Have you ever hidden a self-help book? Closed a browser tab when someone walked by? Downplayed that you’re seeing a therapist or coach?

You’re not alone. That moment of shame isn’t just yours—it’s part of a deeply rooted belief many women carry: If I need help, it means I’m weak or broken. But what if that belief is the very thing keeping you stuck, disconnected, and exhausted?

In this powerful episode of the Your Utmost Life podcast, we explore the hidden cost of this belief—and the path to reclaiming your strength through authentic connection and support.

Inside, you’ll learn:

• Why capable women feel ashamed of seeking support
• How the belief that “I should handle it on my own” fuels isolation, performance, and burnout
• How cultural praise for self-sufficiency created the Identity Eraser Effect—and why it’s time to undo it
• The 3 mindset shifts that change everything:
  1. Awareness without judgment
  2. Reframing help as a strategic investment
  3. Practicing presence over performance
• What it looks like to go from Invisible Mama to Utmost Woman—without walking away from the life you’ve built

You’ll also hear a raw personal story about hiding a book on body dysmorphia and the wave of shame that followed—plus practical steps to build what I call your Growth Résumé and begin seeing support as a sacred strength.

Take one small, brave step today—journal about the belief, share this episode, or finally explore that resource you've felt drawn to but hesitant to pursue.

This is your invitation to step out of isolation, into growth, and begin designing a life with truth, intention, and connection at its center.

📲 Share this episode with a friend who needs to know she’s not broken—just buried. Let her know she’s not alone.

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Shame has a way of silencing us—especially when speaking up would serve us most. Have you ever tucked away a self-help book when someone walked in? Or made a casual excuse for that personal growth video that “just started playing”? That tiny flicker of concealment reveals something deeper: a quiet belief that needing help means you’re somehow broken.

This belief is part of a cultural myth that strong women should figure it all out alone—and it creates the perfect trap. You can’t grow without acknowledging where you’re struggling, but acknowledging it feels like confirming your inadequacy.

The irony? The most successful, confident, fulfilled people in the world aren’t avoiding help—they’re intentionally seeking it. In fact, 94% of top performers work with coaches. The strongest women don't avoid help—they embrace it as their superpower.

For years, I lived behind a “perfect” image while silently struggling, believing that if I were truly strong, I wouldn’t need support. But the breakthrough came when I realized this: asking for help isn't weakness—it’s wisdom.

In this episode (and this post), we’ll walk through five transformative practices that will help you shift your relationship with support:

1. Conscious Awareness
2. Building an Evidence Portfolio
3. Reframing Help as Strategic Growth
4. Graduated Exposure
5. Embracing Discomfort as Growth

You’ll discover that the discomfort you feel when reaching out isn’t a sign to pull back—it’s proof that you’re standing at the edge of real, powerful growth.

So this week, when shame about needing support tries to creep in, pause and remind yourself: This isn’t weakness—this is wisdom.
Being an Utmost Woman isn’t about having it all together. It’s about doing what matters, from a place rooted in who you truly are.

What if you’re not broken at all? What if… you’ve just been buried?

✨ Take one small step toward support this week—listen to a podcast, journal, or open up to someone you trust. Growth doesn’t have to be big to be brave.

📲 Share this episode with a friend who needs to know she’s not broken—just buried. Let her know she’s not alone.

🔗 Follow along on Instagram for daily encouragement and behind-the-scenes heart-to-hearts: @yourutmostself

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You've done it all—affirmations, vision boards, gratitude journals. You’ve picked your word of the year, whispered “I am enough” into your mirror, and tried to stay positive… but something still feels off.

That quiet ache—the emptiness that lingers despite your best efforts—has a root cause most personal growth advice skips over. And it's not because you're broken or undisciplined.

It’s because you’re building on a foundation that was never solid to begin with.

In this episode of The Your Utmost Life Podcast, we explore the neuroscience, psychology, and soul behind why motivation fades—and what you truly need instead. You'll learn:

• Why 80% of people abandon their growth goals in just 6 weeks (hint: it's not lack of willpower)
• How subconscious beliefs formed in childhood silently override your conscious efforts
• Why you can’t positive-think your way out of a story you’ve never questioned
• What’s actually keeping you stuck in the False-Healing Trap—and how to get free

We’ll walk through a new path to real transformation, one that doesn't demand you do more, but invites you to go deeper. You’ll discover three powerful Self-Worth Anchors to help you rebuild from within:

1. Get honest about what you really believe—beneath the mantras and mirror quotes
2. Trade surface positivity for sacred honesty—because pretending isn’t healing
3. Begin from identity, not effort—you don’t build worth, you uncover it

This journey isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been before the world told you who to be. You are not broken—you are buried. And it’s time to rise.

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Ready for a Different Kind of Growth?

Let this episode be your invitation to stop fixing and start uncovering. Because when healing starts at the root—when you rebuild from your worth—everything else follows naturally.

👉 Download your free Alignment Check-In and take the first gentle step toward a life built on truth, not performance.

📲 Share this episode with a friend who needs to know she’s not broken—just buried. Let her know she’s not alone.

🔗 Follow along on Instagram for daily encouragement and behind-the-scenes heart-to-hearts: @yourutmostself

🎧 Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a conversation that reminds you who you are.

✨ Continue your journey at Your Utmost Self - free resources, articles, and more.