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A lot of people don’t actually want intimacy.
They want reassurance.

In this episode of Unbuttoned, Dorian breaks down the difference between emotional comfort and real closeness, why reassurance gets mistaken for connection, and how people stay emotionally nearby without ever stepping forward.

This conversation is about presence, responsibility, and learning to stop negotiating with inconsistency.

Calm clarity isn’t cold.
It’s information.

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Today on UNBUTTONED, we’re getting brutally honest.

Not about sexuality — but about behavior.

Why do so many gay men come off as cold, judgmental, competitive, or straight-up mean?

Not because they’re gay…but because they’re unhealed.

In this episode, I break down the difference between hurt men and healed men — the ego, the armor, the insecurities, the body hierarchy, the dating games, and the emotional survival strategies that shape our entire community.

If you’ve ever felt judged, dismissed, ghosted, compared, or misunderstood…

or if you’ve ever wondered why gay spaces can feel both empowering and exhausting at the same time…

You’re not imagining it.

There is a pattern — and today, we unbutton it.

This episode is for the men who have healed, the men who are healing, and the men who are finally ready to stop performing and start belonging.

Let’s talk about the truth everyone feels… but nobody wants to say out loud.

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The Gay Body Standard: Confidence or Conditioning?

We call it confidence — but most of the time, it’s conditioning.

From gym culture to social media validation, here’s the truth about how the gay community shaped our self-worth.

Because being fit is great — but being free? That’s power.

🎙 Unbuttoned — new episode out now.

Dating in the gay community isn’t easy.

Apps made meeting easy — but connection harder than ever.

We chase validation, perfection, and three-second attention spans… but what about depth?

In this episode of Unbuttoned, I get real about why modern dating feels so broken —

from ghosting and hookup culture to the pressure to perform masculinity and hide softness.

Because at the end of the day, we all want the same thing:

to be seen, safe, and loved for who we are — not how we look.

🎧 Full episode out now on Spotify + Apple.

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Monogamy isn’t boring.

It’s strength. It’s discipline. It’s being chosen every single day.

I tried open… and I ended up crying in the bathroom while my partner brought another man into our bed. That’s when I realized: this isn’t love. This isn’t partnership.

We don’t talk about how messy open really is. The jealousy. The emptiness. The way it chips away at intimacy until you feel more like roommates than lovers.

I’m not here to shame anyone — I’m here to tell the truth. And if you’ve ever felt pressured to accept less than what you deserve… this episode is for you.

🎙 Full episode on Unbuttoned — Spotify & Apple Podcasts. Link in bio.

Episode 2: Pride — Protest, Party, or Politics?
Pride began as resistance, a fight for visibility and the right to exist. Today, it’s parades, parties, and political stages. But what happens when you don’t fit the mold? In this episode of Unbuttoned, I share my experience as a bisexual conservative — from the peer pressure of my first Pride in West Hollywood, to the erasure of bi voices, to the silencing of anyone who doesn’t follow the “approved” script. Pride is supposed to be about inclusion, yet so many feel like outsiders. This isn’t about division — it’s about reclaiming space for all of us, and unbuttoning the hard questions we’re too afraid to ask.

Welcome to the very first episode of Unbuttoned. In this opening conversation, I share my own story — from being outed without my choice, to feeling like an outsider in gay spaces, to finding unexpected respect in conservative ones.

This episode isn’t about proving one side right or wrong. It’s about asking harder questions: Why are gay men treated like a monolith? Why is “diversity of thought” so controversial? And can we find common ground without canceling each other?

🎙 Stay open. Stay honest. Stay Unbuttoned.

This is the beginning of Unbuttoned. I’m Dorian — gay, conservative, and ready to open the conversations most of us avoid. In this short intro, I share why I’m starting this podcast, what it means to me, and what you can expect moving forward. No shouting, no canceling — just honest talk that’s raw, respectful, and unbuttoned.