What if your child inherits more of your nervous system than your advice? We pull apart projection, the subtle ways our unlived life becomes our child’s burden, and how reparenting ourselves changes the energy our kids grow up in.

We get practical about felt safety: co-regulation over control, attunement over platitudes, and why you can’t fake presence with gifts or grand gestures. Think real-world moments—missed party invites, public meltdowns, and performance pressure around sports or school—and the quiet skills that transform them: naming emotions, staying anchored, and repairing after we misstep. We also talk boundaries that protect connection, not our image; autonomy that grows authenticity; and the simple question that resets everything: why does this moment trigger me?

Along the way, we revisit Jung’s line about the “unlived life of the parent,” explore how generational trauma travels through state, and share the shift from pushing kids toward our dreams to standing ready to support theirs. The metric we use now is simple and hard: how safe do our kids feel telling us the truth when they’ve messed up? If you’re ready to trade performance parenting for presence, and fear for curiosity, you’ll find tools, language, and hope here.

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Holos Healing:
https://holoshealing.info/

Gettin Lost Is Being Found:
https://www.instagram.com/gettinlostisbeingfound?igsh=bWZrN3JndmQ0Y2pt

Guided meditation:
https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/wbf8yihnv2a8h7jjyhczw/Connecting-to-your-Authentic-Self.mp3?rlkey=4cjj06t9ltrbv044ouxotim89&e=2&st=fvfoodx6&dl=0

[00:00:00] Intro and welcome
[00:01:56] Darci's Memories: Presence and Joy
[00:06:45] Brandon's Memories: Work, Support, Accountability
[00:13:20] Becoming Young Parents and Big Emotions
[00:17:20] Projection, Reparenting, and Jung's Quote
[00:22:10] Modeling Mistakes, Regulation, and Repair
[00:26:20] Nervous System, Co‑Regulation, Felt Safety
[00:31:20] Space, Autonomy, and The Pendulum
[00:36:00] Sports, Expectations, and Letting Kids Lead
[00:40:10] Attunement vs Misattunement in Daily Life
[00:44:20] Safety, Being Seen, and Family Repair

What if depression isn't a disorder at all, but rather your authentic self rebelling against inauthentic living?

In this deeply personal episode, we flip the script on a subject that has profoundly impacted our lives. Brandon shares his journey through the darkness of depression, from the shame that initially prevented him from seeking help to the over-medicalization that left him feeling less pain but also less alive. Meanwhile, Darci offers a revolutionary perspective through a nervous system lens – explaining how depression serves as a protective mechanism when your body has exhausted its energy reserves.

We explore the three categories of depression, with special focus on intrapsychic depression – that disconnection from self which stems from suppressed emotions and unprocessed trauma. Society has normalized achievement over authenticity, independence over connection, and productivity over presence, creating the perfect conditions for what therapists call "functional freeze" or "masked depression" – maintaining high performance while feeling dead inside.

Ready to see depression through a different lens? Listen now and discover how your darkest moments might actually be calling you home to yourself.

Holos Healing:
https://holoshealing.info/

Gettin Lost Is Being Found:
https://www.instagram.com/gettinlostisbeingfound?igsh=bWZrN3JndmQ0Y2pt

Guided meditation:
https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/wbf8yihnv2a8h7jjyhczw/Connecting-to-your-Authentic-Self.mp3?rlkey=4cjj06t9ltrbv044ouxotim89&e=2&st=fvfoodx6&dl=0

[00:00:00] Reframing Depression: Not a Disorder
[00:08:40] Our Personal Experiences with Depression
[00:14:25] The Medical Approach: Medication Limitations
[00:23:30] Depression as a Call to Consciousness
[00:33:20] Healing Depression: Body-Based Approaches
[00:50:00] Pleasure, Play, and Expression as Medicine
[01:16:45] Supporting a Partner Through Depression

Lexi Bowler shares her journey of building Bowler Aesthetics into a thriving business while discovering that embracing feminine leadership leads to greater success and personal fulfillment.

• Started with a desire to help clear her own acne, then expanded into permanent makeup and product development
• Built the "Bowler Sisterhood" by openly sharing techniques in an industry that kept secrets
• Created innovative products including specialized microblading tools and healing solutions
• Experienced burnout after seven years of operating predominantly from masculine energy
• Pregnancy forced her to slow down, creating space for more feminine approaches to business
• Found that creating boundaries around work time improved both business and family life
• Practices box breathing and movement to manage anxiety when it arises
• Discovered that reconnecting with her body through stretching released years of stored tension
• Operates from "harmony" rather than perfect balance between work and family
• Now prioritizes sacred morning routines, leaving work by 4pm, and keeping weekends for family
• Business has grown more effectively since embracing feminine energy and slowing down

Holos Healing:
https://holoshealing.info/

Gettin Lost Is Being Found:
https://www.instagram.com/gettinlostisbeingfound?igsh=bWZrN3JndmQ0Y2pt

Guided meditation:
https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/wbf8yihnv2a8h7jjyhczw/Connecting-to-your-Authentic-Self.mp3?rlkey=4cjj06t9ltrbv044ouxotim89&e=2&st=fvfoodx6&dl=0

[00:00:00] Introduction to Lexi Bowler's Journey
[00:09:53] Building Bowler Aesthetics from Scratch
[00:16:15] Product Innovation and Community Building
[00:25:40] Balancing Work and Family Life
[00:34:32] From Masculine Hustle to Feminine Flow
[00:47:42] Body Awareness and Business Growth
[00:59:08] Authenticity as a Business Superpower
[01:07:30] Final Wisdom and Finding Harmony