When I started this podcast, my intention was to talk more about Sam's addiction and death than I have, but that was before I realized how important my focus is as I move forward with grief. If I zero in on the tragedy that I cannot change or undo, I am surrendering the valuable time I have left here, whereas If I focus on healing, knowing that I will ALWAYS carry this grief, I am developing the tools I need to make the burden of losing Sam lighter.

What we focus on is crucial to the future we create for ourselves. If we want to feel better and become stronger, we need to focus on what we can control, which is how we choose to live the rest of our lives.

Our grief of losing a son or daughter takes up tremendous amounts of energy in our lives, whether we are looking directly at it our not. When we shift our gaze forward, we are not escaping our grief, we are arming ourselves to live with it.💕

Losing a child is such a torturous journey that If we wait until we feel like moving forward into healing, some of us may never get there. This is why I believe that instead of waiting until we feel like it, we should wait only until we are capable, whether we feel like it or not.

In this episode, I talk about why we need to push ourselves into the process when we can and three specific reasons why this will benefit us in the long run.💕

When Sam died, I was surprised to notice all of my relationships were shifting. Some became closer and some more distant. At first I felt hurt and misunderstood but I have learned quite a lot in the past 33 months.

In this episode, I discuss why our relationships naturally change when we lose a child, my perspective on this shift, and how I choose to approach it. I also talk about how my family of origin has felt the pain of losing Sam and of watching my family grieve and how they have shown up for me in exactly the way I have needed them to.