You've had great sex that left you feeling nothing.

You've had a man who did everything right, and woken up emptier than before. You told yourself it was him. You moved on. You tried again. Same result, different man.

It was never him. And it was never the act of intimacy. It was the absence of everything that needed to come first.

Vanilla sex has nothing to do with what's happening in the bedroom. It's sex without roots. Sex without time. Sex without knowing someone, and being known back. And if you've been cycling through men wondering why nothing ever feels like enough, this episode is going to name something you've felt but never quite had the words for.

I recorded this 48 hours after a real epiphany hit me mid-dating: live, unfiltered, and straight from Bali. I tell you the full story of the man I've been dating, the padel court where it started, the wine cellar date, the comedy show, the cup of tea that wasn't just a cup of tea, and the moment I caught myself about to do the exact thing I tell every woman not to do.

Because the truth is: if you're using sex to try to feel something, no man will ever be able to give you what you're actually looking for. Time and time again you will be setting you and him up to fail. And the sooner we name that, the sooner everything changes.

Raw, real, and recorded live in Bali two days after the epiphany hit. You're welcome.

WHAT WE GET INTO

— What vanilla sex actually is, and why it has nothing to do with the bedroom

— Why the f*ck and chuck cycle is grief in disguise, not cruelty

— The Healthy Man Starter Pack: how to tell if it's real or just an act

— Why making him wait isn't about games, it's about you finding out the truth

— The Bali dating story unfolding right now, live revelations and completely unfiltered

TIMESTAMPS

00:00: What vanilla sex actually is, and what it has nothing to do with

01:20: Sex without roots: why connection can't be rushed into being

07:25: The f*ck and chuck cycle isn't cruelty, it's grief

22:17: The Healthy Man Starter Pack, how to know if it's real or an act

29:36: Why dating too fast is setting you up to feel nothing

54:05: Why no man will ever be able to give you what you're actually looking for

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He was a little boy. You were the woman who paid for it.

You didn't fall in love with a man. You fell in love with a seven year old who hadn't grieved his childhood yet.

And until he does, he will sabotage every relationship that gets close enough to matter.

Ryan Moresby-White works with hundreds of men, fathers, CEOs, men in their 70s, helping them do the one thing society never taught them: grieve. He's built a multi-million dollar company doing it. And he's one of the most embodied, present men I've ever sat across from.

In this episode, Ryan gets completely honest about the relationship he lost because of his own unresolved wounds, the four hours he spent on a bathroom floor in Bali vomiting after she left, and the nine months on the grass on the Sunshine Coast that changed everything.

This is the episode I made for the women in my world who are tired of carrying men who don't know they're still boys. And it's for the men who are ready to find out.

What we get into:

• Why most men are emotionally operating as 7-year-olds, and what to do about it

• The real reason men sabotage relationships (it has nothing to do with you)

• The post-breakup level up, and the two very different paths it leads to

• How to support a man on his healing journey without becoming his mother

• What a truly safe man looks like, and why he can feel so confronting

Timestamps:

00:00: Most men are little boys walking around in adult bodies

01:15: What a rite of passage actually is, and why men don't get one anymore

06:12: Why women become the unintentional initiators for uninitiated men

11:03: The tree ring analogy: you're not dating one man, you're dating all of him

26:47: Ryan ends a year-long relationship, and shares why live on air

37:24: The bathroom floor in Bali: 4 hours of vomiting after she left

43:08: The post-breakup level up, two paths, two very different men

57:51: What women can do to actually support a man on his healing journey

Find Ryan: @@ryanmoresbywhite) (https://www.instagram.com/ryanmoresbywhite/) on Instagram and YouTube

Connect with me on socials by saying hi over on IG: @rebecca.antonucci (http://www.instagram.com/rebecca.antonucci)

You felt the spark. The chemistry was undeniable. You thought that feeling meant it was real.

What if it didn't?

Adam Roa is a poet, coach, and one of the most honest voices on love alive right now. His poem "You Are Who You've Been Looking For" got 40 million views in 48 hours, and instead of feeling celebrated, he fell into one of the darkest periods of his life. He's spent decades studying love from every angle: scientific, spiritual, poetic, personal. And what he's found might change the way you read your own relationships.

This conversation goes deep. We talk about why fireworks are often trauma bonds in disguise, what mature love actually feels like in your body, and why the men in your life aren't moving on pain-free, they're just moving on differently. Adam also opens up about his new book Crazy Love, the journal entries he never planned to share, and the night he slept with someone he didn't want to, and wept about it the next morning.

This is one of those episodes you'll come back to.

What we get into:

• Why the chemistry you're chasing might be a trauma bond, not love

• Fireworks vs. mature love, and how to reset your body's barometer

• What surrendering to love actually looks like (hint: it keeps hurting)

• How to support your man when he goes quiet, without making it about you

• Why your ex moving on fast doesn't mean he didn't care

Timestamps:

00:00: Fireworks aren't the indicator of a healthy relationship

01:15: What surrendering to love really means, and why it never stops

04:23: Why most fireworks are actually trauma bonds in disguise

09:01: The ten year relationship that taught him nothing, until it ended

10:18: Suicidal ideation, depression, and what finally turned the page

14:26: Self-love isn't a yes or no, it's a relationship with yourself

23:10: Why nothing grows without resistance (including you)

55:32: How to support a man who goes quiet without making it about you

Find Adam: @adam.roa on Instagram and YouTube

Get his book Crazy Love and access exclusive events at www.adamroa.com

Connect with me on socials by saying hi over on IG: @rebecca.antonucci (http://www.instagram.com/rebecca.antonucci)