Episodes

  • 478: An Elegant Day Comes Down to These 5 Choices
    Jan 28 2026

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    If you crave more elegant days, you're in the right place.

    Because – let's be honest, the world doesn't feel very elegant right now. People are at each other's throats. Anxiety seems to be the dominant global emotion. There's tension in the air, and so many women I talk to feel unmotivated, overwhelmed, or stuck. Or all three.

    Here's what I believe: People are craving elegance. They just don't realize it.

    What I've discovered is that most elegant days aren't about what I accomplish. They're about five specific choices I make – five tensions I navigate. When I get these right, everything clicks.

    Here's what we cover:

    • What elegance really means – and why it has nothing to do with appearance

    • The difference between restraint and reactivity (and how composure preserves your power)

    • How constraint – not overwhelm – creates spacious, satisfying days

    • Why savoring the present moment is the antidote to rushing and anxiety

    • The shift from chasing "more" to living from a sense of enough

    • How creating more than you consume restores aliveness, confidence, and elegance

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    15 mins
  • 477: The Well-Dressed Mind: Trying On New Thoughts
    Jan 21 2026

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    Have you ever slipped into a favorite outfit that doesn't quite fit anymore? Not because it's wrong – it just no longer feels like you.

    That's exactly what's happening with many of the thoughts you're carrying around.

    We're so careful about what we put on our bodies. We edit our closets. Remove what's outdated. But in our minds? We're still wearing beliefs we inherited from our past – ideas that have nothing to do with who we're becoming.

    Here's the truth: You can't step into the next version of your life wearing old thoughts. So today, I'm introducing you to a concept I call a Well-Dressed Mind.

    Because the most powerful thing you can change? It isn't in your closet. It's what you're wearing on the inside.

    Here's what we cover:

    • Why most women are still "wearing" thoughts that no longer fit who they're becoming

    • The concept of a well-dressed mind: where psychology meets personal style

    • How outdated, inherited beliefs quietly shape confidence, behavior, and results

    • Why comfort keeps old thoughts in place, and how cognitive dissonance signals growth

    • The power of bridge thoughts to evolve your identity without overwhelming yourself

    • How curating your mental wardrobe helps you step into your future with confidence and ease

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    How to Connect with Tonya Leigh

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/

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    15 mins
  • 476: What No One Tells You About Aging Well
    Jan 14 2026

    Curate a life that feels good as it looks in the School of Self-Image membership. Sign up here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

    What if everything we've been told about aging well is keeping us from actually living well? What if all the products, protocols, and rules for "aging gracefully" are actually doing the opposite?

    You've heard the typical hacks: eat healthy, exercise, maybe even Botox. But those things don't guarantee a well-lived life.

    As I turn 50, I want to share what truly matters when it comes to creating a life that feels as good as it looks. These aren't the surface-level tips you'll find in a magazine. These are the deeper, more sophisticated truths about what it really takes to age powerfully.

    Here's what we cover:

    • Why aging well isn't about holding on to youth, but releasing what no longer fits

    • How knowing and living your true values reshapes the second half of your life

    • The difference between looking young and feeling fully alive

    • Why pleasure, presence, and vitality matter more than constant productivity

    • How cultivating interests and boundaries creates richness, confidence, and ease

    • The power of consciously choosing and telling an aging story rooted in expansion, not decline

    A note on this episode: We experienced some technical difficulties during recording that affected the audio and video quality. The conversation itself, however, is too valuable not to share.

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    How to Connect with Tonya Leigh

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/

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    13 mins
  • 475: How Playing "Make Believe" Made Me Unrecognizable
    Jan 7 2026

    Design the year you want to live inside Live Like An Editor, January 12–16, 2026. Join us at https://schoolofselfimage.com/editor

    What if I told you that the key to becoming the woman you're meant to be has nothing to do with discipline, willpower, or even strategy?

    The secret to a new self-image is actually something you already know how to do… a little game you've already mastered as a child.

    I'm talking about playing "make believe." This one practice (when done with intention) can make you absolutely unrecognizable in the best possible way. Every transformation I've experienced in my life, from building a multimillion-dollar business to living my dreams, started with this practice.

    I promise you: This is the most practical, powerful tool you can use to transform your life.

    Here's what we cover:

    • Why "playing make-believe" is one of the most powerful tools for reinvention

    • How acting as your future self rewires your brain and shapes your identity

    • Real-life examples of becoming unrecognizable through intentional identity practice

    • Why becoming the next version of you requires bold imagination, courage, and play

    • How to stay committed when others doubt, judge, or misunderstand your evolution

    • How living from your future (not your past) turns vision into reality and magic into results

    Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review!

    You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms.

