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Boundaries

When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
Narrated by: Henry O. Arnold
Length: 11 hrs and 18 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (23 ratings)
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Publisher's Summary

Boundaries is the book that's helped more than 2 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.

Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.

In the New York Times best seller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:

  • Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
  • What are legitimate boundaries?
  • How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
  • What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
  • How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
  • Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
  • How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
  • Aren’t boundaries selfish?

You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out the Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

©2008 Henry Cloud (P)2017 Zondervan

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Very insightful

I found this book to be very insightful and it has helped me understand a lot about myself and others. Highly recommend.

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Very helpful, l'm gonna listen to it again.

This is a must listen, if you're one of those people who struggle with saying no to people, or tight situations.

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amazing! very eye opening .

I would listen to it again in a heart beat! such depth. you dont have to be christian to listen. it's for everyone. but I loved it even more because I am christian and could relate ❤

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Educational on your own rights

Good book. Made me realise how important it is to look after myself in a biblical way.

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life-changing

absolutely loved this book. have read it multiple times now. perfect for all ages and lifestyles

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  • Victoria Robben
  • 06-06-2018

Wonderful but should probably mention religion or the Bible in title

This is a great book. All the information, examples, and strategies related to boundaries was wonderful! I wish I learned this earlier! It’s helped me so much already, and will continue to help me be more responsible and healthier in my relationships, work, home life, and health. Psychologically sound, with lots of insight and practical wisdom. I’m not religious and at first was a little turned off by all the biblical references, but they were presented very well and from a rational and helpful perspective. No shaming, blaming, guilt, or judgment. I enjoyed learning about the Bible from this positive perspective.

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  • Vikki
  • 20-07-2018

LIFE CHANGING

I would recommend this book to all Christians and non-Christians alike. This book details concrete examples of boundaries and why they are so important. By the end it gives you the steps you will need to implement boundaries and live a healthy non-destructive lifestyle. This book will help you identify what might be holding you back. I never expected to feel so great about a book. I have since gifted this book to 5 people 😀

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-01-2019

A bit Christian heavy but helpful none the less

as with anything they'll be some words you take with you in some words you leave behind

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  • 15-05-2018

Life changing

There was nothing in this book that I didn’t like. It has opened my eyes and giving me insight and understanding of why my life is such a mess. I’ve been incorporating boundaries in my life and it is amazing how much better my life is becoming. Still a work in progress but this gives me so much hope for a better life.

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  • Christina Gelder
  • 21-03-2019

Lots of biblical references

LOTS of biblical references which may be a deal breaker for some and often would be for me but in this case it was fine which just goes to show what a well written book it was and what a great message!

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  • Archelena McDonald
  • 13-03-2018

PHENOMENAL!!!!!

TRULY! THIS BOOK IS A MUST READ/LISTEN. I PURCHASED THE HARD COPY BUT HAD TO THEN BUY THE AUDIBLE DUE TO MY HECTIC SCHEDULE. NEVERTHELESS, IT WAS WORTH EVERY PENNY! I THANK GOD FOR TEACHING US HOW TO LOVE OURSELVES AS WE SIMULTANEOUSLY LOVE OTHERS THROUGH HEALTHY BOUNDARIES. THANKS BE TO GOD FOR USING THESE AUTHORS AS VESSELS FOR SHARING HIS WORD! 🙏

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  • Anonymous User
  • 18-03-2019

Very helpful but heavily Christian

I found this book incredibly helpful, as one who struggles with setting boundaries. However, as a non-Christian I did find the overwhelming amount of Christian references a little distracting. If you are Christian, this book will be perfect for you though.

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  • Nicole Luchaco
  • 04-03-2019

Legitimately changed my life

I read the first 7 chapters 6 years ago, and it radically changed the way that I did life. 7 years later I came back and listened to the whole thing, and had the same experience. This book gave me the courage to say no. And to know when to say yes. I have shared this book with more people than I can count. And whenever they follow through with reading it, I hear the same thing “This book changed my life.”

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  • Timothy J Grzybowski
  • 17-07-2018

Absolutely Amazing! This book changed my life!

this book was amazing! It changed my whole understanding of life! I grew up in a textbook perfect family...parents stayed together, siblings and I were all close, and dad was a pastor in a Lutheran Church. but yet I knew something had to be missing because I'd already been divorced once and was having issues with my kids and my siblings and my parents and another personal relationship as an adult, and I just always felt like I wasn't a good enough Christian to top all that!. after reading this book I have conviction in my No! in order to set boundaries and I'm confident that I'm following God's will as I better myself and help myself to create good relationships with God fearing people that will support my own quest in life life and give me overall happiness! I recommend this book to everyone out there who is wondering if what you're giving is not enough even though you're exhausted everyday of your life!

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  • Thomas Wells
  • 20-03-2018

Good book, but the reader...

What do you think the narrator could have done better?

The narrator seemed to run on. It felt like he did not give enough time between sentences and thoughts in the book. Like maybe he was rushing through it.

Any additional comments?

I do wish the book had a few more examples that are based on what the people actually did. There were a few but, I felt the book could use a few more to show the reader/ listener how and why the person came to the boundary. A little more explanation on understanding how to set appropriate boundaries too. I really enjoyed the biblical context showing that if you can parse it, The Bible is an instruction manual to life. I will definitely be listing to this book several more times!

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  • Havabanana
  • 18-03-2019

wise but quite christiany

I got this because it was cited by Greg Mkeowen of Essentialism fame. it is a wise and comprehensive book and it is well read.

If you are not a believer you will.find yourself editing out the Christian bits as you go. There are Christian books that do not quite the Bible so much.

nevertheless, the general wisdom stuff is great even if it.means this boom would.have been a third of what it is without the theological exposition

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  • O. Pearson
  • 08-02-2019

A religious self-help book

If you’re a deeply religious person wanting to figure out how to match boundaries with your religion, this book is probably for you.

As an atheist it wasn’t for me - the continued references to Genesis and the New Testament meant it interferes with my learning.

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  • Mrs Ann C Bennett
  • 20-01-2019

Far too much religion for me

I did not finish it as it has too many quotes from the bible and it out me off,

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  • Oliver Rolle
  • 28-12-2018

Basically Bible verses

Some good points but just seems to focus on the Bible. Just disappointed in this book.

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  • Mr Sheldon Lewis
  • 05-12-2018

Meaty, enlightening, awakening book!!

Awakening,challenging, enlightening book!! Much needed for all relationships, much needed. Digest and meditate in chapters. Excellent book!! I'm more aware of my feelings and how l treat others.

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  • Dr S.
  • 07-11-2018

great.

very inspiring and it has challenged me to develop boundaries high internally and externally. word based.

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  • Gerard Ouattara
  • 30-10-2018

A must read book

will dedinitely recommend it for anyone finding it difficult to deal with other in any kind of relationship.

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  • Cady M
  • 21-09-2018

Good For Any Relationship

Its an exceptionally good for anyone who are experiencing problems in any relationship. Help you with self-awareness. Will recommend it to anyone.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 19-09-2018

GREAT- fully recommended!

This is a life changing book! Important- Have a support network around you - LOVE conquers all

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  • chiara
  • 12-04-2019

Wonderful book, with a very dull performance

The book is extraordinary. Unfortunately the performance doesn’t make it justice as it’s robotic, dull, with no pause between paragraphs. It’s seems read out of duty rather than out of enjoyment.
Still, the book is incredibly helpful.

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