Flaw-finding can show up when emotional closeness starts to grow and a partner suddenly seems more focused on what is wrong than what is working. In this short episode, we talk about a pattern called flaw-finding and why it is often linked to avoidant attachment. It is less about your shortcomings and more about how someone creates space when connection begins to feel uncomfortable. If you have ever felt confused, criticized, or quietly pushed away, this episode offers language for an experience that can be hard to make sense of in real time.

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Have you ever connected deeply with someone in the first few days, only for them to suddenly pull away? Fearful avoidants (FAs) love deep conversations, emotional growth, and self development. But when that depth becomes real and relational, their nervous system hits its limit. In this episode, I break down why FAs bond intensely, pull away just as fast, and create that confusing 'fast connection to fast exit' cycle. I also share what you can do to avoid falling into the trap and what FAs can do to grow beyond it.

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There’s a big difference between dating from a place of fear/desperation and dating from a place of possibility/excitement. In this episode, I break down what lack VS abundance looks like in real life, and how shifting into an abundance mindset can completely change the energy you bring into dating.

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As you may be traveling to your Thanksgiving destination, let's switch it up here. While recording a recent episode, I ended with reflection questions that landed deeper than I expected, so I turned it into a standalone episode. You can use these questions as a quick reset to reconnect with yourself, to get clear about where you’re at, and how you want to show up moving forward.

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We love to label connections as either “too fast” or “too slow,” but what if the truth lives somewhere in the middle? In this episode, I break down how society talks about pacing and why the real magic comes from co-creating the rhythm together, not following a predetermined script.

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Have you ever met someone and instantly felt like you’d known them forever? No small talk. No effort. Just flow. In this episode, I share the story of a 8+ hour redeye flight where time disappeared and the conversation never stopped. The kind that reminds you what it feels like to be fully seen, heard, and in sync with another human being.

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The fearful avoidant and dismissive avoidant attachmen styles can seem similar on the surface – distant, independent, or hard to reach, but what’s happening underneath is very different. In this episode, we unpack the key differences between these two styles, why they’re often confused, and how each responds to closeness and connection. You’ll learn what drives their behaviors, what they both need to feel safe, and how to tell them apart in yourself or someone you love.

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Do you take pride in your independence but sometimes feel misunderstood for needing space? Do relationships start to feel heavy when someone gets too close? In this episode, we explore the dismissive avoidant attachment style, the quiet ways it protects you from vulnerability, and how to stay open to connection while honoring your need for autonomy.

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