I had to sit with what God showed me today. We are quick to believe the bad in people, quick to repeat it, quick to disqualify them, but when it comes to ourselves, we want grace, mercy, and understanding. That contradiction? God had something to say about it… and it might be the very reason some blessings are delayed.

There’s something God spoke to my spirit today that I can’t shake, and I won’t pretend it was comfortable. He reminded me that He is a God of second chances—and if I truly say I know Him, then my posture toward people has to reflect that truth.

Here’s the problem though. Many of us are excellent at believing the worst about others. If someone messes up, fails publicly, or does something that doesn’t sit right with us, we lock them into that moment forever. We replay it. We define them by it. We cancel them out completely. But then… when it’s our past, our mistake, our weak season, suddenly we want God to “understand,” to “see our heart,” to “remember our growth.”

God showed me how backwards that is.

When we only believe the bad in people, we leave no room for correction, growth, or redemption. And that’s dangerous, because correction is how people learn. Without it, without patience, without someone willing to see potential instead of permanence, how does anyone ever become better?

People do not always remain where they are.

You didn’t.
I didn’t.

And God didn’t meet us at our worst just to abandon us there.

What really struck me was this: when we cancel people out completely, we are silently telling God, “I decide who deserves grace.” And that’s not our place. That’s not our authority. Judgment belongs to God alone.

God is not a God of “just a select few.” He is a God of everybody. And in this season, a lot of people are praying for blessings while simultaneously asking God to punish someone else. But mercy doesn’t work like that. You don’t get to demand grace for yourself while denying it to others. That door doesn’t stay open.

This is why some people feel stuck spiritually.
This is why prayers feel unanswered.
This is why peace feels distant.

It’s not always because of what was done to you—it’s sometimes because of what you refuse to release from you.

God showed me that paying attention only to the bad can blind you to the good. And when you miss the good, you miss what God might be trying to grow. You miss the lesson. You miss the purpose. You even miss the blessing that can come out of an uncomfortable situation.

That doesn’t mean ignoring wrongdoing.
That doesn’t mean excusing behavior.
That doesn’t mean trusting people blindly.

It means understanding that God specializes in transformation, not permanent labeling.

And here’s the part that really sat heavy with me: many of the same people who were given patience, time, and mercy by God are now the loudest voices saying someone else should get none. That’s not discernment—that’s pride dressed up as righteousness.

God touched my soul with this because He made it clear:
If you want mercy, you must walk in mercy.
If you want grace, you must extend grace.
And if you want God to work in your life, you cannot block Him by trying to do His job.

I go much deeper into this on the podcast—what God showed me, what Scripture confirms, and why this message is critical right now. This post is just the surface. The conversation? That’s where the real revelation is.

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One thing God has really been teaching me lately is this: we have to stop trying to explain ourselves to people who were never meant to understand us in the first place. Especially when it comes to our relationship with Him. I used to feel like I had to explain why I move the way I move, why I don’t do certain things, why my heart is sensitive, why my convictions are strong, why I choose obedience even when it costs me comfort or relationships. But God gently showed me something that changed everything—this walk is not for public approval.

Your relationship with God is exactly that: a relationship. And just like any real relationship, it’s personal. Intimate. Sacred. There are things between you and God that were never meant to be put on display or explained to people who don’t share that same heart posture. Not everybody is supposed to “get” you, and not everybody deserves an explanation. That was freeing for me.

We spend so much time trying to prove who we are to people who already made up their minds about us. We try to explain our love for God, our obedience, our boundaries, our growth—when in reality, if you already know who you are and God knows who you are, what does it matter who else believes it? That hit me hard. Because a lot of the exhaustion we feel spiritually doesn’t come from serving God—it comes from trying to defend our walk to people who aren’t walking with Him.

God reminded me that my job is not to convince people. My job is to obey. To love. To show up daily and do what the Father asks of me, even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it’s misunderstood. God does the rest. He always has. He doesn’t need my help explaining Him. He doesn’t need me to argue on His behalf. He doesn’t need me to prove my righteousness. He needs my heart.

And here’s the truth that brought me peace: the people whose hearts actually align with God will see you without you saying a word. They’ll recognize the fruit. Not just the deeds, not just the talk, not just what you post or preach—but the heart behind it. Because fruit isn’t just what you do; it’s who you are when nobody is watching. It’s how you respond under pressure. It’s how you love when it costs you something. It’s how you forgive when it hurts.

We know the Scripture says, “You will know them by their fruits,” but God showed me something deeper. It’s not just about actions—it’s about alignment. When someone’s heart truly matches yours in God, you’ll feel it. There won’t be confusion. There won’t be constant explaining. There won’t be competition or comparison. There will be recognition. Peace. Understanding without words.

And when the hearts don’t match? You’ll feel that too. And that’s not an invitation to argue or convince—it’s an invitation to release. Let God handle it. Let Him reveal, correct, and align. You don’t need to chase validation when you already have divine confirmation.

So now, I move differently. I don’t explain my obedience. I don’t justify my faith. I don’t argue my convictions. I live them. I show my love for God by doing what He asks each day. And I trust that the people who are truly from Him—the ones with matching hearts—will see it clearly. Everyone else? That’s not my assignment.

This is to reaffirm the message I mention The prophecy I gave in August 2025!! GOD IS SPEAKING!!!!
https://kingdominfluencemedia.com/2025/08/21/nicki-minaj-god-is-speaking/