Should you wait for the slow burn? Or chase the spark?

This question keeps so many late bloomers stuck in overthinking, second-guessing, and dating people who aren’t right for them.

In this episode of The Late Bloomer Show, Lily breaks down the real truth about attraction and connection, including:

The pros + cons of both the spark and the slow burn

Why both approaches can lead to wasted time

What to focus on instead (hint: curiosity > rules)

How to ground yourself with Lily’s Date Feedback Compass

If you’ve ever stressed about whether you “knew” soon enough or felt enough chemistry, this episode will give you clarity and freedom.

🎧 Listen now and find out why curiosity—not binaries—is the most powerful dating tool.

Work with Lily:

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

→ Learn more about Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/dating

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Dating while struggling with body image fears can feel like an impossible task. In this episode, Lily is joined by Bri Campos, LPC, and body image coach, to explore the idea of body grief—the distress and loss we feel when our bodies change—and how it impacts dating.

Together they cover:

→ The 4 aspects of body image you need to know

→ Why rushing to "body love" skips over the real healing work

→ How fatphobia and privilege show up in dating dynamics

→ Practical tools to move through body grief with compassion so you can put yourself out there and find love in exactly the body you're in

If you're a late bloomer who's avoided dating because of how you feel in your body, this conversation will give you the validation, tools, and hope to take your next steps.

Learn about Bri's work here→ https://www.bodyimagewithbri.com/

💥 Want more support? Start here:

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

→ Learn how to work with Lily: datebrazen.com

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In this powerful live coaching session, Lily sits down with Veronica for a live coaching session—a listener and Main Character Dating client—to explore what it really looks like to start dating again after a painful breakup…while also navigating chronic pain, a disability, and a world that often is deeply ableist.

They explore:

✨ How to know if you’re really ready to date again after a breakup

✨ Navigating dating apps with a disability

✨ Setting boundaries that honor your body and your bandwidth

✨ Why self-compassion is a dating strategy

This episode is full permission to do dating your way.

💥 Want more support? Start here:

→ Main Character Dating-- closing 10/17/25: datebrazen.com/dating

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

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What do late bloomers most want to know about sex? In this episode, Lily sits down with Dr. Juliana Hauser—sex therapist, TEDx speaker, and author of A New Position on Sex—to answer the top 10 questions late bloomers have about sexuality, intimacy, and pleasure.

They cover everything from starting with little or no experience, to disclosing your sexual history (or lack thereof), to navigating body image, chemistry, pain, and more.

Whether you’re 20, 30, 40, 50+ and wondering where to start, this conversation is a must-listen.

🎧 Listen in now and discover the tools, confidence, and compassion you deserve in your sexual journey.

📖 Grab Dr. Juliana’s new book A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Pleasure and Authenticity available now right HERE

💥 Work with Lily:

→ Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/dating

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

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If you've ever felt behind in love or life, this episode is for you. On pub day for her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits, Beatriz Victoria Albina joins me to talk about how to stop centering everyone else's needs at the expense of your own—and start dating with self-worth.

We unpack:

💎 What "emotional outsourcing" is and why it keeps you stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency

💎 How to reclaim your agency and desire without guilt

💎 The BRAVE framework for building self-loyalty, step by step

💎 Why being a late bloomer is often an act of brilliance—not failure

Her book is out today! Go grab "End Emotional Outsourcing" wherever books are sold and start building the love life (and LIFE) that puts you back at the center.

Order your copy → https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

💥 Work with Lily:

→ Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

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Taylor hasn’t been in a relationship since she was 19. Now, at 31, after eight ghostings and countless near misses, she’s wondering: “Why not me?”

In her words:

“Hope is scary.”

Because every time she’s let herself hope, she’s been let down—and she’s started to believe maybe she’s just not worth the effort.

In this raw and powerful live coaching session, we unpack what’s really underneath that fear—and build a brand new belief:

✨ “Massive change happens when I trust myself and advocate for myself.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

💎 How to move from “I know the tools” to actually feeling them work

💎 What to do when self-compassion feels completely out of reach

💎 The thought error that keeps so many late bloomers stuck in shame

💎 Why practicing hope (even when scared) is the bravest dating move you can make

If you’ve ever felt behind, broken, or like dating is a hopeless slog—this one’s for you.

💥 Work with Lily:

→ Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

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Becca came into this coaching session feeling stuck, frustrated, and deeply alone in her experience:

"I'm 37. I've never had a relationship. It feels like I'm missing something that everyone else figured out."

This episode is for the late bloomer who's never really seen their story reflected in dating advice—and is tired of wondering, "What's wrong with me?"

Together, we worked through:

– The fear that it's too late to have what you want

– How to shift from self-blame to self-trust (without pretending it doesn't still hurt)

– The exact first step to start dating from your real power

Becca left with a new plan—and a very different energy.

If you've ever thought "Maybe it's never going to happen," I want you to listen to this one.

🎧 The Late Bloomer Show, episode 250. Available now wherever you get your podcasts.

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→ Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist

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Today on The Late Bloomer Show, I’m coaching Dana.

Dana is a badass who’s never been in a relationship—and she came to our session asking the question so many late bloomers carry:

“Are men going to see that as a red flag?”

In this episode, we go deep and get tactical.

💎 We create her Essence-Based Preferences in real time (including the exact words she’ll use to vet potential dates)

💎 Build a clear vetting plan so she never has to waste a weekend on a “blah” date again

💎 Make over her dating profile so it reflects who she actually is: adventure traveler, joyful weirdo, emotionally aware, deeply feminist

We also talk through how to show up confidently when you feel behind, how to stop apologizing for your inexperience, and how to date like you’re not dead yet.

💥 Work with Lily:

→ Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist

→ Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook

→ Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book

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