Episodes

  • 68. How to Use Your Peer-Support Group to Achieve Lasting Recovery

    68. How to Use Your Peer-Support Group to Achieve Lasting Recovery
    Aug 20 2025
    Is your recovery group actually a recovery group?Is the group too big?Are you getting individualized feedback?Do you enjoy your time with your group and look forward to the meeting? Just because you are going to a group or a meeting doesn’t mean it’s working. In this episode, I discuss the point of peer support and what it should be doing for you. You should feel yourself recovering when you leave every meeting. Change is the objective. If you don’t feel like your recovery group is accelerating your recovery… You should probably find another group. If you are a high achiever or entrepreneur and you have not yet bought my book, you can find it here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/1yPIaMN
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    19 mins
  • 67. How Betrayed Partners and Sex Addicts Can Communicate Effectively

    67. How Betrayed Partners and Sex Addicts Can Communicate Effectively
    Aug 15 2025
    Even the best communicators will be challenged when recovering from sexual betrayal. Fear, anger, resentment, injustice, a lack of trust… This is not a great container for grounded conversation. But this is reality, and you’re going to need to learn how to navigate it as a couple. Too often, couples recovering from infidelity heal in isolation but fight together. The problem is that healing happens together… not apart. On this episode, I’m joined by Dani Peterson. She works with betrayed partners and couples in recovery. She and I discuss the difficulties that couples face when communicating post-betrayal. For those of you interested in working with Dani, she has offered our listeners a FREE 30 minute consultation. Use the link here to schedule: https://calendly.com/danimpeterson/consultation You can learn more about Dani at her website: https://www.danimpeterson.com/ Have you read my recovery book? If not, I want to give you access to the first chapter for free. Use this link here: https://successfuladdict.com/firstchapter
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    53 mins
  • 66. What should you be checking in with your recovery group?

    66. What should you be checking in with your recovery group?
    Aug 10 2025
    Are you monitoring the wrong things? Often, I find men are too focused on the behaviors rather than the cause of their sex addiction. Recovery is about change… Not just avoiding unwanted behavior. In this episode, I talk about how you can check in with your recovery group and help them keep you accountable. Finding a tribe of like-minded men to do recovery with is the most important thing you can do for your recovery. This podcast episode will explain why. If you’re a high-acheiver, executive, business professional, or entrepreneur looking for a group of other high-achieving men to recover with, visit my website: successfuladdict.com Connection is everything when it comes to sex addiction recovery. Having a deeply connected support group is the best way to maintain long-term recovery.
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    11 mins
  • 65. Dr. Jake Porter – Are Sex Addicts Being Defensive? Or, Do They Need Help?

    65. Dr. Jake Porter – Are Sex Addicts Being Defensive? Or, Do They Need Help?
    Aug 5 2025
    Is it defensiveness? Or, is it a deficit? Understanding this could make a huge difference in improving your communication as a couple when recovering from betrayal trauma and infidelity. We all know that being defensive destroys connection and increases conflict. But first, we need to be sure that the person really is being defensive. Not every reaction comes from a defensive place. Often, people act the way they do because they lack maturity in that area. Empathy, conflict resolution, communication, compassion. All of these skills must be developed as a child. If not, you may struggle using these skills as an adult. What may look like defensiveness may actually stem from a deficit in his/her ability to interact in this high-stress and deeply emotional environment. The truth is, many sex addicts in recovery did not learn how to practice empathy, healthy conflict resolution, and compassion. Their parents and mentors did not help them develop these skills. Many aspects of masculine culture label these skills as weak or feminine. It's never too late to learn healthy relationship skills. And, we need to make sure that we're not shaming someone who is trying their best. It's hard enough to do something that is foreign to you. It's even harder when you feel like you need to be ashamed of your inability to do so. Being supportive is always the best route you can take. In this podcast episode, Dr. Jake Porter and I discuss how to determine if your partner is being defensive or if they have a deficit in this area. And, what can be done to address this issue so that it does not continue to harm the relationship. If you would like a free copy of Jake's book, you can download it here: https://drjakeporter.com/breakingbarriers/ If you're a high-achiever looking for a group of like-minded men to recover with, visit my website: successfuladdict.com My book is now on Audible for those of you who have been waiting for the audiobook. You can listen to it here: https://www.audible.com/pd/The-High-Achievers-Guide-to-Sex-Addiction-Recovery-Audiobook/B0F5XZ85XV
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    59 mins
  • 64. Just Because You’re Financially Successful Does Not Mean You’re Going To Be Good At Recovery

