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Okay, you spotted the victim habit. Now what?

If you listened to episode 66 and thought, "that is me,” this is your next step.

If you have been in divorce stress, family conflict, or a rough life season, it is so easy to slip into patterns that keep you stuck, right? Not because you’re weak. Because your brain is trying to protect you. But protection and progress are not the same thing.

In this episode, I walk you through the ways you can disrupt the victim habits that are holding you back. These shifts in your thinking help you get your footing back (yes!), change the pattern, and start moving forward again…. without having to overhaul your whole life overnight.

Want to get out of your own way? We talk about:

• How to spot the moment you are sliding into an old pattern
• The small changes that create momentum… fast
• Why your environment and your inner circle matter more than people realize
• What to do when you know better but still keep doing the same thing
• A mindset shift that helps you stop beating yourself up and start taking action

RESOURCES

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources
KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
AMEN CLINICS: (Dr. Daniel Amen): https://www.amenclinics.com
BOOK MENTIONED: Resilient, Rick Hanson PhD https://a.co/d/05blH36P
LEGAL & MEDIATION HELP: https://saperelawfirm.com
INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

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Ever feel stuck in the same loop, even when you know you want things to change? I get it!

Today we’re talking about something I see all the time in divorce, conflict, and life transitions. I call them the six victim habits. They’re not about calling yourself a victim.

They’re about spotting the patterns that quietly keep you stuck, keeping you from moving forward.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through the six habits and help you figure out if one of them is showing up in your life right now. Once you spot it, you can fix it.

We’ll chat about:

• The thrill of attention and when support turns into a trap
• Self-imposed helplessness and why “I can’t” can become a default
• Playing small and not growing because it feels uncomfortable
• The “get them before they get you” mindset
• The “can’t say no” habit and how over-giving really leads to burnout
• And some real life examples

Next episode, I’ll show you what to do with this once you spot your habit, because awareness is totally step one, and change is the goal.

Resources:

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk

LEGAL: Legal & Mediation Help: https://saperelawfirm.com

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm

FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

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You really can get through your divorce without it turning into an all-out war.

I’m breaking down how to keep your peace and your power. Because being the “peacemaker” doesn’t mean being a pushover. It means you’re smart, strategic, and keeping your eyes on the long game instead of getting lost in the drama.

We’ll talk about what a real peacemaker looks like (hint: calm and confident, not quiet and compliant), and how to protect what matters most to you without letting emotions run the show.

Here’s what we’re diving into:

• The real difference between being peaceful and being passive
• How to get in the right headspace before a big talk or mediation
• Why your emotional "state" affects how well you negotiate
• What to say when your ex pushes back without making things worse
• Red flags that you're giving too much away (and how to stop before you do)
• The one thing that can save you time, money, and a lot of stress

If you’ve been trying to “keep the peace” but end up feeling walked on, this one’s for you. I’ll show you how to stay grounded, protect your interests, and actually get to the finish line faster, with a lot less stress and way fewer lawyer bills.

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk

LEGAL: Legal & Mediation Help: https://saperelawfirm.com

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm

FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm