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giving (un)bothered

giving (un)bothered

By: Alana Banks and Jelka Lepever
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Two (un)bothered best friends navigating LGBTQ+ dating, friendships, and adulting in your 20s. Tune in for candid, unfiltered conversations on dating disasters, relationship advice, the ups and downs of friendships, and the rollercoaster of adulting. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or figuring it all out, join us each week for hilarious stories, relatable struggles, and the chaos of life in your 20s. Get ready for the real, messy, and entertaining moments that make adulting way more fun.

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Alana Banks and Jelka Lepever
Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • sapphic dating wrapped & etsy witch soulmate reading
    Dec 24 2025

    As 2025 comes to a close, we’re unwrapping our sapphic dating lives. Think of it as the ultimate end-of-year recap, but messier. In this episode, we dive into our personal “Dating Unwrapped” stats: the unforgettable highs, the total disasters, awkward first dates, unexpected sparks, and everything in between. From ghosting fails to swoon-worthy moments, we’re sharing what this year really taught us about love, lust, and all the chaos that comes with modern queer dating.


    And because we can’t resist a little magic, we’re also getting a soulmate reading from an Etsy witch: will it predict our future loves? Or just give us a good laugh? Either way, buckle up for stories, laughs, cringe-worthy confessions, and maybe a sprinkle of hope for 2026.


    Find us on:

    - Instagram

    - Tiktok

    - Youtube

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    59 mins
  • the L word debrief : loving Bette Porter is a red flag
    Dec 10 2025

    This week on giving (un)bothered, we’re deep-diving into The L Word — the iconic, chaotic, ahead-of-its-time series that transformed queer TV history and paved the way for modern LGBTQ+ representation in media. If you’ve ever searched for The L Word analysis, character breakdowns, or why this show still has such a cultural grip, this episode is for you.


    We get into everything:

    ✨ The L Word characters we relate to most: the personalities and storylines that still hit today

    🔥 The L Word characters we dislike: the ones who continue to divide fans

    💖 The best L Word couples and the love stories that live rent-free in our minds

    🤨 The weirdest dynamics and plotlines, because no show is messier in the best way.

    🚀 Why the show was so ahead of its time and its lasting influence on queer storytelling.


    We also touch on the hype around Wicked Part 2, sharing our thoughts and reactions after watching the movie!


    Find us on:

    - Instagram

    - Tiktok

    - Youtube

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    43 mins
  • surviving long distance relationships : facetime dates, communication & staying independent
    Nov 26 2025

    Long-distance relationships are NOT for the weak and on today’s episode, we’re unpacking everything that keeps a long distance relationship alive… and everything that can ruin it.


    From FaceTime dates, to over-communicating vs. under-communicating, to figuring out how to stay independent while still being obsessed with your partner. We’re breaking down the real, unfiltered LDR experience.


    If you're navigating a queer long-distance relationship, thinking about starting one, or deep into those “I miss you” spirals… this episode is your comfort listen. 💕📱✈️


    find us on:

    - Instagram

    - Tiktok

    - Youtube

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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    38 mins
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