makes more sense to me now and I can see a way out
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- Avid Reader
- 16-03-2024
This book saved my sanity.
This book was the push I needed to help me see just how toxic my relationship was, and to leave it. Thank you Ramani!!
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- Anonymous User
- 10-03-2024
The one I will remember
Dr Ramini has a way of making your experience feel validated, and I felt that and so much more listening to this audiobook. Many topics are covered that you don’t even think other people are aware of. I highly recommend this book to anyone going through narcissistic abuse
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- Buzz
- 11-03-2024
Mind-blowing and practical
Dr Ramani does it again! I've enjoyed all her books because the information is pioneering, enlightening and well-articulated.
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- David
- 31-03-2024
Amazing book. Super educational and therapeutic.
Consistently excellent content. I cannot recommend more highly. It felt like the writer knew my experience in great detail. Very easy to listen to and enjoy. A reason to continue my subscription.
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- Anonymous User
- 08-04-2024
Empowering and Timely
90% of this book resonated, and for me was incredibly validating. particularly hearing explanations that I had already worked out myself. One or two of the earlier chapters were less well told and didn't have the same impact as the rest of the book. The opening didn't hook me. But I caught the circle back to it at the end (the dress). Overall I am empowered in my own healing by this book, identified a couple more exercises I will do, and am so damn excited to step into Sarah 2.0. Remember my name, I'll be publishing, as well as a figure in world transformation to "what actually works" in mental health, and a powerful advocate for children and animal victims of narcissistic abuse. My sincere thanks to you Dr Romani. Sarah Commens
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