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Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love

Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love

By: Ashley Jameson Heather Kolb Pure Desire Ministries
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 Since 2016, Ashley Jameson and Heather Kolb have supported, educated, and equipped women to experience sexual health, healing from betrayal trauma, and success in relationships. We know what it’s like to be in crisis—searching for answers—and continually hearing the churchy answer. Each week, you’ll hear real talk about sex and relationships from a biblical and clinical perspective.2024 - Pure Desire Ministries Christianity Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Spirituality
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  • 083 - When Divorce Might be the Healthiest Option

    083 - When Divorce Might be the Healthiest Option
    Dec 23 2025
    Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.On today’s episode, we answer the following questions:- My husband and I are 3.5 years post-discovery, yet he still avoids taking ownership for issues tied to his long-term sexual addiction unless pressured. As Christians, I feel truth-telling should be shared, not one-sided, and I’m troubled this wasn’t addressed earlier in our counseling. How can I move forward?- After 27 years of marriage, I discovered my husband’s long-term emotional and physical infidelities, causing severe trauma. Therapy didn’t address full disclosure, boundaries, or cessation of contact with his affair partners. He avoids discussing the past and blames me for focusing on it. How can I truly move forward and heal?- After 30 years of marriage, I’ve discovered my husband secretly recorded us having sex despite my boundaries, causing deep feelings of violation and exploitation. He shows little affection and hasn’t sought help, while I’m in counseling and a recovery group. Is it reasonable for me to feel done with the marriage?If you have a question you’d like us to answer on Unfiltered, email us at unfiltered@puredesire.org. We can’t wait to hear from you!Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videosResources:Is It Me?If He's So Great Why Do I Feel So Bad?The Emotionally Destructive MarriageSurviving an Unwanted Divorce Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos GET STARTEDFree eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal TraumaFree eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From PornSchedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling ConsultationJoin A Pure Desire Online Group SOCIALSFollow us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramFollow us on X (Twitter) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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    19 mins
  • 082 - Desire, Dreams, and Waiting Well

    082 - Desire, Dreams, and Waiting Well
    Dec 16 2025

    Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.

    On today’s episode, we answer the following questions:

    - What books would you recommend reading to help me understand sex and orgasm?

    - After 18 years of marriage and repeated betrayals by my husband, I’ve been divorced for two years and abstinent, yet I struggle with a strong sexual desire I’m unaccustomed to outside marriage. How can I navigate these desires faithfully while waiting for a godly partner?

    - I keep having dreams about sex and cheating on my husband. I wake up feeling guilty. Is this a reflection of my character, and is there a way to make the dreams stop?

    If you have a question you’d like us to answer on Unfiltered, email us at unfiltered@puredesire.org. We can’t wait to hear from you!

    Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

    GET STARTED

    Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

    Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn

    Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation

    Join A Pure Desire Online Group

    SOCIALS

    Follow us on Facebook

    Follow us on Instagram

    Follow us on X (Twitter)


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    21 mins
  • 081 - Betrayal, Legal Issues, & Hopelessness

    081 - Betrayal, Legal Issues, & Hopelessness
    Dec 9 2025

    On today’s episode, we answer the following questions:

    - My husband’s parents are loving and generous, but since D-Day, he hasn’t been honest with them about his actions or the consequences. He was fired and had to hire a lawyer due to his acting out behaviors. I’ve become his secret keeper, which leaves me resentful and conflicted. How much truth should I share with his parents without oversharing but so they know it’s gone beyond porn use?

    - I’m almost finished with my first Betrayed & Beyond group, and while the community has been incredibly helpful, I’ve also felt isolated. Few seem to understand the added burden of legal issues from a spouse’s acting out. What support exists for those of us navigating court or jail situations while choosing to stay?

    - In the midst of the betrayal, how do you hold on to hope that this too shall pass?

    If you have a question you’d like us to answer on Unfiltered, email us at unfiltered@puredesire.org. We can’t wait to hear from you!

    Resources:

    Group Leader Training

    Female Groups Point of Contact - kellyj@puredesire.org

    Male Groups Point of Contact - stuartb@puredesire.org

    Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@_UnfilteredPodcast/videos

    GET STARTED

    Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma

    Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn

    Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation

    Join A Pure Desire Online Group

    SOCIALS

    Follow us on Facebook

    Follow us on Instagram

    Follow us on X (Twitter)


    Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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    16 mins
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