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Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home

Narrated by: Toko-pa Turner
Length: 11 hrs and 9 mins
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A 2017 Nautilus Gold Award winner.

Feel like you don’t belong? You’re not alone. The world has never been more connected, yet people are lonelier than ever. Whether we feel unworthy, alienated, or anxious about our place in the world, the absence of belonging is the great silent wound of our times.

Most people think of belonging as a mythical place, and they spend a lifetime searching for it in vain. But what if belonging isn’t a place at all? What if it’s a skill that has been lost or forgotten?

With her signature depth and eloquence, Toko-pa maps a path to belonging from the inside out. Drawing on myth, stories, and dreams, she takes us into the origins of our estrangement, reframing exile as a necessary initiation into authenticity. Then she shares the competencies of belonging: a set of ancestral practices to heal our wounds and restore true belonging to our lives and to the world.

©2017 Toko-pa Turner (P)2018 Toko-pa Turner

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Just Brilliant and exquisite.

What a gift and gifted soul is Toko-pa. This would be the most beautiful and incredibly awake book I have read. I waited for the audiobook and read by Toko- pa herself, it is a balm and a journey that will take you into those places that need to be held and held they will be. Bravo Toko-pa ! Encore please! ❤️🌹🙏

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Remembering Ourselves Home

The content of this book is deep, well-written and very obviously well researched and experienced by the lovely Toko-pa. I loved the book but sometimes found it difficult to listen to a lot of it in one sitting. It's a book that needs a bit of digesting, I think.
Beautiful dreamwork insight and definitely worth persevering with.

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a text to visit again and again

thank you to the author themselves in narrating. there is so much in this book you can relate to.

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Insightful and touching

Toko pa narrates her brilliant and insightful work in sweet and heartfelt tones. Belonging is a work of tremendous prismatic insight, humanity, wisdom and healing. I strongly recommend this audiobook to anyone who has experienced trauma, alienation or ever struggled to feel part of community or to build meaningful relationships with self or others. An important work, read beautifully by its author. Loved it and listen to it often.

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Exquisitely insightful

I couldn’t wait to listen to this each day. It seemed that Toko-pa could relieve the knots and tangles of my thoughts and longings with her stories and wisdom. It was so illuminating, I didn’t want it to end! I have been talking about and recommending this book to all my friends and have bought a hard copy so I can reference it. Very grateful to have come across it.

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A refuge for my soul

This was completely unexpected and I am so grateful to the universe for showing me this beautiful piece of art. For those who love poetry combined with a great depth of understanding of the human experience written and spoken in a way that shifts you from this busy mind state we exist in and if you really listen it will stop you in your tracks to allow something new within you to emerge. A quiet joy. A deep exhale and a feeling of pure loveliness.

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I Feel Seen

How do you capture the feeling of reading the words you've needed to hear?
How can you capture the essence of what is needed within the world?
By reading this Book, it is all this & more.

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Poetry meets philosophy.

Written like a thousand poems, this book contains many thoughtful wisdoms & philosophies on the subject of belonging from the perspective of the author’s life experiences.

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Like Coming Home

Toko-Pa's story and explanation of belonging strike a deep resonant chord that has helped me feel more able to belong to all areas of my life. A heartwarming and fulfilling book.

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5 stars plus for Belonging

Belonging by Toko-pa is by far one of the most beautiful books in my collection of treasures on my bookshelf. I felt like every word, every thought written down by Toko-pa was describing my life, my journey, I resonated with the wisdom that this eloquently written book offered on each & every page. A true masterpiece of our time.
Thank you Toko-pa for belonging & for showing us how to feel a sense of belonging too!
Francesca Abbonizio

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  • 06-09-2018

Relevant content, flawed delivery

The content of this book is very relevant to the person seeking self knowledge / improvement. The problem with this audio version is not the message, but the messenger. The author/reader gasps quite loudly at the end of every sentence, and it takes away the attention from what she is saying. I was wondering if I had turned a bit too purist on the vocal quality, so I paid attention to the other book I was listening to at that point, one of Harry Potter's books read by Stephen Fry. If I pay close attention to the sound I can manage to hear the moment when he inhales after reading a whole paragraph, but it is soft enough to be ignored. Unfortunately in this book that is not the case (for me). I would suggest to you that (GASP) you'd be better reading the text version (GASP) of this very important material (GASP). At least, listen to a sample to gauge what I'm talking about.

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  • PattyQB
  • 15-09-2018

This book will always remain downloaded on my device

Toko-pa’s book has become my bible and her self narrated audio version it’s song.
I cannot rate it high enough through my own inadequate words. And it’s not just for women. I gifted a copy to my neighbor and her husband READ IT FIRST!
Took-pa is tapped into a source you’ll recognize. And her astonishing, beautiful articulation not only lights the way home, but will embolden you to bravely trust that you can find it to too. I couldn’t be more grateful.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 05-11-2019

Deep nourishment in troubling times

I just finished listening to this absolutely fantastic book by the deeply cherished Toko-pa Turner .
It is hard to put into words what a tender and evocative gift she has woven with her luminous words and delicious voice. For hours I felt myself wrapped and held by her excellent reading, and the topics of belonging, living on this planet at this crucial moment in time, dreaming and most of the depth and breadth that make a life. Such a heartening, fortifying and just plain BEAUTIFUL book. Do yourself a huge favor, let Toko-Pa read to you.....even if you have read the book already, listen to it and blossom into a whole new appreciation of the wisdom and beauty through the tender care of her voice. ❤️❤️❤️

