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Together- The Sacred We

Together- The Sacred We

By: Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren
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 A conscious relationship podcast for couples and individuals exploring intimacy, somatic healing, sacred love, and conscious parenting. Hosted by Somatic Therapist & Mystic, Courtney Wren and Relationship Coach, Mike Elliott, Together blends real-life vulnerability with expert tools for growth, connection, and devotion. Deepen trust, navigate parenting, and experience the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren Relationships Social Sciences
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  • Frustrated By A Partner Who Is Angry and Demanding — Understand Anxious Attachment So You Can Invite Real Connection

    Frustrated By A Partner Who Is Angry and Demanding — Understand Anxious Attachment So You Can Invite Real Connection
    Feb 26 2026
    Are you in a relationship where your partner feels angry, demanding, or never satisfied — yet underneath it all, you know they just want connection?In this episode, we unpack anxious attachment in relationships — and why it often doesn’t look like anxiety at all. Instead, it shows up as rage, ambivalence, push-pull dynamics, emotional outbursts, and demands for connection that paradoxically push intimacy away.We explore:The “rage–ambivalence loop” of anxious attachmentWhy anxious partners can look avoidant at timesThe illusion of presence (“I’m the only one showing up”)The demand stage vs. self-initiationHow to soothe anxious attachment without losing yourselfWhether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or secure, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath conflict — and how to move from blame into embodied partnership.Chapters:00:00 When Love Feels Repetitive01:08 Program Invitation The Initiation02:24 Rate And Share Request02:57 Anxious Avoidant Setup05:32 Anxious Looks Like Anger06:54 Rage Ambivalence Loop10:10 Anxious Versus Avoidant12:35 Working With Inner Anger18:22 How To Stay Present21:38 Parenting Tantrum Parallel24:33 Hard Work For Everyone25:41 Only One Showing Up26:16 Anxious Presence Illusion28:28 Embodied Connection Skills31:37 Hyperfocus Isn’t Attunement33:18 True Presence Breakthroughs35:33 Demanding vs Self Initiating38:36 Reaching Through Old Wounds44:33 What Anxious Partners Need46:04 Relational Authority Framework48:26 Invitation to Go Deeper52:34 Closing Love and SupportIf you’re ready to stop looping the same pattern and actually transform it, our signature couples program Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation is where this work becomes lived practice.👉 Join the program or book a call via the link below.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    54 mins
  • Masculine Shame: The Part of You That Pushes Love Away

    Masculine Shame: The Part of You That Pushes Love Away
    Feb 19 2026
    What if the part of you that feels weak is actually the key to emotional maturity, intimacy, and relational freedom?In this deeply personal solo episode, Mike explores how avoiding weakness, shame, and shadow parts of ourselves creates projection, defensiveness, and disconnection in relationships. Many of us try to build confidence, strength, discipline, and success to outrun the parts of ourselves that feel inadequate — but the more we resist weakness, the more it quietly shapes our behaviour.Drawing from personal stories, including childhood trauma, overcompensation, addiction patterns, masculine identity, and relational conflict, Mike introduces a powerful three-part framework inspired by Gene Keys shadow work: Allow. Accept. Embrace.He unpacks how unintegrated weakness leads to projection, criticism, gaslighting, emotional defensiveness, and the inability to attune in partnership — and why true intimacy begins when we stop fighting the parts of ourselves that feel small.This episode is about masculine vulnerability, shadow integration, relational accountability, and how loving your weakest parts increases your capacity to love others.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship but also have some specific questions, let's hop on a no pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout⁠💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    40 mins
  • Why Mature Love is Actually Conditional (And Why That's Safer)

    Why Mature Love is Actually Conditional (And Why That's Safer)
    Feb 12 2026
    Most of us have been told that unconditional love is the highest expression of a spiritual relationship. But what if that belief is actually killing your chance at true intimacy?In this episode, Mike and Courtney challenge the cultural narrative around unconditional love and propose something radical: that mature, evolutionary love is actually conditional. And here's what they discovered—this understanding creates MORE love, not less.If you've been feeling drained, unseen, or losing yourself in the name of love, this episode is for you.What You'll Learn:Why unconditional love often masks neglect, enabling, and soul deathThe difference between love as a feeling vs. love as an actionHow the lack of conditions actually makes us MORE selfish and less lovingThe moment Mike realized unconditional love was hurting his relationshipHow "fierce love" and clear conditions transformed their partnershipWhy boundaries and conditions are actually deeply lovingHow to identify YOUR conditions for feeling truly lovedReal examples: parenting, marriage, and supporting clients through this shiftKey Moment: Mike shares the powerful realization of honoring his own inner child and the vow he made to never abandon his own needs for love again—and how this actually deepened intimacy with Courtney.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation. Early bird pricing available until February 19th—$2,000 savings. https://www.sacredrelating.com/Timestamps:0:01 The problem with unconditional love2:11 Introducing the radical idea: love is conditional5:01 Bell Hooks changed everything: "Love is an action"7:04 Why this matters in relationships11:47 The story: How Mike's unconditional love was actually hurting them14:47 Courtney's fierce love and what shifted15:49 The river needs banks: why conditions create safety17:34 Parenting example: How boundaries created more love19:40 Client example: How clarity on conditions changed everything20:28 Gordon Neufeld's insight: No boundaries = neglect21:52 True mature love has limits24:05 The paradox: Love as action + unconditional self-love27:42 Why knowing your conditions attracts the right partner28:27 The Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation programIf you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call🎁 Free Gift: Click here to grab your FREE Masculine & Feminine Essence resource https://www.sacredrelating.com/offers/tnF5MFbN/checkout💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠Promo Code: Together15
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    33 mins
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