One thing God has really been teaching me lately is this: we have to stop trying to explain ourselves to people who were never meant to understand us in the first place. Especially when it comes to our relationship with Him. I used to feel like I had to explain why I move the way I move, why I don’t do certain things, why my heart is sensitive, why my convictions are strong, why I choose obedience even when it costs me comfort or relationships. But God gently showed me something that changed everything—this walk is not for public approval.

Your relationship with God is exactly that: a relationship. And just like any real relationship, it’s personal. Intimate. Sacred. There are things between you and God that were never meant to be put on display or explained to people who don’t share that same heart posture. Not everybody is supposed to “get” you, and not everybody deserves an explanation. That was freeing for me.

We spend so much time trying to prove who we are to people who already made up their minds about us. We try to explain our love for God, our obedience, our boundaries, our growth—when in reality, if you already know who you are and God knows who you are, what does it matter who else believes it? That hit me hard. Because a lot of the exhaustion we feel spiritually doesn’t come from serving God—it comes from trying to defend our walk to people who aren’t walking with Him.

God reminded me that my job is not to convince people. My job is to obey. To love. To show up daily and do what the Father asks of me, even when it’s uncomfortable, even when it’s misunderstood. God does the rest. He always has. He doesn’t need my help explaining Him. He doesn’t need me to argue on His behalf. He doesn’t need me to prove my righteousness. He needs my heart.

And here’s the truth that brought me peace: the people whose hearts actually align with God will see you without you saying a word. They’ll recognize the fruit. Not just the deeds, not just the talk, not just what you post or preach—but the heart behind it. Because fruit isn’t just what you do; it’s who you are when nobody is watching. It’s how you respond under pressure. It’s how you love when it costs you something. It’s how you forgive when it hurts.

We know the Scripture says, “You will know them by their fruits,” but God showed me something deeper. It’s not just about actions—it’s about alignment. When someone’s heart truly matches yours in God, you’ll feel it. There won’t be confusion. There won’t be constant explaining. There won’t be competition or comparison. There will be recognition. Peace. Understanding without words.

And when the hearts don’t match? You’ll feel that too. And that’s not an invitation to argue or convince—it’s an invitation to release. Let God handle it. Let Him reveal, correct, and align. You don’t need to chase validation when you already have divine confirmation.

So now, I move differently. I don’t explain my obedience. I don’t justify my faith. I don’t argue my convictions. I live them. I show my love for God by doing what He asks each day. And I trust that the people who are truly from Him—the ones with matching hearts—will see it clearly. Everyone else? That’s not my assignment.