In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah speak with Theophila Pratt, a Gloriavale cult survivor, qualified paediatric occupational therapist, author, and fierce advocate for freedom and healing. Theo, formerly known as Honey Faithful, grew up in Gloriavale, an isolated and highly controlled Christian community on the West Coast. At 18, she was cast out after challenging the regime, with nothing but a suitcase, a ticket to Auckland, and little understanding of how the outside world worked.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode includes discussion of religious trauma, psychological abuse, coercive control, childhood neglect, and sexual abuse. While we approach these topics with care and sensitivity, some content may be distressing for listeners. Please take care while listening and prioritise your wellbeing.

Theo shares what life inside Gloriavale was really like — from the oppressive rules that haunted every moment, to the calculated psychological control that deprived people of their individual identities, especially for girls and women. Theo talks about the subtle acts of rebellion that sparked her path to freedom, what it took to start again from scratch, and how she’s now helping others do the same.

Theo reflects on trauma, therapy, rage, spirituality, and walking a determined road to self-trust and reclaiming her voice and identity. Her memoir, ‘Unveiled: A Story of Surviving Gloriavale’ exposes the realities of life inside the cult and offers hope to those seeking freedom from high-control environments.

Links as mentioned in the show:

• Buy Unveiled by Theophila Pratt from https://www.theopratt.com/
• Gloriavale Leavers’ Trust: https://gloriavaleleavers.org.nz/
• Follow Theo on Instagram @lifeischoicenz
• Watch TVNZ documentary, Escaping Utopia

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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk to sex and relationships therapist, Jo Robertson, about how couples can reconnect emotionally and physically during the unsexy seasons of raising kids, working jobs, and navigating the fatigue of everyday life. Jo shares why desire doesn’t just “magically turn up at the supermarket,” how we can reframe sex as intentional intimacy, and the code words that can take a conversation from getting awkward to feeling fun.

Ever felt tapped out, touched out, or like intimacy has slipped off the priorities list? Whether you're struggling with mismatched libidos, fear of rejection, or simply feel like you're “never in the mood,” this one’s for you.

To hear the full episodes with Jo, head to:

• Sex and relationships Q&A (Part one) with Jo Robertson
• Sex and relationships Q&A (Part two) with Jo Robertson
• Navigating new sexual landscapes with Jo Robertson
• Follow Jo @jorobertson.therapy on Instagram

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In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah (Bean) are together again and giddy with the excitement of being reunited, but not ruling out bringing new friends into the mix. From fluid friendships and actual bodily fluids, to traumatic office flashbacks and passive-aggressive colleagues, the chat is a glittering constellation of unmoderated carnage.

As mentioned in the show:

• Abi Mills Comedy — The co-worker that secretly hates you
• Ready for School book by My Big Moments

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