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A Trans Man Walks into a Gay Bar

A Journey of Self (and Sexual) Discovery

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A Trans Man Walks into a Gay Bar

By: Harry Nicholas
Narrated by: Ash Palmisciano
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LONGLISTED FOR THE POLARI PRIZE 2024

'On the bookshelves, there was plenty of stuff on being gay, and much needed, joyous accounts of what it is to be trans, but nothing really that encapsulates what is it to be both - to exist in the hazy terrain between.'

After his relationship with his girlfriend of 5 years ended, Harry realised he was a single adult for the first time - not only that, but a single, transmasculine and newly out gay man.

Despite knowing it was the right decision, the reality of his new situation was terrifying. How could he be a gay man, when he was still learning what it was to be a man? Would the gay community embrace him or reject him? What would gay sex be like? And most importantly, would finding love again be possible?

In this raw, intimate and unflinchingly honest book, we follow Harry as he navigates the sometimes fraught and contradictory worlds of contemporary gay culture as a trans gay man, from Grindr, dating and gay bars, to saunas, sex and ultimately, falling in love. Harry's brave and uplifting journey will show you there is joy in finding who you are.

©2025 Harry Nicholas (P)2025 Hodder & Stoughton Limited
Biographies & Memoirs Gay Studies LGBTQ+ Studies Feel-Good
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"Brilliant and SO funny!" (Elliot Page - BAFTA and Emmy-awarding winning actor)

This singular exploration of one man's journey towards himself shows us we are infinitely distinct and unique, and all the stronger as a community for it. (Andrew McMillan, Poet (100 Queer Poems, Physical, Pandemonium))

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