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Finding and Keeping Love

An Imago-Based Program for Getting the Love You Want

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Finding and Keeping Love

By: Harville Hendrix PhD
Narrated by: Harville Hendrix PhD
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In the field of relationship psychology, Harville Hendrix has transformed our understanding of what makes us fall in love—and what makes it last. His Imago Relationship therapy, co-created with his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt, is a proven healing process now used by more than 2,000 therapists worldwide. With Finding and Keeping Love, this world-renowned relationship therapist brings you the most important practices and insights from Imago therapy distilled from more than three decades of working with singles, couples, and parents. Whether you’re still looking for that special person or you’re already in a committed relationship, here is a program to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the vital ingredients for deep and lasting love.

The Imago Approach: Understand Love at Its Deepest Level
What causes us to fall in love? Although you may have a conscious idea of the traits you’re attracted to, Harville Hendrix teaches that there is an even more powerful force in the subconscious mind that defines your ideal partner: the “Imago.” This is an image that lives in your deep psyche, created during your childhood from both your happiest and most difficult experiences with your caretakers. To help you develop an awakened approach to relationship, Dr. Hendrix provides you with practical techniques for seeing how your Imago was formed, learning what qualities you truly seek in a mate, and becoming aware of the subconscious forces that ignite the spark of romance.

But what happens when romance wears off? Dr. Hendrix explains that when our idealized projections dissolve and we start to know our partners for who they really are, the relationship enters a “power struggle.” Navigating the turbulent waters of this critical time requires us to learn a new way of communicating, one that he calls “Imago dialogue.” Through step-by-step instruction and guided exercises, Dr. Hendrix teaches you this critical skill for open and honest discourse—where each partner expresses their needs without criticism or negativity—in order to build the foundations for mature, passionate, and unbreakable love.

Our search for love is “our most important human project,” teaches Harville Hendrix. It is through the sweet and sacred power of relationship that we can find true healing, complete the unfinished business of childhood, and return to our natural wholeness. Join this trusted expert on Finding and Keeping Love for a complete home-study course to learn the key insights and skills for building a successful relationship—and to realize the true love you were meant to have.

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Loved it on audible. Clearly directed workbook style, easy to follow. Aimed at couples, any other relationships you have with your children, future children and generational family relationships

Relationships from you

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This is one of the best books I’ve listened to. Life changing - I highly recommend 💗💕

Life changing!

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This book showed me my wounds, my way to heal, the power of love and while has left me raw and I've cried so many tears over lost love, missed opportunities and for my little me.... I now feel finally, at 45 years of age, hope.

Love does exist and I can work with my partner to feel safe exploring it, and being able to love in a way never experienced before.

Every couple needs to listen to this book and every single looking for love needs this too.

My life's forever changed

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Who would have known that you could go from an unconscious relationship to a conscious one. The title says it all- easy to listen to and follow. Definitely had a few tears going- I’m going to be much more prepared for the next relationship, thanks

The mindful relationship guide

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Loved it!
Now that I have listened all the way through once, I'm going to listen once again, but this time with a notebook to write down my thoughts and feelings as well as to complete the exercises at the end of each chapter.
I found this to be very informative and the breakdown of reasons of why we may behave in certain ways within relationships to be most fascinating.
Problem solving and exercises were clear and concise and made me more aware of being more conscious and intentional within a relationship and confirmed my thoughts on putting the relationship before the individual.
I enjoyed Harville's soothing voice narrating this program and the real life examples of dialogue were very helpful.
I'm not sure if this can work with only one person following the program but if not then I think I can still use elements and ideas to help heal some areas of us and become closer with my partner.

Clear & Concise guidelines for a happy partnership

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