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This Isn’t Therapy

This Isn’t Therapy

By: Jake Ernst & Simon Paluck
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 This Isn’t Therapy... it's a podcast about it! Therapy themes are everywhere you look— they’re in your relationships, in the culture, and yes, inside of you, Mary! Each week, Jake Ernst and Simon Paluck peel back the therapy curtain to discuss the very things people are talking to their therapists about. Anxiety. Boundaries. People Pleasing. Their narcissistic mother. No topic is off limits! New episodes drop every Thursday. ⁣ The hosts: Jake: https://www.instagram.com/mswjake Simon: https://www.instagram.com/directedbysimon The pod: https://www.instagram.com/notatherapypodcast© Jake Ernst & Simon Paluck, 2024 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • ENCORE: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn

    ENCORE: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn
    Aug 28 2025

    This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about the four F's: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss the four threat responses and how to move through tough situations and face what's in front of us. This episode is for anyone who feels trapped by their reactions or is left feeling overwhelmed by stressful situations. These responses are what make us human; it is better to embrace them and face them rather than become ruled by them.

    Got a quandary, query, or question? Submit your Q (anonymously) to Asking For A Friend...

    Creators & Guests

    • Simon Paluck - Host
    • Jake Ernst - Host

    Hello, hi!
    Follow us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣
    Follow us on TikTok: @notatherapypodcast
    Jake Ernst: @mswjake
    Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon

    Original music composed by Kat Burns and performed by KASHKA.
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    49 mins
  • ENCORE: The two most essential skills for relationships

    ENCORE: The two most essential skills for relationships
    Aug 21 2025

    This Isn't Therapy... it's a long overdue convo about the two most essential skills in relationships. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss a statistic about emotional availability: on average, we are only emotionally available for our partners about 9% of the time. With that in mind, they discuss how to get closer to the 9% using the two essential skills of attunement and repair. Throughout the episode, they discuss how to implement these skills through the development of micro-skills.

    Got a quandary, query, or question? Submit your Q (anonymously) to Asking For A Friend...

    Creators & Guests

    • Simon Paluck - Host
    • Jake Ernst - Host

    Hello, hi!
    Follow us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣
    Follow us on TikTok: @notatherapypodcast
    Jake Ernst: @mswjake
    Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon

    Original music composed by Kat Burns and performed by KASHKA.
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    48 mins
  • ENCORE: The invisible toll of parentification

    ENCORE: The invisible toll of parentification
    Aug 14 2025

    This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about one of the things that robs kids of a care-free childhood: being parentified. When kids are forced to grow up too soon and become adults in childhood, kids can take on adult-like responsibilities and burdens. In this episode, we talk about the difference between healthy responsibility for kids and parentification and talk about the impact of having childhood stolen from us and being burdened before we're developmentally ready.

    Article: Were you a ‘parentified child’? What happens when children have to behave like adults By Nivida Chandra

    Got a quandary, query, or question? Submit your Q (anonymously) to Asking For A Friend...

    Creators & Guests

    • Simon Paluck - Host
    • Jake Ernst - Host

    Hello, hi! Follow us on Instagram: @notatherapypodcast⁣
    Jake Ernst: @mswjake
    Simon Paluck: @directedbysimon

    Original music composed by Kat Burns and performed by KASHKA.
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    43 mins
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