Calm down spacemen. Today, Matt, Mike, and Rob rationally delve into the wide world of logic. I know what you're thinking, "Hey Rob, didn't guys do a previous episode on the necessity of emotions over logic?" Yes, you have a point there. But what sort of men of space would we be if we could not confidently state, "We were wrong!" And by 'wrong' we mean, we have more to say on the subject that will clarify things. Spoiler alert, it involves balancing logic and emotion. We are nothing if not balanced.

Keywords
logic, emotion, relationships, perception, couples therapy, communication, understanding, problem-solving, relationships, societal expectations, validation, trust

Takeaways

• Different people interpret and perceive emotions differently, and context plays a significant role.
• Logic and emotion both have a place in relationships, and it's important to find a balance.
• In couples therapy, it is common to ask men to connect with their emotions and women to engage their logical thinking.
• Balancing logic and emotion is crucial in relationships, as both perspectives are valuable and necessary.
• Effective communication involves understanding and respecting each other's ways of thinking and processing information.
• Both partners should be able to move between the logical and emotional realms
• Therapists play a role in helping clients navigate these dynamics
• Validating emotions while encouraging logical thinking is important
• Trust and recognizing each other's capacities are key to successful conversations

Sound Bites

• "This podcast is the raddest of them all"
• "Your salad's not really cutting it"
• "I liked it, actually"
• "Women, Logic Up."
• "Get out of my dreams, get into my car."
• "I know it feels like I'm being dismissive, but right now you're getting so flooded."
• "Our society has decided logic is more better"
• "At some point we have to learn how to separate what we're hearing emotionally and applying some amount of logic to it"
• "How often do we ask women what they think?"

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Bruhs, let's play the quiet game. You start, cause I have a lot to say. But fair warning, the audio of what I say will be horrible today. I don't know why. It's unknowable.

On today's episode, Matt, Mike, and Rob explore the importance of silence in various situations. We also touch on the moments in life where it is best to stay silent, according to psychology. And, AND, we extend a call to (in)action. Try it out, you'll thank us.

Keywords

silence, teaching, teenagers, psychology, moments in life, staying silent, support, empathy, listening

Takeaways

• Silence can be an effective teaching tool, especially with teenagers.
• There are moments in life where it is best to stay silent, according to psychology.
• Silence allows others to be the expert and can boost their confidence.
• Listening and being present in the moment can be powerful forms of support and empathy.

Sound Bites

• "That was my cue to ask the question again. So I would, and I usually ask it in a more playful joking way."
• "Silent but violent."
• "They just needed to be together."

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I'm telling that you did that. You're gonna be in SO MUCH trouble. It's okay spacemen, you can admit it. There's no Alphas in the room with you who will mock you. You're in a safe space. We all have fears of upsetting someone. In fact, even though most people will say they don't care about what people think, pretty much EVERYONE does. So, we tackle that today on the show.

Matt, Mike, and Rob explore the feeling of constantly being in trouble or disappointing others, both in relationships and in other areas of life. We talk about how men often express this sentiment and the sources of this feeling, such as societal expectations, authority figures, and fear of disappointing others. And we talk about the common experience of men feeling like they are always in trouble and the impact it can have on their well-being. Spoiler alert, we talk about the importance of having open and honest conversations, understanding and owning one's emotions, and embracing the humanity of the human experience.

Keywords
feeling in trouble, disappointing others, relationships, societal expectations, authority figures, anxiety, stress, fear of disappointing, being in trouble, societal expectations, childhood experiences, open and honest conversations, owning emotions, humanity

Takeaways

• Many men express the feeling of constantly being in trouble or disappointing others. This feeling can arise in relationships, work, and other areas of life.
• Societal expectations and the fear of disappointing authority figures contribute to this feeling.
• Anxiety and stress often perpetuate the belief that one is always in trouble. The fear of disappointing others is often rooted in societal expectations and childhood experiences.
• Having open and honest conversations can help address and overcome the fear of disappointing others.
• Understanding and owning one's emotions is crucial in navigating relationships and communication.
• Embracing the humanity of the human experience allows for more authentic and meaningful connections.

Sound Bites

• "Do you always feel like you're in trouble? Because I feel that all the time."
• "I'm doing something wrong and some overarching authority figure is gonna be mad at me and I'm in trouble."
• "I feel like I am behind, I'm failing somewhere, someone's gonna be disappointed."
• "I don't always get the men telling me this is what I felt. I have to share. This is what I've felt."
• "Where did this come from for me? Because we didn't necessarily grow up in a home where..."
• "I just default in that realm, I defaulted over into he's my dad. I'm the kid who doesn't know anything."

Chapters

00:00
The Constant Feeling of Being in Trouble

18:52
Defaulting to Partners as Authority Figures

35:39
Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

44:40
Understanding and Owning Your Emotions

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