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Frustrated By A Partner Who Is Angry and Demanding — Understand Anxious Attachment So You Can Invite Real Connection

Frustrated By A Partner Who Is Angry and Demanding — Understand Anxious Attachment So You Can Invite Real Connection

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 Are you in a relationship where your partner feels angry, demanding, or never satisfied — yet underneath it all, you know they just want connection?In this episode, we unpack anxious attachment in relationships — and why it often doesn’t look like anxiety at all. Instead, it shows up as rage, ambivalence, push-pull dynamics, emotional outbursts, and demands for connection that paradoxically push intimacy away.We explore:The “rage–ambivalence loop” of anxious attachmentWhy anxious partners can look avoidant at timesThe illusion of presence (“I’m the only one showing up”)The demand stage vs. self-initiationHow to soothe anxious attachment without losing yourselfWhether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or secure, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening beneath conflict — and how to move from blame into embodied partnership.Chapters:00:00 When Love Feels Repetitive01:08 Program Invitation The Initiation02:24 Rate And Share Request02:57 Anxious Avoidant Setup05:32 Anxious Looks Like Anger06:54 Rage Ambivalence Loop10:10 Anxious Versus Avoidant12:35 Working With Inner Anger18:22 How To Stay Present21:38 Parenting Tantrum Parallel24:33 Hard Work For Everyone25:41 Only One Showing Up26:16 Anxious Presence Illusion28:28 Embodied Connection Skills31:37 Hyperfocus Isn’t Attunement33:18 True Presence Breakthroughs35:33 Demanding vs Self Initiating38:36 Reaching Through Old Wounds44:33 What Anxious Partners Need46:04 Relational Authority Framework48:26 Invitation to Go Deeper52:34 Closing Love and SupportIf you’re ready to stop looping the same pattern and actually transform it, our signature couples program Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation is where this work becomes lived practice.👉 Join the program or book a call via the link below.For Couples: If you're ready to move from "unconditional acceptance" to "conditional devotion," join Mike and Courtney's flagship program, Evolutionary Relationship: The Initiation ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/If you are feeling the pull to join our couples program Evolutionary Relationship- the Initiation, but also have some specific questions, or want to know more, let's hop on a no- pressure call to feel into it together so that you and your partner can get clear on what the program is and whether it's a good fit for you. Book Your Call → https://calendly.com/transform-rxg/evolutionary-relationship-discovery-call💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → ⁠https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couples⁠Work with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Donation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4⁠⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelaring.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelatingMINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: ⁠https://mindfulmeds.io/⁠Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: ⁠⁠https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/all⁠⁠Promo Code: Together15
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