    How to Connect with Tonya Leigh

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/

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    13 mins
  • 474: The 10-Minute Shift You Must Make Before the New Year
    Dec 31 2025

    Become the masterpiece of your own making inside Live Like An Editor Workshop, January 12-16, 2026. Join us at https://schoolofselfimage.com/editor

    Most women go into the new year trying to fix themselves: Fix their bodies. Fix their habits. Fix their homes. Fix their lives. All focused on this state of repairing what's "wrong".

    But what if the breakthrough you're craving doesn't come from trying to change your "flaws" but from designing what's possible? The next version of you shouldn't be created through pressure, but through vision.

    With this 10-minute practice, you can create the game-changing shift that will make your entire year feel different.

    Here's what we cover:

    • Why trying to "fix" yourself keeps you stuck, and how design creates real change

    • The shift from self-repair culture to living from vision, creativity, and desire

    • How embracing wabi-sabi turns imperfections into texture, depth, and beauty

    • Why viewing your life as a magazine changes how you set goals and make decisions

    • The difference between repair-based habits and design-based choices in everyday life

    • How stepping into the role of editor-in-chief empowers you to create a year that feels like yours

    Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review!

    You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms.

    How to Connect with Tonya Leigh

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh

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    9 mins
  • 473: 3 Tiny French Secrets that Changed My Self-Image
    Dec 24 2025

    If today's episode resonates, you'll love The Self-Image Manifesto – a declaration for the woman who's ready to live fully expressed. Download now at https://schoolofselfimage.com/manifesto-pod

    Imagine if three small, French secrets – simple, practical, and quietly powerful – could completely shift how you see yourself.

    In this episode, I'm sharing three lessons I learned during my time in France that didn't just change how I lived – they became the foundation of the work I do today.

    Together, we explore how choosing quality, tending to your own inner world, and loving what you already have can create profound identity shifts – without hustle, pressure, or waiting for your life to look different first.

    Here's what we cover:

    • The three French "secrets" that subtly but powerfully reshape your self-image

    • Why choosing quality – especially in your thoughts – raises your standards and sense of self-worth

    • How cultivating your own garden ends comparison and strengthens self-trust

    • What changes when you stop managing other people and start leading yourself

    • Why loving what you already have creates true abundance (without dimming your desire)

    • How these French secrets build worthiness, leadership, and confidence from the inside out

    Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review!

    You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms.

    How to Connect with Tonya Leigh

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh

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    YouTube: https://schoolofselfimage.com/yt-tl

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    15 mins
  • 472: These 2 Identity Questions Changed My Year
    Dec 17 2025

    Take the two questions from this episode even deeper, download The Art of the Edit for five more essential questions to curate your most authentic year. https://schoolofselfimage.com/art-pod

    Imagine if two simple questions could completely rewrite your year. Not by pushing harder or doing more, but by shifting your self-image. These are the questions that change everything as you move into a new year.

    One of the greatest resources I use in my life is to ask profound questions – none of the fluffy, surface-level stuff. In fact, I disappear for 24 hours every December to gain clarity on what I truly want.

    And here's the truth: answering these two questions that I'm sharing today can honestly shift your next 365 days from habitual to intentional.

    Here's what we cover:

    • Why the two questions you ask yourself can determine the identity you build next year

    • How tolerations drain energy, lower standards, and quietly shape a self-image of "settling"

    • Why choosing one thing you're done tolerating creates powerful, focused transformation

    • How identity (not willpower) is what ends old patterns and habits

    • The practice of becoming the woman who no longer tolerates the old version of your life

    • How small, daily actions reinforce a new self-image and create your next-level year

    Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review!

    You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms.

    How to Connect with Tonya Leigh

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/

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    12 mins
  • 471: Disappear for 24 Hours… and Become Unrecognizable
    Dec 10 2025

    If you're ready to trade tired resolutions for a year that feels like a work of art, step inside the School of Self-Image for The Curated Year Workshop. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join

    Every December, a mysterious entry appears on my calendar that simply says: UNAVAILABLE. No meetings. No calls. No exceptions. Those closest to me don't even ask anymore – they know I'm about to perform my annual disappearing act.

    I've done this long enough now to know… Those 24 hours are one of the biggest reasons my life doesn't feel like the same year dressed up in different clothes.

    Today, I want to tell you why I disappear for one day every year, what the holiday overwhelm is really costing you, and why giving yourself this kind of space can completely change your self-image and the year ahead.

    Here's what we cover:

    • Why stepping away for 24 intentional hours can break the cycle of repeating the same year

    • How distance, rest, beauty, and new environments create clarity

    • The difference between default goals and vision-led goals rooted in desire and honesty

    • How curation (reflecting, imagining, and choosing) reshapes both your year and identity

    • Why most women stay stuck in loops and how pausing helps you see new possibilities

    • How designing your year like a masterpiece leads you to become the woman you want to be

    Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review!

    You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms.

    How to Connect with Tonya Leigh:

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/

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    12 mins