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The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️

The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️

By: Jen Barnes
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 The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way is a podcast for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs who are ready to overcome the inner and outer challenges of ADHD and break free from neurotypical rules and expectations to create a business that works with their ADHD brain. Together we’ll explore our unique ADHD brains and how to work with them effectively, with ADHD-specific tools and strategies so that you can create and build a meaningful and prosperous business (and life) you love.


The Self-Loved Woman Way is hosted by Jen Barnes, MSW, LICSW, RYT500, TCTSY-F, a clinical social worker and psychotherapist turned ADHD Entrepreneur coach and educator. She has a passion for working with women who are late-diagnosed or self-diagnosed ADHD as well as those who are ADHD adjacent.

Prior to becoming a clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in complex trauma, Jen was an actuarial analyst for nearly four years for a large Minnesota-based company working in retirement plans. She has a Bachelors of Science in Mathematics with a concentration in Actuarial Science and a minor in Computer Science, that started out as an accounting degree with numerous business courses. An entrepreneur herself, she owns and operates two business - one, a full time private psychotherapy practice (since 2014) and the other a Digital Business empowering ADHD women entrepreneurs to move beyond ADHD challenges and create a business that replaces their full time income in 12 months.

Jen’s unique blend of education and experiences as an ADHD woman and psychotherapist coupled with her history and experience in business offers a special twist on navigating the world of entrepreneurship as an ADHD woman. Further, her expertise in serving women with complex trauma histories offering an additional, deeper layer to the work of overcoming the pain and even trauma of growing up ADHD in a world not designed for us.

This podcast is a fantastic place to embrace your ADHD (yes, even the challenges), explore ADHD specific ways to work and live in this neurotypcial society, and learn ADHD specific strategies for creating and growing your own business so you can have the time and energy to do more of what you love.Copyright 2022, 2024 All rights reserved. Economics Hygiene & Healthy Living Leadership Management & Leadership Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • Part 2: How to Reclaim Focus from ADHD’s Internal Distractions

    Part 2: How to Reclaim Focus from ADHD’s Internal Distractions
    Oct 15 2025

    Ever sit down to focus and suddenly your brain takes off in 12 directions at once? You’re not alone — and it’s not about willpower.

    In this follow-up to last week’s episode, we dive into the real reasons ADHD women lose focus from the inside out — and how to retrain your brain to come back to center without fighting yourself.

    You’ll learn science-backed ways to quiet internal noise, work with your Default Mode Network, and rebuild your brain’s focus through mindful repetition, movement, and emotional processing.

    By the end, you’ll understand how to stop battling your attention and start cultivating focus that feels calmer, steadier, and actually sustainable.

    🎧 Listen in for ADHD-friendly strategies you can start practicing today — no shame, no quick fixes that don’t last, just real tools for real brains.

    —CHAPTERS—

    00:00 Introduction: The Struggle to Focus

    00:16 Recap of Part One: Understanding Internal Distractions

    00:37 Today's Focus: Reclaiming Attention

    01:23 Welcome and Podcast Overview

    02:17 Strategies to Combat Internal Distractions

    03:47 Understanding the Default Mode Network

    07:58 Mindfulness and Its Benefits

    12:09 The Role of Rewards and Motivation

    13:58 Managing Emotions and Sensitivity

    18:07 Improving Executive Function and Memory

    24:57 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    ✨ If you found this episode helpful… Please follow, subscribe, and share it with another ADHD woman who needs support!

    💛 Connect with me on social media!

    Youtube: @Jenbarnes

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenbarneslicsw/

    DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

    If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
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    29 mins
  • Part 1: When Your Own Brain Distracts You

    Part 1: When Your Own Brain Distracts You
    Oct 8 2025

    Most ADHD women think distraction means pings, notifications, or people interrupting.

    But what if the biggest distractions aren’t outside of you at all?

    In this episode of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way Podcast, we're pulling back the curtain on the invisible distractions happening inside your own mind — the kind that steal your time, drain your energy, and erode your confidence without you even realizing it.

    This isn’t about blaming yourself. It’s about finally naming what’s going on so you can understand why it feels so relentless — and why it’s not your fault.

    ✨ Next week: Part 2 of this mini-series — How to Reclaim Focus from ADHD’s Internal Distractions. we'll explore practical strategies, nervous system regulation tools, and lived examples to help you work with your brain instead of against it.

    If you’ve ever wondered why your thoughts pull you away when you need to focus most, this is your invitation to listen in. Clarity alone can change everything.

    Mentioned in the episode:

    FREE 5-Step Task Master Plan -> https://jenbarnes.org/task-master-plan/

    —CHAPTERS—

    00:00 Introduction to Distractions

    01:03 Welcome to the Podcast

    01:45 Understanding Internal Distractions

    03:36 The Rich Inner World of ADHD

    06:59 Five Reasons for Internal Distractions

    08:36 Default Mode Network Explained

    11:15 Dopamine and ADHD

    13:26 Big Feelings and Distractions

    16:49 Executive Functioning and Working Memory

    20:20 Conclusion and Next Steps

    ✨ If you found this episode helpful… Please follow, subscribe, and share it with another ADHD woman who needs support!

    💛 Connect with me on social media!

    Youtube: @Jenbarnes

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenbarneslicsw/

    DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

    If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
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    22 mins
  • Stuck in People Pleasing… Again

    Stuck in People Pleasing… Again
    Oct 1 2025

    I thought I was done with people pleasing. I’d built boundaries, learned to say no, and told myself I was free from it. But when I moved back to Minnesota—and started building my second business—it snuck back in.

    I found myself undercharging, over-delivering, and slipping back into perfectionism. The result? Burnout, loneliness, and even physical symptoms like poor sleep, digestive issues, and constant tension in my body.

    In this episode of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way, I share:

    • How people pleasing shows up in subtle ways for ADHD women
    • Why perfectionism is often tied to proving our worth
    • The physical and emotional cost of staying stuck in these patterns
    • How I’m working my way out of it—and how you can too

    If you’ve ever felt like you should be “over” people pleasing, only to find yourself back in the same patterns, this episode will help you recognize you’re not alone—and there’s a way forward.

    🎧 Be sure to listen!

    —CHAPTERS—

    00:00 Introduction: The Return of People Pleasing

    01:16 Welcome to the Podcast

    01:53 Personal Struggles and Realizations

    03:54 Entrepreneurial Challenges and People Pleasing

    07:20 The Impact of Moving Back to Minnesota

    10:23 Burnout and Physical Symptoms

    15:09 Recognizing and Addressing People Pleasing

    23:50 Setting Boundaries and Overcoming Perfectionism

    39:59 Conclusion and Journal Book Experience

    ✨ Mentioned in this episode…

    Ready to Finally Stop Playing Small? Check out my Journal-Book Experience is Here!

    💡The Self-Loved Woman Way: How to Stop Playing Small with ADHD is a tangible journal book plus sensory items for a self-love ritual that all comes in a keep sake box. This guided experience helps you release what’s been holding you back, regulate your nervous system, and finally move forward — in a way that honors your brain, your energy, and your life.

    Order your copy here: https://jenbarnes.org/stop-playing-small/

    ✨ If you found this episode helpful… Please follow, subscribe, and share it with another ADHD woman who needs support!

    💛 Connect with me on social media!

    Youtube: @Jenbarnes

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenbarneslicsw/

    DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

    If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.
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    42 mins
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