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The Save The Marriage Podcast

The Save The Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom Ph.D.
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 Learn how to save your marriage and improve your relationship. Stop your divorce and restore a loving relationship. Join Dr. Lee H. Baucom for this impactful podcast that can save your marriage.© Copyright 2013-2024. All Rights Reserved by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. and Aspire Coaching, Inc. Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences
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  • Momentum: The Physics of a Failing Marriage

    Momentum: The Physics of a Failing Marriage
    Mar 18 2026
    My high school science teacher almost helped me make TNT in the chemistry lab! That's how this episode starts. But it's not really about chemistry. It's about physics. Specifically, it's about momentum... and why the same force that keeps a relationship strong is also the force that quietly destroys it without anyone noticing until it's almost too late. Here's the thing most couples never consider: love isn't what holds a marriage together over time. It's what starts the process. What actually carries a relationship forward — or pulls it apart — is momentum And momentum follows rules. When couples come to me in crisis, one of the most common things I hear is some version of: "I didn't see it coming." Or: "I thought we were just going through a phase." Or: "I thought once things settled down, we'd get back to each other." They're not wrong that something changed. They're just wrong about when it started. The damage was already done — quietly, gradually, in a direction they couldn't feel — long before the crisis arrived. This episode is about why that happens. And why the natural response most people have when they finally do notice? It often makes it worse. A few things worth thinking about before you listen: If you can feel that your relationship has lost something, but you can't point to when or why — is it possible the answer is further back than you think? What happens to momentum when you stop adding energy to something? And what happens after it stops? Why would reaching hard toward your spouse in a moment of crisis push them further away instead of closer? The physics are more predictable than you'd expect. And understanding them might be the first thing that actually makes sense of where you are. Listen to "Momentum" now, below. If you're past the point of just feeling the drift and you're now in real crisis, the Save The Marriage System is built for exactly this moment. It's the roadmap back, from where momentum has taken you, to where you actually want to go. RELATED RESOURCES: 7 Stages of Disconnection Resources for Healing Disconnection Save The Marriage System
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    21 mins
  • Limiting Beliefs That Limit Your Marriage

    Limiting Beliefs That Limit Your Marriage
    Mar 11 2026
    It almost seems redundant, doesn't it? If you have limited beliefs, they could limit something -- say, for example, your marriage. I say IF you have limited beliefs. Full disclosure: We ALL have limited beliefs that are limiting us. We ALL have blind spots, assumptions, even untrue beliefs. We just don't notice them. And we pay a price for that. Especially since we usually fail to notice or address these limiting beliefs. Do you think your limiting beliefs MIGHT be limiting your life and your marriage? I'm betting that is the case, since it is true for all of us. Here's the good news: you can change your limiting beliefs. Once you know what they are. And decide to change them Listen below for this week's podcast. RELATED RESOURCES Myths About Marriage (And Saving It) Fears That Hold You Back Is Your Spouse Stuck? Grab The Save The Marriage System
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    12 mins
  • What DOES Pickleball Have To Do With Marriage??

    What DOES Pickleball Have To Do With Marriage??
    Mar 4 2026
    Probably more than you want to admit. I've been playing pickleball for about four years. Started when my wife and I moved to a new community — we were looking for something to do and a way to meet people. Neither of us expected it to become a weekly ritual. But somewhere along the way, I started noticing something I couldn't shake. The patterns showing up on that court? I'd seen every single one of them in struggling marriages. Not as a loose metaphor. As an almost exact parallel. The partner who can't stop criticizing every shot — and wonders why the other person stops trying. The player who decides if the game isn't going their way, they won't play at all. The one who takes every shot, carries every point, and then complains their partner doesn't contribute. The "coach" nobody asked for, offering feedback that doesn't land as helpfulness. Sound like anyone you know? Here's what got me thinking: pickleball, at its best, is a partnership game. You win together. You cover each other's deficits. You communicate before the moment demands it. You keep playing even when the score isn't going your way. And at its worst? It looks a lot like the patterns that quietly destroy a marriage. There's one thing in particular I talk about in this episode that I think will stay with you — something most people never notice on the court or in their relationship. It has to do with the difference between the last shot and the setup that made it inevitable. Most of us only see the last shot. A few questions worth sitting with before you listen: Do you and your spouse actually have a strategy — or are you just reacting to whatever comes at you? When something goes wrong, are you looking at the last moment, or the conditions you both built leading up to it? Are you the kind of partner you'd actually want to play with? That last one might sting a little. It's supposed to. This week's episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast is a little lighter than usual — but lighter doesn't mean less important. Sometimes the clearest mirror is the one you least expect. Listen to "What Does Pickleball Have To Do With Marriage?" right here. And if you're at a point where the game feels broken — no strategy, no direction, and you're not sure your partner is even still playing — the Save The Marriage System is where to start. It's the map for getting back on the court together.
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    28 mins
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