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Eight Dates

Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Length: 5 hrs and 9 mins
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Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort - and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on 40 years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams. 

Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range - from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions - will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before - and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2018 John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams (P)2019 Audible, Inc.

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Can’t cope with the robot reader - horrid

So disappointed, this voice is too distracting and hard to take seriously.
Can not believe it was published like this.

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great guide to a loving and successful relationshi

I wish I read this book in my teens so I was aware of the foundations of a relationship and how to build a loving one.
I enjoyed reading about the activities and it helped me work though some of my own inner challenges.

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loved it!

Very good for any stage of love you are currently in. I'll listen to this one again as there is so much in it.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 21-01-2020

What the F. Robot-reader???!?!?!

This is complete bs. The reader is a robot?!?! Am super dissappointed. Change it now.

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  • Chad
  • 16-02-2020

Decent date ideas

This is apparently the product of some smart, hard-working researchers who have spent an amazing amount of time studying relationships and romantic interactions in minute detail. They swear they can tell which relationships will last and which won't. The scientific formula? It depends on whether you usually speak positively or negatively about your partner. It's not hard to imagine that someone who constantly criticizes their partner is unlikely to have a happy, healthy long relationship with them. That hardly seemed to need the intense scientific scrutiny.

But surely there's more to it, more to the book than that, right?

The book itself consists of eight date ideas, each with a suggested conversation. The date ideas are fine. They'll be fun for some people, but not a good idea for others. Ok, great. That could easily be a short listicle somewhere. As for the conversations, they are each important subjects, to be sure. Do they really benefit from being matched with the date ideas? Have the authors run experiments to determine that these eight dates each lead to more successful relationships, have they run scientifically controlled experiments with different permutations to figure out the exact ingredients that make these eight dates magically work? Maybe I missed it, but I heard no such thing. It sounded rather more like the authors discussed what they felt were the most important topics for relationship partners to discuss, then made up random ideas for dates in which to discuss each of those topics.

It isn't BAD mind you. Anyone who can go on regular, physical dates with their partner and is open to new experiences and getting to know their partner better should definitely consider giving this a try. I just expected more substance and scientific backing. Again, it's listicle material. But it's still not bad, so if you like, go ahead and do it. Just be aware that you'll only truly get value out of this book if you actually have those eight conversations (or possibly, the eight full dates) with a partner, it's not just a book you can read and set aside.

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  • Daniel Kaufman
  • 21-12-2019

Loved it

So insightful. I look forward to going on these dates and asking and answering these questions!

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  • Marjorie McLennon
  • 20-12-2019

Fantastic

Practical information for any couple on the journey towards a triumphant marriage! Can't wait to implement what I have learned! Well done!

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  • Geek1
  • 10-03-2020

great book

The Gottman's have figured out relationship! In this book they outline 8 dates that can take your relationship to a deeper, more connected level by guiding the couple through 8 scenarios that open up to vulnerability and love. Cheers to all their hard work and living their principles.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-03-2020

important topics

Great topics to be discussing and rediscussing in every stage and phase of a relationship.

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  • Andrew Laimon
  • 06-03-2020

Very well written!

It really opened my eyes to being a better partner.👍👍👍👍👍 It will make me better.

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  • Bao
  • 26-02-2020

well done

This book was very enlightening when he comes to a relationships and what makes them work well. I would recommend it to all those relationships so looking to being in relationships.