    64. Just Because You’re Financially Successful Does Not Mean You’re Going To Be Good At Recovery
    Jul 30 2025
    Financial success and recovery are two different things. Often, the things that made you money may be some of the same things that caused your sex addiction. This doesn’t mean that you need to stop being successful in your career. It means you need to become aware of when to use each skill set. Many of the skills needed to recover from sex and porn addiction are different from the skills you’ve used to make money. In this episode, I’m joined by MaryAnn Michaelis, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. We discuss the difference between success in business and success in recovery. You can do both! If you want to contact MaryAnn, you can reach her here on her website: https://maryannmichaelis.com/ If you’re interested in checking out the courses she referenced during the episode, head to https://www.humanintimacy.com/courses If you are a high-achiever in recovery and you are looking for a group of like-minded men to recover with, visit my website and fill out an application: successfuladdict.com Each group of 10 men uses a daily accountability system, weekly Zoom meetings, and in-person 4-day intensives. Visit my website to apply and book your interview on my calendar.
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    37 mins
  • 63. WHY did you act out? And how do you make sure it doesn’t happen again

    63. WHY did you act out? And how do you make sure it doesn’t happen again
    Jul 25 2025
    Coping mechanisms have the potential to ruin your life. But changing them can be difficult if you don’t know WHY you’re doing it. In the addiction space, you will hear professionals talk about the power of discovering your “why.” But, it's a bit more complicated than that. In this podcast episode, I help men understand what coping mechanisms are, how to recognize when they’re being used, and how to change the harmful patterns. If you’re a betrayed partner, I would recommend listening to this episode as well. It may help you understand what your husband is doing and what will be required to change. If you’re a successful guy in recovery and need help discovering your WHY, my recovery groups can guide you. Visit my website to learn more: successfuladdict.com
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    12 mins
  • 62. Have You Tried This Yet? Using IFS To Treat Sex Addiction

    62. Have You Tried This Yet? Using IFS To Treat Sex Addiction
    Jul 21 2025
    Candice Christensen is well known for her ability to use Internal Family System (IFS) with both Sex Addicts and Couples to help them navigate the root cause of the sexually compulsive behavior. I personally believe IFS is one of the best forms of treatment for sex and porn addiction. I personally used it in my recovery, and my clients who use it seem to get better results than those who don’t. In this episode, Candice and I break down IFS and how it can be used to organize and accelerate your recovery. It’s also a great tool to use when explaining your process addiction to betrayed partners. For those who want to explore working with Candice and attending one of her intensives, visit her website here: https://www.candicechristiansen.com/ If you’re a high-achiever, business professional, executive, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group full of other successful men, visit my website: successfuladdict.com Our approach is organized and efficient with an emphasis on peer support, connection, and accountability. You cannot overcome this alone. You need to find a tribe of like-minded men that you can lean on in recovery.
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    50 mins
  • 61. Addict or A-hole? Are You Actually a Sex/Porn Addict?

    61. Addict or A-hole? Are You Actually a Sex/Porn Addict?
    Jul 15 2025
    Are you an addict or a selfish womanizer? Historically, it’s been said that you are either one of the two. But, is it really only limited to these two options? What if you’re neither?What if you are a selfish womanizer?What if you’re both? Is the treatment the same?If not, what’s different? Does your wife need to be worried?If you’re not an addict, should she leave you? Sex Addict or A-hole? In this episode, I discuss a third option.
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    20 mins