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Publisher's Summary
Boundaries is the book that's helped more than two million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.
Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.
In the New York Times best seller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.
Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:
- Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
- What are legitimate boundaries?
- How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
- How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
- How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
- Aren’t boundaries selfish?
You don’t have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!
Plus, check out the Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.
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- Anonymous User
- 25-07-2019
Overly christian and bible oriented
Narration was fine, however story was very religious. I work a difficult job amd needed guidance on more robust boundary setting and instead I got bible quotes. Very disappointed.
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- Anonymous User
- 20-02-2019
Very insightful
I found this book to be very insightful and it has helped me understand a lot about myself and others. Highly recommend.
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- Anonymous User
- 09-01-2019
Very helpful, l'm gonna listen to it again.
This is a must listen, if you're one of those people who struggle with saying no to people, or tight situations.
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- Anonymous User
- 27-06-2019
very helpful read
a very helpful read. would recommend. it helped me think of things in another way.
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- Julian Lee
- 22-06-2019
Good but...
Excellent content diminished by constant references to the bible. Very distracting and off putting for the majority of the world who are not Christians.
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- David Gleeson
- 07-02-2020
informative, confronting, and enlightening
my first experience with audiobooks. Henry's voice is palatable, and consistent, from beginning to end, he delivers the text superbly.
if you're struggling with your personal boundaries being violated, or, maybe your sense of boundaries is vague or distorted this book is for you!
boundaries is a relevant and recent publication, and although the authors continually touch upon our comprehension of our boundaries in a Christian mindset, I believe this text could greatly help non-Christian people who suffer a lack of personal boundary understanding and would not be overly put off by the scriptural references
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- Anonymous User
- 06-02-2020
way too preachy
I was recommended this to work on setting boundaries. I couldn't make it past chapter 2 as every second sentence was about "the lord"
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- Rhian Rees
- 12-01-2020
If I wanted to listen to verses from the bible....I’d have bought the bible
Sadly this book is written by Christians for Christians and therefore. It inclusive. The discussion around boundaries does not need to follow specific religion as many ethical ideas are common and shared amongst religions. Quoting from one book does not make for balanced reading and is extremely tedious to the non Christian. This should be made clear on the front of the book or short review
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- Anonymous User
- 10-01-2020
Should be compulsory
I wish I could give a copy of this book to every one in the world, travel time and give one to myself 30 years ago. I am going to read this once a year to refresh myself.
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- Mark Allan
- 19-11-2019
Very good book!
This book is entertaining to listen to and very educational, I learned a lot! I'll probably listen to this book again.
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- Victoria Robben
- 06-06-2018
Wonderful but should probably mention religion or the Bible in title
This is a great book. All the information, examples, and strategies related to boundaries was wonderful! I wish I learned this earlier! It’s helped me so much already, and will continue to help me be more responsible and healthier in my relationships, work, home life, and health. Psychologically sound, with lots of insight and practical wisdom. I’m not religious and at first was a little turned off by all the biblical references, but they were presented very well and from a rational and helpful perspective. No shaming, blaming, guilt, or judgment. I enjoyed learning about the Bible from this positive perspective.
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- Christina Gelder
- 21-03-2019
Lots of biblical references
LOTS of biblical references which may be a deal breaker for some and often would be for me but in this case it was fine which just goes to show what a well written book it was and what a great message!
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- joe bateman
- 25-02-2019
Learned a lot - don’t know what you don’t know
Very encouraging and convicting read. Definitely have to have an open mind. We don’t know what we don’t know. This helps address bad thinking and personal boundary setting for oneself and with others. Opened my eyes to areas in my life that I thought were normal issues that I would just live with. Now I know I can address them and improve. This book provides tangible, step by step ways to address boundaries and setting new ones.
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- Nicole Luchaco
- 04-03-2019
Legitimately changed my life
I read the first 7 chapters 6 years ago, and it radically changed the way that I did life. 7 years later I came back and listened to the whole thing, and had the same experience. This book gave me the courage to say no. And to know when to say yes. I have shared this book with more people than I can count. And whenever they follow through with reading it, I hear the same thing “This book changed my life.”
