This week’s episode dives deep into what it really means to support neurodivergent minds. Whether you're parenting a complex kid, managing your own ADHD, or trying to break the cycle of “fixing it” for everyone else, this one is for you.

Michelle and Megan reflect on Chapter 3 of The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids by Elaine Taylor-Klaus and tackle the emotional reality of the moment when you’ve “tried everything and nothing seems to work.”

Megan shares the surprising emotional growth that came from finally cleaning out her garage. (Yes, the whole thing!) with the support of a neighbor. From “deferred decisions” to letting go of past selves, she walks us through the mindset shift that made it possible. Michelle brings the parenting perspective, offering insights from conversations with Josh and the complexity of offering support without over-controlling.

Together, they explore what it means to parent ourselves, our children, and our relationships through big transitions with grace, curiosity, and a little spicy humor.

Favorite line from the episode:

“I had to build this muscle little piece by piece… which is why sometimes I get hard on Elaine Taylor-Klaus, because nothing she says is simple. But it is worth it.”

00:00 welcome and the pressure to do “the right” kind of parenting

05:00 defining success and dealing with feelings of failure

10:30 Megan’s garage cleanup breakthrough (and how it really wasn’t about the garage)

15:00 honoring relationships over tasks

23:00 relationship fatigue and letting go of control

35:00 your child is not your resume

42:00 redefining “adulting” and giving yourself time

49:00 trusting the long-term “stock market” of parenting

56:00 the importance of curiosity and repair in relationship-building

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the chaos of parenting a complex kid, or parenting yourself through the mess, this is your sign to pause, breathe, and trust the process. We’re so glad you’re here with us. Make sure to follow or subscribe on your favorite podcast app, and if you’re enjoying the show, leave us a review or rating. Doing that really helps other neurospicy folks find their way here too. And hey, what’s your version of the garage you’ve been avoiding? Share it with us on Instagram or leave a comment. Until then, stay curious, joyful, and radically accepting. 🎧💖

ADHD, complex kids, parenting, executive function, burnout, emotional regulation, relationships, radical acceptance, garage metaphor, sensory overload, letting go, adulting, redefining success, shoulds, transitions

From a messy start in temporary lodging to a full-blown neurospicy podcast, Michelle and Megan are celebrating 100 episodes of The Spicy Brain Podcast. What began as a casual sisterly experiment has evolved into two years of laughter, learning, and radically honest conversations about ADHD, emotions, burnout, masking, relationships, parenting, and healing.

In this milestone episode, they reflect on how far they’ve come both personally and professionally. Michelle talks about releasing the need to “have all the answers,” and Megan shares the unexpected confidence she's gained in learning how to embrace her ADHD identity. They revisit key concepts like executive functioning (aka "The Butler"), internal shame spirals ("The Drill Sergeant"), Pomodoro sessions ("Tomatoes"), and good old-fashioned sibling bickering over puzzles. It’s a heartfelt look back filled with listener shout-outs, behind-the-scenes memories, and a whole lot of gratitude.

This episode is both a love letter and a permission slip—for you to be exactly who you are, wherever you are in your neurodivergent journey.

Favorite line from the episode: “I am the adult I’m supposed to be.”

00:00 – Kicking off episode 100: reflections and ramblings

02:15 – Why we started this podcast and how it’s evolved

06:10 – ADHD and the emotional layers we didn’t expect

10:55 – The Great Puzzle Showdown (Michelle’s Nightmare Puzzle)

16:40 – Megan on releasing shame and gaining confidence

18:50 – Listener shout-outs and community gratitude

22:20 – Defining our Spicy Brain glossary: Butler, Drill Sergeant, Flap, Tomatoes

34:30 – Strategies we’ve loved: balance, breaks, and reframing

38:50 – Radical Acceptance… High Kick!

44:00 – What belief did we lose after 100 episodes?

47:00 – Curiosity over perfection—what parenting and podcasting taught us

54:15 – The joy of Twitch-mom-ing and finding community

58:20 – Looking ahead to the next 100 episodes

ADHD, neurodivergent podcast, radical acceptance, executive function, masking, sibling podcast, emotional regulation, ADHD strategies, humor and ADHD, women with ADHD, self-acceptance, parenting neurodivergent kids, Twitch and ADHD, burnout recovery, shame, podcast reflections, ADHD support, mental health, puzzle metaphor

Thank you for being part of this wild, wonderful ride with us. If The Spicy Brain Podcast has helped you feel seen, laughed a little louder, or shed a should or two—please follow or subscribe on your favorite podcast platform, and leave us a review! It really helps more neurospicy folks find our little corner of the internet. And if you're new here, welcome! You've got 99 other episodes waiting to be discovered.

Until next time, here’s to curiosity, joy, and a whole lot of radical acceptance… high kick!

What happens when your ADHD brain finally says yes to a big day of joy, and then crashes afterward? In this cozy episode of the Spicy Brain Podcast, Michelle and Megan unpack what it means to say yes to magic, connection, and green tasks, even when you know they’ll cost you some recovery time.

Megan shares a personal win: pushing past the urge to cancel and going whale watching with a friend, even though her body and brain were tired. Together, the sisters talk about masking, energy depletion, and what it takes to show up as your full, unedited self in a friendship. Whether you’re navigating the aftermath of a big social event or wondering why doing something joyful can still leave you feeling drained, this one’s for you.

favorite line from the episode: “I'm Not That Busy, I'm Just Super Distracted"

00:00: midnight Megan and the deadline dopamine

01:20: life is loud, transitions are hard

03:00: the urge to cancel and the cost of energy

06:40: fears about being “too much” when you’re tired

08:20: dogs, belly rubs, and vulnerability

10:40: fix-it Frank and childhood lessons

12:00: the myth of “just change yourself”

14:10: best friend culture, friendship envy, and Gen Z wisdom

17:30: matching friends to emotional bandwidth

19:00: loneliness, lost communities, and neighbor connections

24:00: postcards, connection, and remembering to follow up

26:10: the come-down after green tasks

28:30: dolphins, core strength, and physical therapy wins

If you’ve ever found yourself depleted after a joyful day, you’re not alone. Share this episode with someone who needs a reminder that doing something magical doesn’t mean you won’t still need rest afterward. And don’t forget to follow the show so you don’t miss next week’s episode—our 100th!

ADHD, green tasks, social burnout, masking, friendships, vulnerability, radical acceptance, self-care, emotional boundaries, introvert energy, community building, whale watching, neurodivergent joy