In this final episode of The Messy Middle Six Keys series, we’re closing with the key that changes everything: Abuse Dynamics Education.

If you’ve ever wondered why you still doubt yourself… Why therapy, books, or “doing the work” hasn’t fully set you free… Or why a part of you still feels hooked to someone who treated you like shit…

This episode is for you.

We’re talking about the hidden mechanics of emotional and narcissistic abuse. Not surface-level red flags, but the real operating system behind manipulation, gaslighting, coercive control, and psychological warfare.

You’ll learn:

• Why abuse is not about anger or miscommunication, but power and control
• How coercive control works so quietly you often don’t see it until years later
• The most common abuse tactics and how they show up in real life
• Why you didn’t see it sooner and why that does not make you weak, naïve, or stupid
• How manipulation turns into your inner voice and how to start separating what’s yours from what was injected into you

This episode also includes a grounding, body-based validation exercise to help you stop gaslighting yourself and reconnect with what your nervous system has always known.

Because healing isn’t just about becoming more regulated, more forgiving, or more understanding.

Sometimes healing is about realizing:

This wasn’t yours to fix.
This was done to you.
And once you can name the game, you stop playing it.

If you’re ready to reclaim your power, rebuild self-trust, and finally answer the question “Is this always going to happen to me?” with a solid no, this episode will land.

Once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
And that’s where real freedom begins.

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If you’ve ever wondered why boundaries feel impossible, why you keep going back, or why your body reacts before your mind can catch up, I made this episode for you.

If you’ve done the therapy, read the books, understand the patterns of abuse, manipulation, or people pleasing, and yet your body still freezes, fawns, shuts down, or betrays you at the exact moment you need it most, this episode is for you.

This is a deep dive into somatics and energetics, and why trauma doesn’t live in your thoughts. It lives in your body, your breath, your nervous system, and your energetic field.

In this episode:

• I talk about why you can’t logic your way out of trauma, why insight alone isn’t enough, and why your body is not broken or failing you.
• I share personal stories from my own journey, including the moments when my body knew the truth long before my mind could cope with it.
• We explore why freeze, collapse, people pleasing, and panic are not character flaws, but intelligent survival responses, and how changing the questions you ask yourself can shift everything.

I also guide you through gentle, practical somatic and energetic exercises you can do with me, including:

• Taking your nervous system and energetic pulse
• Learning to listen to sensation instead of overriding it
• Feeling and strengthening your energetic boundaries
• Releasing emotional and energetic residue you’ve been carrying that isn’t yours

This is not about forcing yourself to be more confident, more assertive, or more healed. You cannot bully your nervous system into safety. Healing happens when you meet your body with curiosity, respect, and compassion.

Your body is not the problem. It’s the portal.

📩 Send in YOUR questions and get them answered on the podcast!

📢 Get a Laster Coaching call for only $150. A 45-minute session to get to know me, experience my approach, and receive a personalized plan to kickstart your healing journey. Perfect for testing the waters before diving deeper.

🎬 Watch Unfu*kwithable Boundaries Masterclass for FREE. Learn how setting clear boundaries can change your life for good and where to start!

📝 Get the Somatic Keys Course. Learn how to recognize your signals, regulate your responses, and reclaim your nervous system as a place of truth.

Let’s talk about boundaries. The real kind. Not the affirmations you repeat in the mirror and then immediately override when someone pushes. I mean lived boundaries. The ones you feel in your body before they ever become words.

In this episode of The Messy Middle, I’m unpacking why boundaries feel so uncomfortable, scary, and even dangerous for so many of us, especially if you grew up without them, were punished for having them, or survived narcissistic abuse, coercive control, high-conflict relationships, or lifelong people-pleasing.

I share why boundaries aren’t a communication problem, they’re a survival strategy. Why your chest tightens, your hands go cold, or your voice disappears when you try to speak up. And why that doesn’t mean you’re bad at boundaries. It means your nervous system learned how to keep you safe in environments where saying no came with consequences.

We talk about:

• Why setting boundaries often costs you relationships and why I wish someone had warned me
• How abuse, emotional neglect, and patriarchal conditioning train your body to fear saying no
• Why “off-the-shelf” boundary advice doesn’t work for trauma-trained systems
• How your nervous system and neuroception drive boundary responses
• Why boundaries start in the body, not the mouth
• The difference between external boundaries and the powerful boundaries you set with yourself

I also guide you through simple somatic practices you can use right now, including a body-based boundary exercise and the yes/no compass to help you reconnect with your inner truth and learn what your body’s yes and no actually feel like.

You didn’t fail at boundaries. You learned to survive without them. And now, we get to gently teach your system something new.

Start small. Start where your body feels safest. And let this be the beginning of coming home to yourself.

Sending you lots of love. Tune in, and I’ll meet you there.

📩 Send in YOUR questions and get them answered on the podcast!

📢 Get a Laster Coaching call for only $150. A 45-minute session to get to know me, experience my approach, and receive a personalized plan to kickstart your healing journey. Perfect for testing the waters before diving deeper.

🎬 Watch Unfu*kwithable Boundaries Masterclass for FREE. Learn how setting clear boundaries can change your life for good and where to start!

📝 Get the Somatic Keys Course. Learn how to recognize your signals, regulate your responses, and reclaim your nervous system as a place of truth.