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- Vikki
- 20-07-2018
LIFE CHANGING
I would recommend this book to all Christians and non-Christians alike. This book details concrete examples of boundaries and why they are so important. By the end it gives you the steps you will need to implement boundaries and live a healthy non-destructive lifestyle. This book will help you identify what might be holding you back. I never expected to feel so great about a book. I have since gifted this book to 5 people 😀
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- robbie samuel
- 30-05-2019
everything i needed and more
John breaks it down he sums me up in a nutshell. i have a lot to work on but eagar to be the best version of me by exercising love and staying true to my boundaries
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- Kyle
- 07-02-2019
More than expected. Uplifting!
This book opened my eyes to the consequences of not having boundaries, and the blessings of having firm boundaries. I feel encouraged and excited to continue developing this skill!
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- Shandra L Jordan
- 17-01-2019
This book will help you reflect<br />
I do not subscribe to a religion but the principles in this book are universal
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- Thomas Wells
- 20-03-2018
Good book, but the reader...
What do you think the narrator could have done better?
The narrator seemed to run on. It felt like he did not give enough time between sentences and thoughts in the book. Like maybe he was rushing through it.
Any additional comments?
I do wish the book had a few more examples that are based on what the people actually did. There were a few but, I felt the book could use a few more to show the reader/ listener how and why the person came to the boundary. A little more explanation on understanding how to set appropriate boundaries too. I really enjoyed the biblical context showing that if you can parse it, The Bible is an instruction manual to life. I will definitely be listing to this book several more times!
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- LDouglas
- 12-09-2019
a classic, still relevant! I highly recommend it!
Some friends recommended this book to me and it has changed my life! I will be buying a physical copy of the book just so I can highlight certain things to stick in my new behavior.
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- Amazon Customer
- 14-11-2019
LIFE CHANGING
For me this book spoke straight into my life, habits, thoughts and feelings. It goes through great lengths explaining all our different experiences, traumas and pasts can be why we don't have healthy boundaries. But even though our boundary conflicts might not be our fault, they are our responsibility. This is an amazing book, Iv been implementing boundaries for the past 6weeks, its been life changing and I fall short all the time, but that's ok because new habits and boundaries will take time to become the norm. I feel like Im starting to take control of my life and have a greater awareness and understanding. Very grateful.
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- Anonymous User
- 10-10-2019
Full of religious moralism
Some good concepts, but spoilt by continuous referrals to the bible. Very much aimed at the American mid west.
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- Catherine Neary
- 13-09-2019
very "biblical" but useful
So there are a few things about this book. The authors assume that you're a rootin tootin Christian God loving soul. For the record I'm an atheist brought up in a Catholic/CofE environment. The authors advocate spanking which is illegal in the UK (though it is only explicitly stated once).
The voice does a good job of coming across in a paternal manner. How he pronounces "maturity" (mat-ooer-itee, instead of match-yuri-tee) which I found rather distracting and annoying. Now because of the voice actor, and because the authors assume you are a Christian already, it doesn't come across as preachy to me.
I found it an interesting exercise and treated it as an extended RE lesson, combined with advice on how to set, maintain, and measure progress with your personal social boundaries. It's also full of examples explaining the principles being taught, some from the Bible - including a new way of looking at the Parable of the Samaritan.
So, I'm taking the bits of this book I like and ignoring the rest. Sound familiar?
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- Amazon Customer
- 17-12-2019
excellent book
loved the book. made me aware of boundary issues l have with myself and other people and how to work on those.it's a real eye opener.
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- Anna
- 25-11-2019
Not for the non religious
Far too many references to God and the scriptures. Off putting and disappointing.
I wanted to listen to boundaries not constant reference to the BIble
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- Amazon Customer
- 18-11-2019
Very helpful book
Very helpful and honest. It doesn't just tell you what to change but how to.
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- Amazon Customer
- 08-11-2019
Life changing
This awesome piece of literature is not only a form of therapy but a spiritual healer and a great eye opener to move through the world and see the light at the end of the tunnel. A fantastic read! Thank you!!
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- Jason D Helyar
- 25-10-2019
Everyone needs to read/hear this!
Such a great and helpful book, that not only is packed with life giving scripture based teaching. But with really helpful and engaging narrative, illustrating the need for change and the results if implemented.
I will be coming back again and again to this. Referring others to it often also.
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- John Roberts
- 12-09-2019
This is a religious book
I cant believe the publisher used docterates in credits. Almost fraudulent. Heavy religious content. Beware
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- Schwetta
- 15-08-2019
amazing book - where was this all my life!?!?!
love this book, explains in v simple words boundaries and how it helps our life in general in relation to family, friends, colleagues, neighbors etc. the almost 11 hours of listening time was so worth it...