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 18-10-2019

Poor quality audio

The author was not taught breath control resulting in a never ending rhythm of gasps and thinly spoken words all held in a malaise like mood that had a depressing affect. Much of the content was interesting but ultimately the author is a fatalist and gives a nod to the incredible harmful new age myth that abuse or trauma are necessary part of one finding ones gifts and paths. To me this represents an unexamined need for certainty of meaning where respect for mystery and the limits of our understanding are a better fit.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 18-09-2019

Pseudo belonging

I can’t get past how often she puts down ‘friends’ (ie a friend is a lovely singer, but rather than celebrating her own voice, she tears down her friend by calling it sickeningly sweet and fake — one example of many). Some insights, yes, but a lot of vilifying others rather than accepting their faults as human. People can accidentally hurt you, and not be villains.

Less about community and belonging than I wanted, more about dealing with how to feel when people you love disappoint you, and you aren’t ready to forgive them.

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  • Seren
  • 19-09-2018

Absolutely love!

This may be one of my favorite, most cherished books of all time. Love her so much, feel so blessed to have experienced this book by having Toko-pa read it to me! Can’t recommend more for healing, root reweaving, and so much more magic!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 03-11-2019

Let yourself be sung alive

Toko-pa’s writing and narration is pure poetry, her story a true inspiration and the wisdom shared a gift to human kind.

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  • Olavi Saarikoski
  • 29-12-2018

For the soul

A powerful voice of the feminine, nurturing and healing! For some reason there was audio jumping back and forth here and there (especially in the middle book, sadly I didn't take note when... :/), perhaps it could be fixed?

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  • Maggie Hess
  • 15-09-2018

A book about needing self EXACTLY what I Need!!!!!

Listening to Toko-pa Turner read this manifesto of wisdom, is like being invited into a beautiful living diary of what knowledge she seems a guru. I heard that a single person disliked the Performance, but I think almost everyone will instead love it because it is an introduction to this person, it is like sitting with her by a camp fire and hearing what she knows. Her voice is so full and awake.

Now, I have been fascinated with dreams for a long time, and am humbled to learn of her dream work. I love that she says "dreaming is nature naturing through us". That it is a biological necessity, personal gateway, and sensitivity.

Frankly, Toko-pa Turner has a language skill that I have rarely ever read, the way she chooses her words and pulls them together in a delicate syntax.

Toko-pa Turner is the wise woman who is teaching me the beginning of understanding myself. Her "otherness within" blows my capacities open.

Write more, publish more, be well!!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 23-09-2018

Piece of art, piece of life

The content, the delivery, the dance. Truly a piece of art. Transformative. Thank you Toko-pa.

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  • pensca
  • 06-09-2018

Wow

What a woman. What a story. The richness of thought, the sharing of happenings in her own astonishing life, the joining of dots between that and the wider world, wider consciousness. So much to absorb and to reflect upon, I will be listening to it again in the very near future. And then probably again. And again

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  • emma
  • 05-10-2018

Great book , poor audio

Wonderful book but the breathiness of the narration is too distracting for me to enjoy it as an audio book.

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  • Sandra88
  • 31-12-2018

exceptional read.

Loved this book. Will listen again. Applues to me in such a profound way. I found it clarifying and enriching.

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  • Juliet Earnshaw
  • 30-12-2018

Inspiring!

This is one of the most beautiful pieces of non-fiction I have ever read/listened to and appeared at the perfect time for me - Toko-pa’s skill as a writer and storyteller is extraordinary and the poetry of her expression reaches far beyond the page and brings her message alive - a message that the whole world urgently needs to hear!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 21-10-2018

Healing to the core, we all belong!

This book heals at the essence of soul, it brings us deep into understanding of SELF through our stories, our dreams and the importance of surrendering to our gut instinct. It's impeccably written and we are guided on deep journeys to help us realise the true alchemy and power of healing our inner world and letting go of false belonging and instead embrace ourselves for who we are. A phenomenal listen.

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  • Markhiiii
  • 14-08-2019

Astonishingly excellent

11 hours of the sweetest, most healing and soulful love poetry I’ve heard in this lifetime. Thank you so much for your devotion to this cause. Truly inspiring

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  • jenny sanders
  • 27-06-2019

beautiful and enriching

what a beautiful, rich, nourishing book. The language, the depth of experience and the love weave an extraordinary map of the path home to ourselves.

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  • soozeekyoo
  • 16-11-2019

Breathy whispering narration versus rich content

This content is wonderful and the narration is challenging. Overly breathy and whispering quality, which is I found challenging to stick with. it's also difficult to hear when travelling. The content is solid, and at times privileged and entitled, however I harvested some rich insights. I have the hard copy of the book and feel certain I'll gain much more with my own voice saying and reading the words. There are sections I'll work with and develop and overall I'm glad I persevered.

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  • adele sales
  • 29-10-2019

My favourite book

I will buy this book for everyone I know. Beautiful and so needed. Thank you Toko-pa x

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  • jessica
  • 23-10-2019

Captivating

I am forever grateful to Toko-Pa for birthing this jewel of a book. Rich, poignant and delicate in its delivery, Belonging never failed to provide me with the words I needed to hear each and every time. I have recommended to everyone I know and will return many, many times. Thank you.