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It's Not You

How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People

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It's Not You

By: Ramani Durvasula
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REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION.

Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self

Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life.

©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin Audio Abuse Best of 2024 Dysfunctional Families Dysfunctional Relationships Indigenous Creators Love, Dating & Attraction Mental Health Mental Health Awareness Parenting & Families Personal Development Personality Disorders Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Self-Esteem Health Inspiring

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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty
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Dr Ramani is a breath of fresh air with her authentic and compassionate approach of how to deal with narcissistic abuse.
I loved hearing her voice read the text as this is healing in itself. This book has given me the tools I need to recover from a lifetime of gaslighting and a family full of narcissts. I'm so grateful.

Compassionate and empathetic

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It all makes more sense to me now and I can see a way out

Fabulous

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This book was the push I needed to help me see just how toxic my relationship was, and to leave it. Thank you Ramani!!

This book saved my sanity.

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I had heard of Narcissistic behaviour before but I never really looked into it. This book was fabulous in making the average person understand exactly what Narcissistic behaviour is and it goes really deep.
Thank you for an amazing book.

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FABULOUS AND VALUABLE INFORMATION

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Wow! In a world that silences peoples experiences and never teaches the lasting confusion and impact of manipulation, this book is a soothing balm for the soul and the education I needed. Thank you

Essential Reading on repeat

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Thank you for your work and this amazing book. I learnt so much and it was freeing for my soul. Highly recommend.

Outstanding book

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I cannot organise my thoughts at the moment, and will return to edit once, I do, but I am overcome with gratitude for Dr. Ramani having the courage and grit to not be silenced in her tireless work on this insidious and harmful behaviourpatterns and personality type. This book saved my life, without exaggeration. Years of therapy, but so much I was so accustomed to I didn't even know to bring it up in sessions. Decades of treatment resistant major depressive disorder, cPTSD and PTSD, and I finally understand why I was not recovering or responding to medication and tireless use of therapeutic tools on my thoughts, interpersonal communication, etc. If you are drawn to Dr. Ramani's work, this book will be life-changing

Sanity, and life saving insights

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This book is an absolute revelation , I only wish Dr. Durvasula had written it and I had found it years ago ! Especially as I am now very old .

The truth and research .

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Fantastic and life affirming - learned a lot and the mere listening had a therapeutic effect on me

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This book is real honest and so easy to understand and listen too. Awesome reading.

Brilliant

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