What really happens when you open up your marriage?

This week on No Filter, Kate Langbroek sits down with writer Deepa Paul, whose book Ask Me How It Works chronicles the decade she has spent in an open marriage with her husband, Marcus. While the conversation around open relationships has been everywhere lately, Deepa’s story offers a different perspective. For her, non-monogamy didn’t break her marriage. It reshaped it.

Deepa was raised in the Philippines, where divorce is still illegal and the expectation for women is clear: marry once, stay devoted, stay desirable, stay monogamous. But after moving to Amsterdam with her husband, Deepa discovered a version of herself she’d never had permission to explore. One that included desire, autonomy, and eventually, a boyfriend she also loves deeply.

In this candid conversation, Deepa answers the questions so many people have about open marriage but rarely ask out loud:
How does it work? How do you handle jealousy? What happens when one partner gets more attention? How do you parent inside a non-traditional structure? And what do you do when you fall in love with someone else?

You can follow Deepa Paul here.

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Guest: Deepa Paul

Host: Kate Langbroek

Executive Producer: Naima Brown

Senior Producer: Bree Player

Audio Producer: Tina Matolov

Video Producer: Josh Green

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Turia Pitt has been called inspiring, extraordinary and resilient, but her new book is about something far less shiny: selfishness.

After surviving the fire that changed her life, Turia built a career as an author, speaker and endurance athlete. From the outside, she looked unstoppable. Inside, she was exhausted, overwhelmed and edging towards a breakdown she didn’t see coming.

In this conversation, Turia opens up to Kate about the moment she realised she needed help, how burnout crept into her life without her noticing, and why putting everyone else first was slowly destroying her. She talks honestly about motherhood, boundaries, the pressure to be grateful, and the small habits that pushed her to the brink.

This is a side of Turia Pitt you haven’t heard before. It’s thoughtful, surprising and full of the kind of honesty that makes you rethink your own life.

Turia Pitt’s new book, Selfish, is out now.

You can follow Turia Pitt here.

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Host: Kate Langbroek

Executive Producer: Naima Brown

Senior Producer: Bree Player

Audio Producer: Tina Matolov

Video Producer: Josh Green

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After five miscarriages, Chloe Fisher had almost given up hope of becoming a mother.

Behind the glamorous life she shares with her husband, DJ and producer Paul Fisher, was a story of heartbreak, IVF and years of quiet grief that few people ever saw. In this deeply emotional conversation, Chloe sits down with Kate Langbroek to talk about the love that carried her through unimaginable loss, the friendship that helped her heal, and the miracle that changed everything.

She opens up about the physical and emotional toll of infertility, the painful things people say when they don’t know what else to say, and how her bond with Ellidy Pullin—forged through shared grief—became one of the great loves of her life. Chloe also reflects on the moment she finally held her daughter Bobbi, the peace that followed years of heartbreak, and the joy of now being pregnant again.

Her story is one of love, resilience and an unshakable belief that even after everything, hope can return.

You can follow Chloe Fisher here.

If you or someone you love has experienced miscarriage or fertility loss, you can find support through The Pink Elephants Support Network.

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Guest: Chloe Fisher

Host: Kate Langbroek

Executive Producer: Naima Brown

Senior Producer: Bree Player

Audio Producer: Tina Matolov

Video Producer: Josh Green

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